18 episodes

Curveball is a podcast about life's unexpected moments with a black comedy tell-it-like-it-is approach. These late-night chats, hosted by Beth Armstrong, share the nitty-gritty truth from three women as they speak anonymously and frankly of their particular club's lows, surprises misconceptions, and silver linings. No experts, just everyday people with extraordinary stories. How people survive and grow from challenging experiences is the take-away from these intimate, privileged discussions that usually take place behind closed doors.

Curveball – The Club you didn't want to be part of Beth Armstrong

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Curveball is a podcast about life's unexpected moments with a black comedy tell-it-like-it-is approach. These late-night chats, hosted by Beth Armstrong, share the nitty-gritty truth from three women as they speak anonymously and frankly of their particular club's lows, surprises misconceptions, and silver linings. No experts, just everyday people with extraordinary stories. How people survive and grow from challenging experiences is the take-away from these intimate, privileged discussions that usually take place behind closed doors.

    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 1

    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 1

    As children, we grow and learn the ways of the world and what is right and wrong. Our parents and carers, who we rely on, are our guides. But what happens when those adults or any person asks you to do something, or someone does something to you, touches you in a way that doesn't feel right or makes you feel strange? Maybe you're told it's special or a secret, or that it's your fault. When someone who professes to love you should protect you, hurts you, it's confusing and damaging at any age, especially for vulnerable children. How do you make sense of it, escape it and cope? Tonight's episode is the Child Abuse Club.
     
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of abuse when they were children and how it has affected their lives. 
     
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
     
    Topics include: 
    >         sexual assault
    >         grooming 
    >          pornographic images
    >         emotional abuse 
    >         sexual responses 
    >         out of body experiences 
    >          coercion
    >         violence
    >         secrecy 
    >          disclosure 
    >          vulnerable target 
    >          intergenerational trauma
    >          multiple perpetrators
    >          recriminations
    >         social difficulties 
    >         brain development 
    >         learning difficulties   
    >         taboo, shameful, hidden 
    >         healing 
    >         non-abusive parental guilt
    >         signs of abuse 
    >          sleeping difficulties
    >          eating disorders
    >         running
    >         masking true emotions - clown face
    >          trust difficulties
    >          celibacy 
    >          turning to religion 
    >          sexually promiscuous 
    >          distorted true nature 
    >          suicide 
    >          family reputation 
    >          accusations of victim being somehow partly responsible
    >          distorted ideas of love, manipulation
    >          grooming - victim feeling sexual pleasure is an indicator of guilt, confusion  
    >          anger 
    >          whistle blower syndrome, where the victim is seen as the troublemaker 
    >          threats of violence
    >          power of the voice, of speaking out 
    >          self-punishment
    >          drugs as a coping mechanism 
    >         

    • 45 min
    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 2

    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 2

    As children, we grow and learn the ways of the world and what is right and wrong. Our parents and carers, who we rely on, are our guides. But what happens when those adults or any person asks you to do something, or someone does something to you, touches you in a way that doesn't feel right or makes you feel strange? Maybe you're told it's special or a secret, or that it's your fault. When someone who professes to love you should protect you, hurts you, it's confusing and damaging at any age, especially for vulnerable children. How do you make sense of it, escape it and cope? Tonight's episode is the Child Abuse Club.
     
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of abuse when they were children and how it has affected their lives. 
     
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
     
    Topics include: 
    >         why the perpetrator sexually abused a child? 
    >         love/coercion/grooming/using idea of love as manipulation 
    >          pornographic images
    >         familial assault 
    >         abuse begets abuse as an excuse 
    >         if most victims of sexual assault are women, why isn't there a pandemic of female abusers? 
    >         forgiveness 
    >         stranger assault 
    >          psychologist 
    >          entitlement/sickness of perpetrators
    >          inflicting devastation on children 
    >          immediate tangible effects of assault not evident or even understood by the victim 
    >          allows perpetrators to excuse behaviour
    >         invisible harm, but mental devastation 
    >         strategies of violence or emotional manipulation to comply 
    >         sexual abuse survivor triggers
    >         addressing sexual assault as an adult head on
    >         mistrust and defensiveness, violent reactions 
    >         scepticism from others because of nondisclosure as a child 
    >         scepticism because you didn't go to the police and report the offences 
    >          facing/confronting the perpetrator many years later 
    >          visualising little vulnerable self and protecting her 
    >         name change/moving away from the perpetrator 
    >         hatred 
    >          strength, using your voice 
    >          crossing the road to avoid men 
    >          Hannah Gadsby show, “Nanette”
    >          validating having experience confirmed 
    >          family dysfunction 
    >          abuse has a ripple effect through families 
    >          parenting style
    >          anti-secrecy 
    >          body autonomy 
    >          abusers more

