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Forgiveness 愛、生活、人生系列

    • Self-Improvement

Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and
thoughts of revenge--or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Who hasn’t been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps a parent
constantly criticized you growing up, a colleague sabotaged a project or your
partner had an affair. Or maybe you’ve had a traumatic experience, such as being
physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you. These wounds can leave
you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness--even vengeance.
But if you don’t practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most
dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude
and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical,
emotional and spiritual well-being.
What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it
involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act
that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen
its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you.
Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion
for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the
harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness
brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
What Are the Benefits of Forgiving Someone?
Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace
of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:
·       Healthier relationships
·       Improved mental health
·       Less anxiety, stress and hostility
·       Lower blood pressure
·       Fewer symptoms of depression
·       A stronger immune system
·       Improved heart health
·       Improved self-esteem
Why Is It So Easy to Hold a Grudge?
Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger,
sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges
filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow
negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself
swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Some people are
naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you’re a grudge holder, almost
anyone can learn to be more forgiving.
What Are the Effects of Holding a Grudge?
If you’re unforgiving, you might:
·       Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
·       Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present
·       Become depressed or anxious
·       Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds
with your spiritual beliefs
·       Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others
How Do I Reach a State of Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from
suffering to forgiveness, you might:
·       Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life
·       Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what
·       Consider joining a support group or seeing a counselor
·       Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect
your behavior, and work to release them
·       Choose to forgive the person who’s offended you
·       Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the
offending person and situation have had in your life
As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been
hurt. You might even find compassion and unde

Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and
thoughts of revenge--or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Who hasn’t been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps a parent
constantly criticized you growing up, a colleague sabotaged a project or your
partner had an affair. Or maybe you’ve had a traumatic experience, such as being
physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you. These wounds can leave
you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness--even vengeance.
But if you don’t practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most
dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude
and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical,
emotional and spiritual well-being.
What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it
involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act
that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen
its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you.
Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion
for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the
harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness
brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
What Are the Benefits of Forgiving Someone?
Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace
of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:
·       Healthier relationships
·       Improved mental health
·       Less anxiety, stress and hostility
·       Lower blood pressure
·       Fewer symptoms of depression
·       A stronger immune system
·       Improved heart health
·       Improved self-esteem
Why Is It So Easy to Hold a Grudge?
Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger,
sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges
filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow
negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself
swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Some people are
naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you’re a grudge holder, almost
anyone can learn to be more forgiving.
What Are the Effects of Holding a Grudge?
If you’re unforgiving, you might:
·       Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
·       Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present
·       Become depressed or anxious
·       Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds
with your spiritual beliefs
·       Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others
How Do I Reach a State of Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from
suffering to forgiveness, you might:
·       Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life
·       Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what
·       Consider joining a support group or seeing a counselor
·       Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect
your behavior, and work to release them
·       Choose to forgive the person who’s offended you
·       Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the
offending person and situation have had in your life
As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been
hurt. You might even find compassion and unde

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