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Join the sassy and smart, Deborah Kagan, as she brings you thought provoking, juicy conversations that will make you laugh, expand your consciousness and even bring your sexy back. Each episode peels back the layers on what it means to live deeply connected to your spirit AND your sex. The end result leaves you inspired, informed and ready to rock your mojo.

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Join the sassy and smart, Deborah Kagan, as she brings you thought provoking, juicy conversations that will make you laugh, expand your consciousness and even bring your sexy back. Each episode peels back the layers on what it means to live deeply connected to your spirit AND your sex. The end result leaves you inspired, informed and ready to rock your mojo.

Click subscribe and #getundressed with us.
Want more -> http://www.therealundressed.com

    038.August McLaughlin: Life Changing Orgasms + Sexual Healing

    038.August McLaughlin: Life Changing Orgasms + Sexual Healing

    August McLaughlin is a nationally-recognized health and sexuality writer, media personality  and host and creator of Girl Boner® and Girl B***r Radio. Her articles have appeared in Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, HuffPost and more. her expertise has been featured in a range of  media outlets, including O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape, Elite Daily and Bustle. Known for melding personal passion, artistry and activism, August uses her skills as a public speaker and writer to encourage others to embrace their bodies, sexuality and selves, making way for fuller, more authentic lives. 
     
    In this episode we speak about everything from:
    ~ our experience with life changing orgasms
    ~ critical reason why self pleasure is a must
    ~ why embracing your sexuality is as important as eating a healthy diet
    ~ a profound connection between eating disorders and sexual health
    ~ the process of learning to love + respect your body
    ~ the unusual benefits from connecting with your anger
    ~ the surprising byproduct of embracing your sexuality
    ~ experiencing pleasure after trauma
    ~ and much more!
     
    Connect with August McLaughlin
    Website |        https://augustmclaughlin.com
    Girl B***r Radio | https://apple.co/2SH11zP
     
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    MOJO MEMBERSHIP
    What do you think of when you hear the words:
    Confidence Feminine radiance Enthusiasm Sensuality Intuition Gratitude Ease  Joy Do you feel inspired? Or disconnected?
    Do you think yes! I’d like all of that and then some?
    Well, I’ve got good news for you. There’s something so simple waiting for you right now. It’s online and accessible with one simple click. And it’s all yours FOR LIFE, IF you choose to take advantage of it.
    Curious? Get all the deets here:
    www.mojomembership.com
     
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    Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mojorecoveryspecialist/
     
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    037.How To Recognize Your Personal Development

