24 episodes

Autostraddle.com presents, "Wait, Is This A Date?" a queer dating podcast where hosts Drew Gregory and Christina Tucker are joined by special guests to discuss topics like hooking up with your friends’ exes, flirting via Instastories, and, of course, the classic queer conundrum: is this a date?!

Wait, Is This A Date‪?‬ Autostraddle

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 126 Ratings

Autostraddle.com presents, "Wait, Is This A Date?" a queer dating podcast where hosts Drew Gregory and Christina Tucker are joined by special guests to discuss topics like hooking up with your friends’ exes, flirting via Instastories, and, of course, the classic queer conundrum: is this a date?!

    Long Distance Crushes

    Long Distance Crushes

    Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called... a season finale! Yes, it's true, today's episode marks the end of the absolute blockbuster that was S2 of Wait, Is This A Date?  To celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys and successes of a long distance crush than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? Around these parts, she has another title that is nearly as vaunted: Drew's girlfriend! Yes, that's right, this sparkling twosome was birthed from the great queer tradition: the long distance crush.
    But what is it about the long distance crush that is so appealing to queers around the world? Is it the relative scarcity of like minded queers around you? Perhaps the ability to flirt long distance takes some of the pressure off? We get into all of it, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly TOO cute details about their relationship! 
    And of course there is a game! This week, Christina makes Drew play the game that simply took over Twitter and Tiktok for a few fleeting weeks: "They're a 10 but..." It's a good time, all around!
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    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 51 min
    Bottoming

    Bottoming

    Bottom Culture has become quite a Thing™ Online as of late! But what does it really mean to be a bottom? Why has the culture decided bottoming is synonymous with being afraid to ask for what you want? And how does one go about deciding if they like bottoming?!
    With all these questions rattling around our minds, Drew and I knew there was only one person we could go to for conversation on bottoming: The Gay Chingy AKA Chingy Nea, AKA The Bottom Supreme! Chingy helps us tease out what it means to be a bottom, why she hates “smol bean” bottom culture, your body as hole, and your body as whole.
    For our game this week, Drew describes a plot and then dares Christina to guess if it is the plot of a movie she watched as a teen or a dream she had as a teen, and yes, it is hard!
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    Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory
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    Follow Chingy @TheGayChingy
    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 45 min
    When Your Friends Don’t Like Your Partner

    When Your Friends Don’t Like Your Partner

    Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.
    That’s why this week on the podcast we have Autostraddle’s own Yashwina Canter to talk about what happens when your friends don’t like your partner or your partner doesn’t like your friends. We get into Yash’s own dating history and how she’s navigated being on every side of this equation. And we talk about how all of us have navigated the challenge of our friends dating people. We even venture into some biphobia discourse and Drew tries to stir up some drama by asking if anyone has ever liked a friend’s partner too much. We love some chaos!
    We also begin with a truly inspired game of Hayley Kiyoko lyric or Rupi Kaur poem and end with three especially good crushes. To quote Tessa Thompson, Yash is single and ready to pringle so shoot your shot queers — just be prepared to pass the friend vibe test!
    Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate
    SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+!
    Follow Yashwina Canter @yashwinacanter
    Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory
    Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet
    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 53 min
    A+ Mailbag Minisode!

    A+ Mailbag Minisode!

    Without our A+ members, there would be no Autostraddle. And without Autostraddle, there would be no Wait, Is This a Date? So this week on the podcast, we’re answering questions sent in by the A+ members who allow us to do what we do!
    Questions range from how to have a first lesbian experience to how to be horny and demisexual. We give our best advice and if you’re thinking hmm these queers seem to know what they’re talking about then go ahead and send in your own question! We’ll be doing more mailbag minisodes and so submit your questions!
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    SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+!
    Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory
    Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet
    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 25 min
    Hygiene

    Hygiene

    Ah, bodies. The sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag our consciousness around in until we come up with a better way to get through life. And if that wasn't embarrassing enough, we have to bring them with us on dates and hook ups! How do we deal with the reality of our human bodies while dating? Does anyone notice the tiny little things we stress out about as much as we do? What does the way we present our bodies to others say about our gender, our sexuality?
    We knew we needed to dig into this and who better to do it with than the one and only Samantha Irby? We get into what we are preoccupied about with regards to our own bodies, the likelihood that no one cares as much as we do and our personal shower routines.
    And for once Drew does not drag Christina about her dating issues in a very fun “Would You Rather”!
    Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate
    SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+!
    Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory
    Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet
    Follow Samantha Irby on Instagram @bitchesgottaeat and her Substack bitchesgottaeat.substack.com
    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 52 min
    Celebrity Crushes

    Celebrity Crushes

    Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.
    That’s why this week we’re talking with writer and podcaster Jordan Crucchiola all about celebrity crushes. We talk about how celebrity thirsting feels inclusive to Jordan as a panromantic gray asexual person. We talk about how Drew thinks most of her celebrity crushes are kind of attainable. And, of course, we talk about the famous older women on Christina’s water bottle.
    But first! Christina quizzes Drew on a topic she knows little about — lesbian romance novels
    Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate
    SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+!
    Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory
    Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet
    Follow Jordan Cucciola @jorcru
    Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein
    Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar
    Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

    • 1 hr 2 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
126 Ratings

126 Ratings

KR '14 ,

Love it

Love this so much - this podcast is witty, thoughtful, and I love how Drew and Christina’s relating to dating differently affirms there’s no single correct way to date as a queer. My fav part have been the guest interviews you’re doing this season. Just clicked on the show to see if a new episode had dropped, and b/c I was so disappointed it hadn’t, figured I’d leave a review.
P.s. yup, already an A+ member

gab3124578 ,

I want more podcasts from Drew!!!

Drew and Christina and their guests and topics are excellent. I particularly love Drew, she’s so fun and interesting to listen to and an excellent interviewer. I like the games at the beginning but I do think they could be 2-3 rounds shorter. Five stars! I love autostraddle and this podcast, it’s definitely in my top three.

Melfacee ,

Didn't know I needed this but so happy I have it

Truly feels like hanging out with my best queer friends. Such a good balance of insights and honest moments of "idk but let's just talk it out and figure things out together". Great banter, great reflections and just plain fun. Love y'all pls pls make a second season!

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