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Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer. Every week, Nicole invites a comedian, friend, or ex-fling to interview their dating life and figure out her own.

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Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer. Every week, Nicole invites a comedian, friend, or ex-fling to interview their dating life and figure out her own.

    Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

    Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

    Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting.

    Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 1 hr 11 min
    Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

    Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

    'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?'

    Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens.

    Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 1 hr 7 min
    White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

    White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

    Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance.




    Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate check here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 57 min
    Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

    Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

    Drag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story.

    Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest way to find and lock down a f*******y during quarantine? The Vixen weighs in.

    For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu

    Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 51 min
    Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

    Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

    "I was just looking for b******e. And then wrapped around the b******e was a really nice, young, Jewish man."

    Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition.

    For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu

    Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 1 hr 10 min
    Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

    Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

    Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine.

    Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

    Follow Nicole Byer:

    Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates

    Twitter: @nicolebyer

    Instagram: @nicolebyer

    Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy

    Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964

    Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

    • 1 hr 1 min

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