    037.How To Recognize Your Personal Development

    Welcome to Truth + Tequila!
    These episodes are dedicated to answering any and all questions you have navigating the areas of spirit, sex and of course, igniting your mojo.
    This week’s question comes from Becca, who says:
    I see myself in a recurrent situation. It comes from me being loyal to a fault. I feel like there is something not functioning right in my behavior because I knew from some news I got a least six months ago that I was not feeling good about my relationship with someone that I’ve known for a long time. This is a work relationship. However, I still continued on in the work relationship and all along I’ve been frustrated. I expressed my frustration and so on. But yet, did I? So, I mean, how long does it take to step away from something that you know isn’t right for you? The level of mindfuck seems to take a really long time and it's so hard to separate. PS. I'm not even talking about the marriage that lasted 10 years more than it should, that's a different story. SO, what's it what is my problem? Or as you say, the kink in me. This is insane.
    So first of all, it's not insane. Ok. Love yourself. like really, truly, madly, deeply love yourself first. Because your question is coming from there's something wrong with you and there's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of us. Nothing. Your question could be asked by many people out here.
    You simply bought into the lie that you’re the problem or that the problem lies within you. You bought into the bunk stories and lies. There's nothing wrong. And what is beautiful is you have an awareness of where you are denying the deeper truth within yourself.
    You're actually clear. You're like, OK, I got this message within approx. 6 months ago. Well, to me, this sounds like it’s all about an old story. And, without having all the details, the thing that stands out is: Six months. Right. Six months went by.
    You know, previously in your life of similar experiences, were they longer than six months before taking an action or having an awareness? My guess is yes based on the marriage comment.
    So, consider this. Consider that six months is big progress. And really, I want to encourage you and everybody here to recognize this. I’d love to give everybody some kind of a pill where you can recognize all of your wins, when it comes to your personal development and when it comes to this type of growth, it's really this inner growth. It's insidious because you are not trained to look for the wins in this way. In micro movements. And yet these are the ways that your life truly changes.
    And when I say life, I mean your careers, your relationships, your health, your mental well-being. So the fact that you had only six months before asking for help or taking an action is like a big fucking deal (vs. the previous amounts of time, like one year or two or 10).
    So Number one: celebrate that.
    Number two: it's not about well, fuck, You’re jumping into the pattern again. Now what can happen is this six months can potentially turn into six days the next time you notice the pattern. Which could then potentially go into a more immediate response or within 24 hours of going, oh, right, I'm feeling this thing/person/experience is not right for me. And then you move on.
    You're in this forward progression and that first has to be acknowledged, because if you gloss over that, it's when you're training a dog, Right. If you don't treat the dog enough, when it does the good stuff, it's not necessary to keep doing the good stuff. And it's the same thing with the relationship with yourself.
    I think for you right now, it's critical to celebrate the crap out of the fact that it's only been six months. And as you move forward, allow yourself to listen and then respond from your body. Your body is the ORACLE that holds all the truth and knows the exact next st

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    036.Wanda Marie: Your Soul’s Journey + Opening to Grace

    036.Wanda Marie: Your Soul’s Journey + Opening to Grace

    Wanda Marie is a self-made woman with an entrepreneurial spirit. She came from a broken home enduring continuous abuse growing up. This uncovered her mission, helping women heal their lives and live their dreams, regardless of their history or, “herstory.” She’s a Certified Master Coach with a background in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Clinical Hypnotherapy. She started out over 25 years ago as a Spiritual Counselor and went on to build a successful coaching practice. Author of three books, the latest is “LadyUp: A Woman’s Guide to Self-Defined Grace and Fearless Love.”
    In this episode we speak about everything from:
    ~ what Wanda means when she says, she ‘owns’ the universe and how this can help you manifest the life you desire
    ~ being in grace and how that creates everything you need right now
    ~ what it means to step into your “Queen/King” self
    ~ why finding your own answers is the ultimate power
    ~ the importance of being selfish (it’s not what you think)
    ~ discerning between your personality and soul
    ~ why you need to forget about the law of attraction
    ~ and much more!
     
    Connect with Wanda Marie
    Website |    www.coachwandamarie.com
    https://ladyupnetwork.com/
    Facebook |   https://www.facebook.com/coachwandamarie
     
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    Turn your fear into Faith.
    Your Stress into Serenity.
    Your Anxiety into Assurance.
    Your Misfortune into Mojo.
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    Website | http://therealundressed.com/
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    Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mojorecoveryspecialist/
     
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    • 58 min
    035.Self Love 101

