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Rachael Wonderlin tackles common challenges in dementia caregiving and seeks to make everyone a better care partner and professional by promoting education and empathy. Rachael has a Master’s in Gerontology and owns Dementia By Day, a dementia care consulting firm. She is the author of "When Someone You Know is Living in a Dementia Care Community," and a second book, "Creative Engagement," both published by Johns Hopkins University Press. You can find her on Instagram @dementiabyday and download her “16 Things I’d Want If I Got Dementia” list from rachaelwonderlin.com

Dementia By Day Rachael Wonderlin

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 54 Ratings

Rachael Wonderlin tackles common challenges in dementia caregiving and seeks to make everyone a better care partner and professional by promoting education and empathy. Rachael has a Master’s in Gerontology and owns Dementia By Day, a dementia care consulting firm. She is the author of "When Someone You Know is Living in a Dementia Care Community," and a second book, "Creative Engagement," both published by Johns Hopkins University Press. You can find her on Instagram @dementiabyday and download her “16 Things I’d Want If I Got Dementia” list from rachaelwonderlin.com

    "How do I convince dad that he has dementia?"

    "How do I convince dad that he has dementia?"

    Like I’ve said in past episodes: we can’t convince people living with dementia of anything that’s not in their reality. So, bad news if you are trying to convince them that they have dementia.
    Here’s my argument – why would you WANT to? Even if you convince them for a couple of hours that they have dementia, what happens the next day? Are you going to re-convince them? If a person has forgotten that they have a disease, why would we want to remind them?
    This goes for similar reminders, like taking them to the cemetery or showing them obituaries. Just. don’t.
    Stay for the entirety of this episode for some tips and advice on this issue.
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    • 9 min
    "Where's the 'line' when it comes to 'lying?’ What IS Embracing Their Reality™?"

    "Where's the 'line' when it comes to 'lying?’ What IS Embracing Their Reality™?"

    What’s the difference between lying and Embracing their Reality? I keep hearing people using this phrase incorrectly.
    There are a lot of people who consider themselves experts in dementia care communication and they are still telling everybody the same thing that you’ve been hearing for years: Validation, Redirection, Distraction.
    And that’s NOT Embracing their Reality™. It’s also not lying when you are doing what’s true for THEM.
    Stay for the entirety of this episode where I break down the difference between these two dementia care approaches.
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    • 10 min
    "How do I take over finances when they feel they can still do it, even though I know they can’t?"

    "How do I take over finances when they feel they can still do it, even though I know they can’t?"

    As you probably know by now, you are not going to be able to convince the person living with dementia that they are no longer capable of handling their own finances.
    One of the main things that people will hold on to with all their might is money. No one wants to feel like somebody else is taking control of their financial affairs. But when you are living with dementia and things are being taken away from you, it can be even more overwhelming.
    Remember, dementia is not an ask-for-permission group of diseases: You are going to have to take control.
    Tune in to learn more about how to navigate this!
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    • 10 min
    "What if I say the wrong thing?"

    "What if I say the wrong thing?"

    “What if at some point I say something that completely confuses the person living with dementia? Should I really do this Embracing their reality thing, because what if I embrace the wrong reality and then they get upset?”
    Here’s the real deal: you are 100% going to say something you shouldn’t have said. We’ve all done it. Especially if this person is living with you and you spend a lot of time together.
    I have a few stories related to this subject, so join me in this episode for some tips on how to deal with it!
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    • 10 min
    “How do I know if I’m getting burned out?”

    “How do I know if I’m getting burned out?”

    This is a great question! But, unfortunately, this is a question that most caregivers don’t ask until they are deeply burned out.
    Sometimes people don’t give themselves enough space and time to take care of their own things. Actually, I used to be that kind of person until I got more serious in hiring other people to help me with my business because I realized that I can’t do everything myself.
    When it comes to taking care of a person living with dementia, the same thing goes – you can’t handle it all by yourself; especially when the person living with dementia starts needing more and more help.
    Stay for the entirety of this episode for some tips and advice on how to avoid burnout!
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    • 10 min
    "But won’t agreeing with their delusions make them sicker?"

    "But won’t agreeing with their delusions make them sicker?"

    ‘What if my mom believes something that’s not true, and I keep embracing her reality... won’t that eventually make her more confused?’
    You’ve probably already guessed this one, and the answer is NO.
    There’s no scientific evidence that letting a person believe they are correct will make them worse. In fact, if you are constantly correcting a person about their beliefs, that actually will be a lot worse.
    Stay for the entirety of the episode for some tips and advice on this issue!
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    • 10 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
54 Ratings

54 Ratings

four foodies ,

Life saver

Rachael is my friend in my head!

Avd2278 ,

A must listen if you have a dementia patient in your life

These podcasts were invaluable for me while I was caring for my mother through her end-stage dementia and end of life. I learned so much about what she was going through and wonderful tools to help me care for and understand her. It really made things easier, reduced frustrations for both of us and led us to a more calm and loving end of life for her.

My only regret is that I didn’t find this podcast sooner.

JohnKrol ,

Knows her stuff

Having worked in the memory care industry for many years, it’s clear that Rachael knows her stuff and speaks plainly and authentically without sugar coating. That’s the approach we need to take to truly improve the experiences of everyone impacted by dementia. Great podcast!

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