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Even in today's modern age, not many people openly talk about sex with their partner or their family members and friends. Discussions around sex require vulnerability which people are not always willing to do. Sex and pleasure are nuanced and personal. It's magical, and it's different for all of us. 
In this episode, Cyndi Darnell sheds light on the topic of sex that very few have done before, and that's by providing an unlearning of the messages and conditioning we've been fed, no matter our sexual preference or gender. She offers a new way of expanding our vision around desire and eroticism. Cyndi is a relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. She is the author of the new book, Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. To learn more, visit cyndidarnell.com. 
Join Stacey and Cyndi as they engage in a raw, deep, freeing conversation about sex that will make you think, what if everything we've been taught about sex is untrue?
“Sex is not the center of the universe, but it's a pretty big piece of the universe, and while we pretend that sex doesn't matter, we gloss over some of the most important opportunities for reflective connection that a human has.”
- Cyndi Darnell
 In This Episode:
- 00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay
- 02:06 What drove Cyndi to write the book, “Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It?”
- 05:25 What's the disconnect with feeling obliged to have sex with your partner even when you don't feel like it?
- 11:35 What is it about sex that Cyndi wants readers to explore and unveil?
- 20:13 What does “genderized sex” mean, and what's the problem with that?
- 26:57 What is eroticism, and how do we discover our “erotic templates” for ourselves?
Resources:
- Sex When you Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell
Connect with Cyndi Darnell:
- Website
- Instagram
- Facebook
Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook

Women's bodies start to change when we reach the age of 40. As a result, many women begin experiencing joint and muscle pains that affect their lifestyle. But it doesn't have to be that way. There are many ways to have a pain-free and fit lifestyle, even in your forties and beyond. Today, Lynya Floyd speaks with Lindsay Wenndt, founder of Break Free Fitness. Lindsay is a curvy women’s health coach and fitness trainer. She is also a certified senior fitness specialist and an orthopedic (joint pain) specialist who has taught over 10,000 classes, teaching women how to live healthy lifestyles.
In this episode, Lindsay reveals the exact hormones that are tied to hunger and sex and the super simple things you can do to influence both of them. She talks us through her quick exercise that will strengthen your orgasm and the best hacks for keeping your workouts simple, fast, and fun! Lindsay also shares her two favorite moves for strengthening muscles and bones. The bonus is that one of those moves will have your partner saying they hate to see you go but love to watch you leave. You will change how you look at your body after listening to this episode so let's dive into this very fit and fun conversation. 
“I will never ever tell you to lose weight or that you're wrong or insufficient in any way. Your body is beautiful, and the changes that your body is going through are beautiful and totally normal.”
- Lindsay Wenndt
 
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction from today's host, Lynya Floyd
02:42 Everybody knows that your body starts to change after 40. What exactly is happening?
10:29 How does the way we need to exercise change after 40?
15:05 What happens between the sheets? What does fitness have to do with what happens inside the bedroom?
18:10 Here are more moves and stretches you can do (follow along as Lindsay does a demo)
21:25 How do we encourage ourselves to stick to a fitness routine even when we don't feel like doing it?
24:25 How did Lindsay start her business, and what did she do to become confident as a curvy woman in what is traditionally considered a skinny industry?
29:01 Lindsay shares some of her successful client stories, specifically women over 40
32:03 More hacks and tips to make your fitness dreams come true
35:27 One thing you can do after listening to this episode to help you reap the benefits of being fit and healthy after 40
Resources:
- Get the 5 Tools to Relieve Pain Better, Faster, and Longer Than Ibuprofen
Connect with Lindsay Wenndt:
- Website
- LinkedIn
Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook

