Your Adult Child: How to Raise Your Kids so You Don't Have to Raise Your Grandkids Kade Janes & Shauna Watson

Don’t back off of asking your kid to contribute to the business of being a family.

For parents, it’s natural to use the term “they’re becoming independent.” Have you used this term before? But maybe your experience is the opposite – where you feel like your child is more and more DEPENDANT on you.

Understanding the difference between independence and interdependence can make a significant difference in a relationship with your child.  

Parents are always telling us they’re not sure how to adapt to the changes in their relationship with their child. Don’t wait till things are in crisis, you can start communicating now to take preventative measures, and helping them mature.


If it feels hopeless, there is a solution. 

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Do you or your child struggle with the weight of your feelings?

There is more than one type of sad :(

-Clinical depression (if this is you, professional help is recommended).

-Conditional "downness" as we sometimes call it.

Parents can have a huge influence on their kids (and helping them manage their feelings and sadness).

Some tips to keep you ears out for as you listen... move with (not do for), be ready to steady them through the storm, help them be accountable for the things they say to you, validate their feelings... and a few more for you to find on your own.

Lots of people pivot when it comes to business, but what does it look like as a parent?

Pivots usually occur because there's been a shift in the economy, or a company is no longer producing something customers like -- a lot of times making it feel like they're going backwards.

You may feel like this as a parent.

Things change as you kid grows from a young child to an adult kid, which usually creates a need to pivot.

Here's Kades approach to help your kid move forward and to help you pivot in your parenting.

Let your kid make hard decisions that will change their life... 

Here's a TRUTH BOMB for you:

A child will never get through something hard in a way that matters to them significantly unless they have to choose to do it.

Two Questions:

1. What's keeping you from loving your kid to the point of letting them be uncomfortable enough to learn?

2. Twenty years from now, what will your kid be more grateful for, you protecting them from pain or you allowing them to experiencing pain and being supportive as they make decisions they need to make on their own?

Listen as Kade unwraps these questions in 5 minutes.

Reach out or contact...

-Visit the website Structured Therapeutic Housing in Cedar City | Outpatient Therapy Service (irongatetherapy.com)

-Email at admissions@irongatetherapy.com or join the Facebook group, Parenting Your Adult Child

-Call at 435-868-8391

-Message on Instagram @irongatetherapy or on LinkedIn

A parent can step into a new (or changing) situation their family is going through in a way that helps them grow closer together and come out stronger. 

What's it like when you're family all of a sudden changes? Whether it's divorce, a death, or some other way, families go through things that cause the need for adjustments and make it necessary to step into/transition to the new way of life. 

Every situation is unique, but there are underlying principles that you can take away and practice whatever your situation it. 

Support your young adult when they (or you) are stepping into new roles.

What is your intent and what’s the outcome you want to have for your kid when it comes to transitioning into new roles? How do you communicate about it? And your kid could ask the same question for themselves. There are challenging aspects within a relationship when these types of conversations need to happen, but they can be used as a healthy resource for your kid and their growth. 

Ask questions and get feedback for the purpose of moving up and forward... this is always a healthy place to go. You can have gates that lead to new roles within your relationships, just know when to open them, when to keep them closed, and communicate about it. 

Both sides are responsible for boundaries in a relationship. There are going to be difficulties identifying roles, creating healthy boundaries, and finding yourself in a new relationship, but here are things you can do to help and work through the situation.

Reach out or contact...

-Visit the website Structured Therapeutic Housing in Cedar City | Outpatient Therapy Service (irongatetherapy.com)

-Email at admissions@irongatetherapy.com or join the Facebook group, Parenting Your Adult Child

-Call at 435-868-8391

-Message on Instagram @irongatetherapy or on LinkedIn