The Grieving Mamas Club Cara & Rashida

We're back (ish) from a longgg winter break. We prerecorded two More Than Grief episodes right before Cara gave birth to baby boy. SPOILER ALERT - Baby boy is here and mama and baby are out here crushin it in deez streets!

In the first of our two prerecorded episodes, we talk through postpartum - the good, the bad, and the really ugly. We talk about the highs of being done with pregnancy and the lows of PPA and PPD. 

Starting with this episode we're going to an every other Wednesday cadence of episodes so we'll see ya in two weeks.

When times get tough, just remember you're a bad ass b and you got this mama!  

In the last episode before the holiday season, Cara and Rashida cover just that...grieving during the holidays. The first few holidays seasons without your loved one are really hard and while Rashida explains they do get better, there's still anxiety. Heading into every holiday season Rashida explains how she feels a sense of doom that often keeps her from feeling the joy of the season.

Why is it that those on a grief journey find it so hard to let joy in after their trauma?  Brené Brown's Dare to Lead answers this question in the most easy-to-understand way. Feeling joy makes us feel vulnerable and on a grief journey, feeling vulnerable is the last thing we want to feel. 

When times get tough, remember you're a badass B and you got this, mama! 

This episode is one of our favorites! Cara and Rashida meet their new grief bestie, Janet Gwilliam-Wright. Janet is a career coach, a depression survivor, and oh yeah a fellow motherless mama. Having lost her mom over 20 years ago, Janet is no stranger to the grief process. Through years of work on herself (and the patience of her wonderful, amazing wife, Meg), Janet has overcome all obstacles put in her path since that fateful day she graduated from high school and lost her mom within the very same hour. Her story is honest and it's one of the things we loved most about it. She doesn't sugarcoat herself or her mom. We joked that she has seemingly worked through all her trauma to where she no has a great relationship with her dead mom. There's respect and admiration, but there's also a realness in the way she is able to look back on her mom as a flawed human.

She is also the founder of The Motherlove Project, a place where moms can share their stories of losing their moms through written word. 

Make Janet your new bestie too by following her on Instagram @Janetgwilliamwright and @motherloveproject. 

In this episode, Rashida & Cara sit down with Diana Waldman, a TGMC community member, who experienced first hand how Alzheimer's stole her beloved Grandma. She also digs into a whole lot more loss that she experienced within the same timeframe and how she keeps the memory of her loved ones alive with her children today. 

When times get tough just remember, you're a bad ass B and you got this, mama!

This one's for our homies who need some guidance on what to say and what not to say to someone who's grieving. And if you know us by now, you already know that we have opinions and WE GOT YOUR BACK SIS! 

When times get tough, just remember, you're a bad ass B and you got this mama!

This week we dive into a lighter side of grief but still a grief journey nonetheless - mourning the loss of our pre-baby selves. The year is 2015 and Cara and Rashida are living their best pre-kids lives. The drinks went down easy, the hangovers were nonexistent, and gravity had not yet gained control of our boobs. Fast forward six years and we're three (soon to be four) kids between us and things are quite different. 

Believe it or not, this episode takes a positive turn and doesn't end the way you think it does. 

When times get tough, just remember: you’re a badass B and you got this mama!