Order of Man

Ryan Michler

We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.

  1. 3 hr ago

    BRETT BARTHOLEMEW | The Flawed Leader Advantage... And How to Make it Work for You

    Most of what passes for leadership advice today is polish. You say the right things, avoid conflict, perform confidence until you believe it yourself. This episode is about the opposite. We're talking about what happens when you stop performing and start operating: how to build relationships that are actually real instead of transactional, how to handle conflict without flinching or blowing it up, and why the most effective leaders aren't the cleanest; they're the ones willing to own their flaws and use them. We get into the idea of the "antihero." He's not a villain, not a saint, but someone pragmatic enough to do what the moment requires instead of what looks good on camera. We talk about credibility versus performative influence, why so much content today is loud but hollow, and how the stories we tell ourselves (culturally and individually), shape whether we actually grow or just look like we are. If you're tired of leadership advice that sounds good and does nothing, this one's for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Power of Real Relationships 05:44 - Why Transactional Relationships Destroy Trust 07:16 - How to Handle Conflict Like an Adult 10:50 - There Is No Magical Phrase for Communication 12:45 - The Problem With Contrarian Content 16:55 - The Anti-Hero Advantage 21:41 - Why "Regular Guys" Don't Always Get Heard 25:26 - Pragmatism, Influence and Social Capital 28:50 - Understanding Your Conflict Archetype 33:30 - Integrating Your Dark Side 39:14 - Do the Ends Justify the Means? 44:05 - Why You Don't Have to Be Liked 46:17 - Dealing With Internal and External Conflict 50:17 - Why Culture Has Replaced Self-Development 53:55 - The Truth Just Isn't Sexy 55:53 - The Five Skills Everyone Needs 59:35 - The Value of Admitting Your Own Ignorance 01:03:00 - Learning to Challenge Your Own Ideas 01:04:00 - When Communication Goes Wrong and What to Learn From It   Order Ryan's latest book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316   Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready. https://orderofman.link/battle-ready   Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-app   Support the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise: https://orderofman.link/support-the-mission   Connect with us on the socials: Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagram Facebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-page Twitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryan   Join the Order of Man Facebook group: https://orderofman.link/facebook-group

    BRETT BARTHOLEMEW | The Flawed Leader Advantage... And How to Make it Work for You

  2. 4 days ago

    Why Culture Loves to Hate Men | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles the cultural double standard between misogyny and misandry. While modern discourse frequently condemns the hatred of women, systemic contempt toward men - misandry - is often ignored or dismissed as simple individual preference.  Ryan breaks down the etymology of these terms and addresses critical disparities facing men today, including family court bias, false accusations, workforce declines, and the alarming male suicide rate. Moving beyond victimhood narratives, he distinguishes raw masculinity from true manliness, demonstrating how masculine traits are not inherently toxic but require proper direction. Tune in to understand why society must evaluate both sides of the aisle to cultivate genuine accountability, strength, and human flourishing. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Defining Misogyny vs. Misandry 02:26 - The Double Standard in Cultural Discourse 04:46 - Etymology and the Power of Words 09:40 - Custody Bias and Courtroom Discouragement 10:45 - The Impact of False Accusations 12:01 - Labor Force Declines and Biological Aptitude 14:30 - The Male Suicide Epidemic and Empathy Gaps 15:45 - Rejecting the Victimhood Scoreboard 18:56 - Masculinity vs. Manliness: Harnessing Raw Power 23:18 - Stop Neutering Young Men 25:21 - Taking Sovereignty Over Your Worth   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    Why Culture Loves to Hate Men | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

  3. 6 days ago

    Failure to Launch, Producing More Than You Consume, and Mentoring Young Men | ASK ME ANYTHING

    Ryan Michler is joined by Alan Placer for this week's Ask Me Anything, tackling eight questions about fatherhood, masculinity, family, legacy, grief, mentorship, co-parenting, and business. They discuss when helping an adult child becomes enabling, what it means to be a real man, showing up for a parent with dementia, and navigating a child's relationship with a good stepfather. They also explore letting go of an inherited business legacy, dealing with infertility, becoming a mentor before you feel ready, and the hidden cost of being constantly available to your business. Along the way, Ryan and Alan return to a common theme: responsibility, boundaries, progress, and choosing to show up as the kind of man you want to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Opening & Alan Placer Joins the AMA 01:26 - The Lindsay Clancy Trial & Personal Responsibility 09:26 - Supporting an Adult Child Without Enabling Him 17:01 - What Makes a Real Man? 24:36 - Showing Up for a Parent With Dementia 35:08 - Co-Parenting With a Good Stepfather 43:28 - Letting Go of a Legacy Your Child Didn't Choose 49:01 - Carrying the Grief of Infertility 56:18 - What Qualifies a Man to Be a Mentor? 1:02:16 - The Hidden Cost of Always Being Available 1:10:13 - Wrapping Up With Alan Placer   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    Failure to Launch, Producing More Than You Consume, and Mentoring Young Men | ASK ME ANYTHING

