Relationship Advice Hosted by: Chase Kosterlitz, Produced by: Sarah Kosterlitz

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Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication.
We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only teaches you the skills needed to create a successful and lasting relationship, but the tools to execute it.
In this episode, we interview Dr. Debra Campbell about four important ways to keep the spark alive in our relationship. What Dr. Deb teaches us in this episode is just a glimpse of what is covered in the course. 🙂
Dr. Deb recommends some helpful and practical exercises to help our relationships improve in general happiness and in the bedroom. Here are just a couple of our favorites from the episode:

Look at your everyday life with your partner, outside of the bedroom, as foreplay.

This allows you to see, from a different perspective, how everything you do and say can help to build up to your next erotic connection with your partner. For example, if you are criticizing your partner during the day, they aren’t going to be easily turned on in the evening. This helps to keep your attention on making your partner feel good and can lead to better sex. 

Figure out what turns you on.

By finding out what helps you transition into feeling intimate, you can talk to your partner and plan to make your next connection more pleasurable. This could be taking a bath, playing certain music – you could even make a special playlist, or setting your bedroom up with luxurious sheets and good lighting to help you get in the mood. 

In this episode we also discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The importance of eliminating unhelpful old habits that can lead to friction and unhappiness

Healthy and successful communication tools

The biggest struggles couples have when reigniting their sex life, plus tips to spice things up

The importance of mindfulness to improve stress management

Why having shared dreams and desires can be so beneficial for celebrating our “couple culture” now and in the future.

And much more!


Dr Debra Campbell is a author, psychologist, university lecturer and couple therapists based in Melbourne Australia. Dr. Debra has consulted on everything from panic to depression, parenting, grief and relationships. Her book Lovelands has become an Amazon bestseller, combining self-help with the deeply personal memoir of a psychologist.
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Episode Links
Dr. Debra’s Website
Episode 68: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence
Lovelands
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Attachment theory is one of the best ways to understand yourself, your partner and improve your relationship. Listen to today's show for tools you can use to heal your attachment wounds and work toward a more secure relationship. 
In this episode with Thais Gibson we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to reprogram yourself through the unconscious mind and heal your attachment wounds

How to change the negative stories that we tell ourselves

Learning to meet your own needs and feel 'good enough' without our partner's validation

Understanding what are realistic and unrealistic expectations

How to process feelings in a healthy way if you put a lot of negative meaning into situations

And much more!

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It might sound a bit too good to be true. Ask better questions and instantly improve your relationship? The quality of our relationships is often determined by the quality of our communication and connection. Asking better questions will help you communicate better and develop a deeper sense of understanding and intimacy with your partner. Listen to today's show to learn how to ask better questions and improve your relationship today!
In this episode with Topaz Adizes we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to hold space and be in the emotions together with your partner

The art and value of deep listening during conversations

Why you should not be asking binary questions to have better conversations

Specific questions that you can start asking in your conversations today

Important questions to ask yourself for deeper conversations and insights

And much more!

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Kelli Miller shares essential advice for tackling common relationship issues. From reigniting feelings of love to navigating differences in desires and managing the impact of social media, Kelli provides practical tips to enhance your relationship. Tune in for actionable insights on compromise and understanding the ebb and flow of emotions, empowering you to strengthen your bond with your partner.
In this episode with Kelli Miller we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

What to do if you don't feel in love with your partner anymore?

Navigating social media and understanding if it's damaging your relationship

What to do if you and your partner want different things in your relationship and life

Why it's normal to not feel in love all of the time

Acting in order to produce the emotional change you desire

Amazing tips to help you compromise with your partner more easily

And much more!

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Unfortunately, love and relationships don't necessarily come naturally to us. But that's ok! We can gain the tools and strategies to cultivate a life full of love and relationships that are fulfilling and healthy. Listen to today's show for amazing tips to start improving your relationship today. 
In this episode with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Tools to understand ourselves so we can better relate with others through the love blueprint

Understanding the underlying meaning that we may be attaching to things our partner does

Specific tools and questions to get to know yourself and your partner on a deeper level

How bilateral stimulation with your eyes can literally widen your perspective and help you navigate conflict

How to let go of things when you're triggered or communicate with your partner if needed

Practices to cultivate love and compassion in your relationship

And much more!

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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If we better understand what makes us who we are, we can relate better and have more loving and fulfilling relationships. Listen to today's show to learn more about how our brain chemistry, personality types and evolution make us who we are and influence how we relate to others. 
In this episode with Dr. Helen Fisher we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding why we fall in love with specific personality types

How sex drive, romantic love and attachment influence our relationships

How are hormones influence our personalities and who we are attracted to

Why are decision making can be compromised in relationships and how to account for this issue

The importance of sometimes overlooking the negative in a relationship

And much more!

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Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!
If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah
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