    035.Self Love 101

    Welcome to Truth + Tequila!
    These episodes are dedicated to answering any and all questions you have navigating the areas of spirit, sex and of course, igniting your mojo.
    This week’s question comes from Jill, who says:
    Can you talk about the self love thing? I think it’s really hard. How do you do it?
    This is a great topic and I’m glad you asked about it. It speaks to the first of the four pillars of MOJO—mindset.
    M is about mindset and one of the first things you mention in your question is: you think the self love thing is really hard. At the moment, that's your story. It's hard. Well, here's the thing, Jill. It's hard if YOU say so.
    Let's go back to square one and foundation. You first catch yourself. You say, okay. I just said it's hard. No problem. Caught that and canceling that. That's just old programming. And then, you can say yourself. Okay.
    It's gonna be hard if I say so. And you know what? Here’s a great pivot. You could say right now, it feels challenging. That's accurate. OK, because right now it sounds like it feels really challenging for you—that’s truth, totally accurate. Self love in and of itself isn’t hard. It simply IS.
    So, our thoughts are things that become words that we speak in. The words we speak will then become our life, literally. All right. So that's pillar number one of mojo, Mindset.
    So getting back to the self-love. Shift your perspective and intention to creating little acts every everyday. Start your day with gratitude. Speak out loud or write down three things you’re grateful for. Personally, before I ever get fully awake, I say ‘thank you’. Thank you. For another day here. For being alive. For this body and biology that’s keeping me going through the night and into a new day.
    And then when you're doing your morning, moisturizer or make up or brushing your teeth, anything in front of a mirror, take a moment while doing it and really look at yourself. Look into your eyes and say, I love you.
    I love you. For real, but truly, look at yourself.
    Lesson number 8 in my book, Find Me Spot, is an eye gazing exercise with yourself. It’s there for you to really look at yourself because guess what, this body is a rental vehicle. It’s not actually YOU. But you get tricked into thinking it’s you. I’m inviting you to look beyond the rental vehicle to the you that's actually there, we rarely take the time to connect to that.
    Your eyes, windows of the soul, right, when you actually look at yourself like beyond the physical flesh of yourself and you really look at yourself in the eye, you are going to see something that is going to make you - hopefully weep. Because that part of yourself is so pure and magnificent. And you can't help but love yourself when you when you look at yourself that way.
    So, in addition to Gratitude, which creates massive seismic shifts in your life on all levels…And when you can begin to SEE yourself, the self love will become a new normal.
    I also talk about flirting with yourself—a lot. Because that flirt feeling can amp your mojo and level of self love rapidly. Catch yourself in the mirror and say, hey baby you look fine. OR damn, you’re one delicious being. Hey gorgeous. Whatever flirt feels good to you, do that!
    Celebrate your wins and remember to first and foremost, be kind to yourself. Baby steps are steps – take yours every day and you’ll be a self lovin’ mojo mama faster than you can listen to every episode of The Real Undressed podcast!
    As always, these episodes are FOR YOU.
    And they are driven by your needs and desires to discover YOUR truth.
    To have your question considered for an upcoming Truth + Tequila episode,
    Go to therealundressed.com
    And click submit your Q on the Truth + Tequila image.
    The Real Undressed is here to inspire you to get free…in whatever way, shape or form that takes.
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    034.Reid Mihalko: Dating Your Species + Discovering Your Sexual Pleasures

    034.Reid Mihalko: Dating Your Species + Discovering Your Sexual Pleasures

    Sex and relationship geek Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information. 
    In early 2018, some very brave people came forward during #MeToo sharing harms that Reid had caused them. Reid stepped down from teaching and initiated a restorative justice-based accountability process to address his misconduct and make amends if and where possible. The formal, year-long process along with Reid’s apology and resources were shared publicly and can be found at TinyURL.com/reidaccountability. Going forward, Reid’s projects and appearances will include pointing people towards resources and experts on restorative and transformative justice-based accountability processes.
    Reid teaches internationally, running workshops and speaking on communication skills, alternative relationship styles, and shame-free sexuality. Whether online, on stage, or at a college or university, Reid shares skills and concepts designed to help everyone be the change they want to see in the bedroom.
    Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 50,000 people from all over the globe. He has appeared in media such as Netflix’ Chelsea Does... with Chelsea Handler, Oprah's Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil's The Doctors on CBS, Bravo's Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.
    Reid is also founder of Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sex Geek Conservatory, and Sex Geek School for Gifted Sex Geeks, which help sex educators learn valuable business skills that allow them to reach more people with greater ease, transform more lives, and make a better living as sexperts.
     
    In this episode we speak about everything from:
    ~ what dating your species means and why it creates better connections
    ~ how the overachiever mindset might be ruining your sex life
    ~ ways to discover your turn ons and sexual exploration
    ~ why ‘angry yoga’ can free you up to be powerfully self-expressed (in and out of the bedroom)
    ~ safe ways to move through trauma stored in the body
    ~ the value of being seen and witnessed in all aspects of sexuality and life
    ~ why you must lean into your shame to experience deep pleasure
    ~ and much more!
     