  4. 8 Sept

    BRENT OLIVER | You Are The Master Of Your Fate

    Most men will never come close to the kind of suffering Brent Oliver has lived through. And, that's exactly why this conversation matters. Today we're talking about the difference between a man who lets his circumstances define him and a man who decides, moment by moment, that he's still the one in control. You're going to hear what it actually looks like to rebuild a body and a mind from nothing, and why the story you tell yourself about your pain determines whether it makes you dangerous or makes you soft. This episode is about the strength to overcome the worst moments of your life and the idea that these moments aren't happening to you, they're shaping you into either a weapon or a victim. Brent breaks down why he refused to let anyone see weakness, why he refuses pain medication to this day, and why "effort equals outcome" isn't a slogan for him; it's the only reason he's alive. If you've ever used your circumstances as an excuse to coast, this conversation is going to make that a lot harder to do. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 01:04 - Connecting with Ryan 03:58 - The Tragic 1991 Motorcycle Accident 05:59 - The "N of 1" Medical Study 10:12 - Understanding Incomplete Quadriplegia 12:30 - Relearning Muscle Control & Function 15:08 - Rejecting Prognoses & Forging the Mind 16:49 - A Turning Point Night in the Hospital 21:15 - Victim Mentality vs. Becoming a Good Weapon 22:15 - True Strength & Modern Vulnerability 27:26 - Overcoming the Fear of Being a Burden 31:22 - What Separates Warriors from Victims 36:21 - Choosing Mindset Over Pain Medication 38:21 - Dealing with CRPS & Severe Phantom Pain 39:42 - Mind Control, Focus, and Detachment Techniques 46:14 - Finding a Path Forward Through the Outdoors 49:55 - Perspectives on Dark Moments & Hope 55:33 - Advocating for Outdoor Accessibility and the Disabled Community 01:04:33 - How the Artificial Larynx Works 01:07:17 - Brent Oliver Foundation & Closing Thoughts  Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

  5. 4 Sept

    The Cost of Rescuing Others | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Are you stepping in to fix everyone else's problems at the expense of your own mission, household, and peace of mind? In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler unpacks the Karpman Drama Triangle—a psychological pattern where men rotate between the roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer.  Ryan reveals why rescuing often stems from ego rather than love, and how stripping people of natural consequences cripples their growth. Learn how to transition into the Empowerment Triangle by practicing true vulnerability, setting clear assertive boundaries, and offering care that builds capability rather than dependency. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The High Cost of Rescuing Others 01:35 - The Karpman Drama Triangle Explained 01:50 - Role 1: The Powerless Victim 02:22 - Role 2: The Controlling Persecutor 03:20 - Role 3: The Overreaching Rescuer 07:12 - Cycling Between Roles & Covert Contracts 11:45 - Why Consequences Are Essential for Growth 16:26 - Introducing the Empowerment Triangle 18:29 - True Vulnerability vs. Making Excuses 20:47 - Assertiveness and Setting Boundaries 23:07 - When Rescuing Is Actually Appropriate 25:27 - Weekly Challenge & War Room Announcement    Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    The Cost of Rescuing Others | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

  6. 2 Sept

    Identity After Job Loss, Raising a Daughter, and Overcoming Anger Issues | ASK ME ANYTHING

    This week's Ask Me Anything explores the challenges men face when life tests their identity, discipline and relationships. Ryan and Kipp discuss balancing fitness with family, staying sober, managing anger, rebuilding identity after losing a career, navigating divorce and fatherhood, reconnecting with the outdoors, and defining a meaningful legacy. Along the way, they emphasize personal responsibility, healthy boundaries, reflection, identity, and developing the skills and values that endure beyond circumstances. They also share practical strategies for handling temptation, anger and conflict, while highlighting the importance of brotherhood, challenge and time away from the noise of everyday life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Jiu-Jitsu Camp and the Importance of Brotherhood 02:03 - Imposter Syndrome, Vulnerability and Earning Your Place 06:34 - Fitness, Marriage and Being Present as a Father 12:56 - Staying Consistent After Quitting Alcohol 19:14 - Getting Control of Anger 30:10 - Identity Beyond Your Career 37:01 - Divorce, Resentment and Protecting Your Kids 40:20 - Why Men Are Drawn to the Outdoors 46:33 - What Legacy Really Means 49:58 - Iron Council and the Upcoming War Room   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    Identity After Job Loss, Raising a Daughter, and Overcoming Anger Issues | ASK ME ANYTHING

