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What an honor to have my friend and fellow therapist, Aundi Kolber on the podcast today! You do not want to miss Part 1 of our two-part  conversation on her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the  Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and  Experience True Flourishing

Aundi and I connected through social  media, and she has become the dearest real life friend. It was my  absolute honor to have this conversation with her about her personal  story and her new book, Strong Like Water, available for pre-order now.  Here's what we cover. . .

1. Why it's unsustainable to always be  the "strong one"  

2. The brave decision that led to her to reimagine strength

3. 3 different types of strength and how to move between them

4. How to find safety when you need it the most

5. The difference between information and whole body transformation

6. How Aundi has come to understand strength now

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Episode 15: CPTSD—The Pain of a Million Paper Cuts
Episode 4: What Do I Need to Know About Trauma?
How to Reclaim Your Inner Alert System

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While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any  of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice  nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and  products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Today's episode is all about anger. It's an emotion that can do great harm and one that also has great benefits.  

Whether you thrive on anger or try your best to bury it, one thing's for sure—we all have to reckon with it. When you learn to work with your anger, it can become a powerful force for good in your life and in the lives of the people you love. Today, my friend Rowena Day (see Episode 31) returns to the podcast as we discuss how we've learned to create space for healthy anger in our lives.

Here's what we cover:  

1. Practical strategies to befriend and build trust with anger 

2. The guilt and fear we feel about having anger 

3. How to manage anger while parenting

4.  Examples of speaking on behalf of anger vs. from it

5. The problem with comparing our pain to the pain of others

6. Jesus and anger

Be sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources.

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Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here

Music by Andy Luiten    

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Today, I am joined by my friend and co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul, Kimberly Miller, to discuss the almighty inner critic, how to get space from it, and how to bring this work into your relationships. Kim describes how she first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how combining it with Christian faith and practice changed her life.

We discuss:

1. How Kim finally healed the ache in her heart

2. The most ubiquitous part of the soul

3. Why self-acceptance is better than self-condemnation

4. How to differentiate from painful emotions

5. A real-time exercise for quieting your inner critic

6. How this work translates into marriage

Connect with Kimberly Miller at kimberlyjunemiller.com or on Insight Timer

Be sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.

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Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here

Other Episodes in this Series:


Episode 39 Boundaries for Your Soul—How to Navigate Your Overwhelming Thoughts & Feelings
Episode 40 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions & Why Parts of Us Get Stuck in the Past
Episode 41 Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety—How to Calm the Chaos Within and the Joy of Internal Boundaries
Episode 42 How to Honor Sadness, Set Boundaries with Loneliness, and What to Do When You Don't Have Time for this Work

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any   of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling   advice  nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The  content  and  products provided on this podcast are for informational  purposes only.

You need your pain. Grief makes you real, and disappointment can inspire creativity, change, and growth. 

Sadness brings texture to the joys we experience. And yet, it's also not wise to let sadness take us over.

In today's episode, we discuss how to set healthy boundaries with emotions like sadness and loneliness. 

Here's what we cover:

—The surprising benefits of sadness

—3 types of grief

—The science of tears and how they help us

—What loneliness needs to heal

—Childhood play and how it informs your adult dreams

—What to do when you just don't have the time for the pain

Be sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.  

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Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any  of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice  nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and  products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

So many of us live at war with ourselves. We hate our anxiety or battle with fear.

We beat ourselves up or try to get rid of these parts of us. But this approach only makes things worse. 

One of the most surprising ways to calm your anxiety is to stop waging war against it.

In today's episode we discuss how to honor your fear and soothe your anxiety so that you are in charge of them, not the other way around. Here's what we cover:

1. A picture of healthy internal boundaries

2. How anxiety tries to protect us

3. The surprising truth about fear

4. How to establish healthy boundaries with both fear and anxiety 

5. Fear and the Bible

6. 5 Steps to work through fear and anxiety

Be sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.   

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Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You here.  

Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here   

Music by Andy Luiten    

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik    

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Do you ever feel like a part of your soul is trapped in the past, holding you back from fully embracing the present and moving forward? Pain, fear, worry, or even bitterness can weigh heavy on our hearts and minds. This is a common experience for all of us at times.

In today's episode, I guide you through a 5 step process of healing and growth. We'll discuss how to mend the parts of your soul that are causing you distress.

Here's what we cover:  

1. 5 Steps to healing painful emotions 

2. How to overcome criticism, shame, and judgment 

3. 4 Questions to grow in self-discovery 

4. A surprising way to pray throughout the day 

5. Why parts of us struggle to experience God's love



Remember, this journey is a process, not a one-time event. With the right tools and guidance, you can learn to make peace with the parts of yourself.

Be sure to pick up your 3 free Boundaries for Your Soul resources here.



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Get 46% off Boundaries for Your Soul & The Best of You here.

Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here

Music by Andy Luiten    

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and  any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling  advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content  and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.