    Connect with Reid Mihalko
    Website |    ReidAboutSex.com
    Social | @ReidAboutSex across the following… 
    Twitter 
    Facebook 
    Instagram
    YouTube 
     
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    FREE GUIDED BREATH TECHNIQUE
    Turn your fear into Faith.
    Your Stress into Serenity.
    Your Anxiety into Assurance.
    Your Misfortune into Mojo.
    www.therealundressed.com/breathe
     
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    Connect with Deborah
    Website | http://therealundressed.com/
    Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/therealundressed/
      https://www.instagram.com/deborahkagan/
    Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mojorecoveryspecialist/
     
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    • 1 hr 15 min
    033.Reclaiming Confidence

    033.Reclaiming Confidence

    Welcome to Truth + Tequila!
    These episodes are dedicated to answering any and all questions you have navigating the areas of spirit, sex and of course, igniting your mojo.
    This week’s question comes from Stacey, who says:
    I'm having an issue with confidence. And I don't know what I want to say about it, except that I'm having an issue with it. I'm in the film business (producing + directing) and I have all these stories in my head that I'm certain age and I did this beautiful film recently but coming out of that film into the world again has been tough. I have the stories of, I'm getting out there, I'm this  older age. But, I didn't win the important film festival. I didn't get this or that. Ugh. Lots of disempowering thoughts. I really need some confidence. Please help.
    Thanks Stacey. Right off the bat I’m going to say I never, ever b******t anybody. Call it part being a New Yorker, part being an Aries and plain ‘ol just like to be a truth teller. We're not gonna solve this entire question in this one episode. And, The first thing that I want to say is know that the majority of women over the last two decades who have worked with me came because of the confidence issue. That's ultimately how I support women. In getting your mojo back.
    Now, there's something that I call the Kinky Life. And it's not like that Kinky life. But it's important to mention here because it's going to give you the perspective and the foundation for this issue. I'm starting here because it plants the seed that starts to unravel some things to hopefully give you some freedom.
    Remember, everything is energy. Including your experiences in life. And Every single thing that you've gone through in your life is layered in your body. The wonderful ones, the not so wonderful ones and everything in between. The thing is, the not so wonderful ones, if they are not dealt with and dealt with almost immediately, which for all of us they really weren't OK. What happens is that energy gets hardened and calcified and creates a kink in your mojo flow.
    Now mojo is your life force. It's your energy. And it moves IN you through something called meridians. Just think about them like  freeways moving traffic. Meridians are the energetic freeways in your body. So what's happening is your natural mojo is attempting to flow through you. But then it bumps up against this kink in your system. It’s a neurobiological kink. And in younger years, it was a little more malleable because you haven't lived as much. But depending on the level and the size of the original incident that caused the kink, can determine how solidified it is within you.
    Your mojo was trying to get through and still is, but it hits the kink and maybe a little bit gets through. But guess what? It's going through the lens of that kink and what happens?
    What's happening is your natural mojo, which has its pure desires and its pure confidence is sifting through this lens. Now, the mojo is a little wobbly. So as a filmmaker, you can get this analogy, the kink is like a prism, right. And it's going to change the vision of this original light source on the other side of it. As it passes through the ‘lens’, it gets distorted. Well, what happens when the mojo gets distorted out there? It's going and moving and  vibrating. And it's going to find its likeness, which is why you'll hear people say, I don't fucking understand. Why do I keep getting the same thing over and over again? Why do I keep attracting the same kind of partner which is not the kind of partner I really want? Or why do I keep attracting the same kind of stupid as job blah blah, blah, blah, blah? Right. It's because of that kink that your mojo is moving through.
    Now the good news is you can totally smooth out your kinks. And again, it takes practice and it just takes repetition. And this is why the mojo tools have been developed. B

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