  7. 1 Sept

    SATHIYA SAM | How Porn is Destroying Minds, Marriages, and Men

    Pornography addiction isn't a willpower problem. It's a brain problem and, understanding the mechanics changes everything about how you fight it. Today, we go deep into the neuroscience: what edging actually does to your reward system, why desensitization and hypo-frontality reshape how your brain processes stress and pleasure, and why getting exactly what you want can leave you more depressed than before you started. We also unpack what "Rat Park" study reveals about addiction and isolation, and why the opposite of sobriety isn't willpower; it's connection. My guest, Sathiya Sam, and I go beyond the behavior to the coping mechanism underneath it, what porn is really substituting for, what predicts who struggles with it, and why quitting cold turkey rarely works without addressing the root. You'll learn the real skills required to overcome it, why a satisfied heart rarely wanders, and how to build an identity that doesn't need to prove itself through control or escape. If you've ever wondered what's actually happening in your brain when you engage — or how to build something stronger in its place — this episode gives you the science and the path forward. Contact Sathiya Sam: www.thelastrelapsebook.com www.deepcleancoaching.com/innercircle SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and AI's Impact on Pornography 03:20 - Emotional Connection and AI Sex Bots 05:39 - Dopamine, Variable Returns, and Edging 08:00 - Supernormal Stimuli and Accessibility 10:32 - Meeting Psychological Needs vs. Physical Drive 14:12 - The Rat Park Experiment & Connection vs. Addiction 18:16 - Meaninglessness as the Primary Driver of Vice 22:00 - Practical Skill Building Beyond Behavior Manipulation 24:52 - Connection, Control, and Validation 27:23 - Mainstream Pornography and Aggressive Content Trends 31:40 - Physical Transformation After Breaking Addiction 33:27 - Overcoming 48 Years of Addiction 38:23 - Identity Shifts and Rethinking 12-Step Frameworks 44:00 - Anchoring Identity Outside of Temporary Roles 47:00 - Who You Are and Who Told You 52:17 - Authentic Conviction vs. People Pleasing 56:30 - Public Apologies vs. Personal Alignment 01:00:02 - The Myth That Pornography Only Affects One Person 01:01:59 - The Four Neurological Effects of Pornography 01:03:33 - How Pornography Distorts Relational Intimacy 01:10:50 - Hypofrontality, Sensitization, and Stress Responses 01:18:45 - Replacing Addiction with Purpose 01:22:00 - Where to Find Sathiya Sam and The Last Relapse   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    SATHIYA SAM | How Porn is Destroying Minds, Marriages, and Men

  8. 28 Aug

    Rebuilding Trust | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

    Whether caused by a minor slip-up or a major rupture like infidelity or financial betrayal, every man will eventually face the grueling challenge of restoring broken trust. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler outlines 12 non-negotiable principles for rebuilding trust when it's been shattered. Time alone won't fix your mistakes - only deliberate, sustained, and unselfish action will. Learn why explaining away your issues destroys credibility, how to stop keeping score during the process, and why true reform requires changing your character without demanding immediate validation. Tune in to discover how to own your failures, match your repair to the break, and lead with unwavering integrity.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction & Recording From Maine 01:35 - 12 Steps to Rebuilding Broken Trust 02:00 - Rule 1: Time Doesn't Fix Trust, Action Does 02:40 - Rule 2: You Don't Decide When Trust Is Restored 04:40 - Rule 3: Explaining Isn't Owning 07:35 - Rule 4: Match the Repair to the Break 08:45 - Rule 5: Privacy Is Not a Privilege 11:15 - Rule 6: Consistency Beats Intensity 14:15 - Rule 7: Your Apology Has an Expiration Date 16:55 - Rule 8: Stop Asking for Trust 19:15 - Rule 9: Tolerate Being Tested 21:15 - Rule 10: Stop Keeping Score 22:50 - Rule 11: Fix the Rupture Where It Happened 25:30 - Rule 12: Accept That Some Trust Never Returns 29:50 - Order of Man War Room Call to Action   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

    Rebuilding Trust | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.

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  • Creator
    Ryan Michler
  • Years Active
    2015 - 2026
  • Episodes
    1.6k
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