    • 42 min
    Domestic Violence - Intimate Partner

    Domestic Violence - Intimate Partner

    We meet someone, fall in love, and develop a relationship, but then something happens, and your partner hurts, manipulates or frightens you. Perhaps you address it, but it's denied, or it's somehow your fault, or they apologise and promise it won't happen again. And we all make mistakes, so you trust this person who has hitherto loved you to redeem themselves. But what happens when this becomes a pattern, and you slowly realise you are walking on eggshells and embroiled in a volatile or destructive relationship?
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14. 
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who anonymously speak together to share their domestic violence stories with an intimate partner, how they escaped, and how it has affected their lives.  
    Topics include: 
    >         impact of domestic violence
    >         emotional, physical and sexual abuse
    >          stereotypes
    >         family law court
    >         cross-cultural and class
    >         overt and covert abuse
    >          alcoholism
    >         online connections
    >         charming, manipulative and deceitful 
    >          frog in boiling water analogy
    >          abusive childhood
    >          emotional dependence
    >          control - creating dependence
    >         jealousy 
    >         preference for a boy baby 
    >         Obsessed with perfection - “mini-me” child
    >         perpetrator playing the victim - accusations of affairs and deceit
    >         relationship models from childhood
    >         compassion - women brought up to fix things
    >         emotional investment for love, wanting the dream
    >          respecting their vulnerability, their hurt, wronged by past partners, comparisons
    >         shared bank accounts, controlled by the perpetrator
    >         friends who call out abusive behaviour as enemies, perpetrator criticising them
    >          isolation
    >          guardian angel friends
    >          managing safety for children
    >          The victim minimises the impact of a person intervening,  as they'll suffer when the abuser takes his anger out on them. 
    >          monitoring
    >          cycle of violence
    >          blinded by social-economic factors
    >          psychological abuse and coercive control
    >          physical intimidation
    >          perpetrators in the police force
    >          image-based abuse - fake profile - publishing intimate photos online
    >          turning point 
    >          leaving means abuse will get worse and putting children in danger
    >          navigating escape
    >         

    • 53 min
    Curveball - Estranged From Mothers

    Curveball - Estranged From Mothers

    Our mothers birth us and/or raise us, and if so, are naturally pivotal in our lives as role models and caregivers - we hope they love us and have our best interests in mind and that we love them. But what happens when that isn't the case, or they are dysfunctional, or the relationship between you is toxic or broken down to the point of estrangement. How does that affect you and your place in the world? 
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14. 
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of how they became estranged from their mothers and the consequences of that relationship breakdown.  
     Topics include: 
    >         abandonment
    >         parental death
    >          favouritism
    >         emotional abuse 
    >         alcoholism
    >         bisexuality
    >          father as primary carer
    >         drugs, sex and alcohol as a means of coping
    >         family dysfunction
    >          caring 
    >          guilt
    >          Jehovahs Witness - don’t spare the rod, you’ll spoil the child
    >          black sheep
    >          physical abuse 
    >         running away
    >         Hiding - faking it ‘till we make it
    >         Letting go - acceptance     
    >         shame 
    >         gaslighting
    >         criticism
    >         body dysmorphia  
    >          intergenerational trauma 
    >         child as parent
    >         killing desire to become a parent
    >          mothering skills
    >          sexual assault 
    >          post-natal depression
    >          weaponising grandchildren 
    >          unconditional love
    >          resilience
    >          positivity 
    >          emotional breakdown
    >          anxiety 
    >          depression
    >          therapy
    >          vulnerability
    >          perfectionism 
    >          OCD
    >          self-care
    >          self-punishment
    >          affirmations
    >          belonging
    >          friends become family
    >          unpredictability
    >          sabotage
    >          loneliness
    >          meditation
    >          workaholic
    >          unemployment
    >          peace&nb

    • 58 min
    Grew Up In A Cult And Escaped - Part 2

    Grew Up In A Cult And Escaped - Part 2

    • 40 min
    Grew Up In A Cult And Escaped - Part 1

    Grew Up In A Cult And Escaped - Part 1

    We are born into a family with a set of values and beliefs that might evolve. Some families
    are strict adherents to a particular religion or cult, which rejects the mainstream. As
    children, we know nothing else and are guided by our parents, but what happens when
    deep inside we question or observe hypocrisy or feel limited and not in tune with these
    values? What is it like to strike out alone? How do you find the mettle to go against
    everything that you know and risk losing family?

    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together
    anonymously to share their stories of growing up in a cult or religion and escaping.

    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners.
    If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    • 43 min

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