Sex is a topic that is not always discussed in everyday conversations. Today's episode is a deep dive into sexual health as Stacey interviews Dr. Holly Richmond, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist. She holds a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychology. This unique combination of professional credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes and their somatic (body-based) health. Dr. Richmond is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples, and gender-diverse individuals with relationship and sexuality issues. 
Her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, is a groundbreaking examination of somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ recovery. Dr. Holly is also a recognized writer and media specialist, with over 500 published works since beginning her career in journalism in 1994.
If you want to discover what you really want and ask for it, this episode is for you. 
“All sex is good sex as long as it's consensual and pleasurable.”
- Dr. Holly Richmond
 In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay
02:31 An overview of Dr. Holly's specialties
04:08 What does sex-positive mean?
05:38 Exploring what you want in your sexual life and what you want in “bed”
09:35 How do we know what we want?
11:08 Practices and questions you can ask yourself to discover what you want
12:33 How do you start to talk about what you want, whether it's kink or group sex, with your sexual partner?
16:58 What if you want something, but your partner does not want that? Where do you go from there?
19:42 Exercises and conversations we can have with ourselves to help unpack the shame and taboo around the topic of sexual pleasure
23:09 What is the advice for people in long-term commitments where one partner asks the other to spice things up?
24:36 What role does intimacy play in these conversations?
 
Resources:
- Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond, Ph.D.
- Modern Sex Therapy Institute: Programs, Certificates, and Specialties
Connect with Dr. Holly Richmond:
- Website
- Instagram
- Facebook
Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook

Gynecological cancer is one of the leading causes of death in women. In the US, 100,000 cases are reported yearly, and 33,000 die from gynecological cancer annually. The numbers are significantly lower in the UK, but it is still a cause for concern. One of the major factors in the increasing number of cases is the lack of awareness and the stigma surrounding gynecological issues. So many of us don't even know what to ask our doctors. Plus, many women do not wish to undergo the often invasive screening procedure. Many are unaware that there are five types of gynecological cancer they can be susceptible to. So how can women get information and protect themselves? 
Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, Stacey Lindsay speaks with Athena Lamnisos of The Eve Appeal, a leading cancer charity funding research and raising awareness of early diagnosis and prevention of gynecological cancers. Getting earlier detection right will have the most significant impact in terms of saving women’s lives. Now is your chance to discover the truth about gynecological cancer and what you can do to better care for your body.
“If you have a cervix, you need to be screened.”
- Athena Lamnisos
 
In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay
01:59 The mission and the work being done by Athena Lamnisos and her organization
06:43 What's the reason behind people's lack of awareness about the threat of gynecological cancer?
08:33 The five types of gynecological cancer, the risk factors, and the real reason women don't go on regular screening 
12:43 The importance of being comfortable talking about our bodies
15:59 What should we ask our doctors, and what body changes must we pay attention to?
18:25 Have you been vaccinated against this pretty evil little virus called HPV?
24:15 How can we minimize the shame around getting examined for possible gynecological issues?
30:00 A powerful message for nonbinary individuals, trans men, and women over 40 (and just about anyone with female reproductive organs)
33:59 Support the work that Athena is doing through The Eve Appeal
Resources:
- The Five Gynecological Cancers: A Brief Explainer
- Training Resources for GP and Community Nurses

Connect with Athena Lamnisos and The Eve Appeal:
- Website
- Instagram
- Facebook
- YouTube

Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook

Perimenopause, the period leading up to menopause, occurs in most women in their 40s. This time usually comes with emotional and hormonal issues, as perimenopausal women experience menopause-like symptoms such as anxiety, depression, hot flashes, vaginal dryness, etc. Perimenopause is a natural part of the aging process. But it doesn't have to signal impending doom. On the contrary, perimenopause can actually be a fun phase in a woman's life, according to today's guest. 
Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, Meghan Rabbitt interviews Dr. Heather Bartos, an OBGYN based in Frisco, TX, and a leading voice in women's health. She is the founder of Badass Woman, Badass Health, and a proud pioneer of MindSHIFT medicine (the integration of mental, physical, and emotional health to care for the whole woman). 
Enjoy listening as Meghan and Dr. Bartos discuss the difference between perimenopause and menopause, hormone therapy, and what women need to know as they approach this period in their lives.
“What Mother Nature wanted for us was a time to reassess and reevaluate and, if we can ride perimenopause out, it's kinda what she's meant to do.”
- Dr. Heather Bartos, OBGYN
 In This Episode:
00:00 Introduction from Meghan Rabbitt
00:47 What you can expect from today's episode
02:20 What is the difference between perimenopause and menopause, and why should women in their 40s care?
04:25 Why and how does the perimenopause period vary for every woman? 
06:15 Let's talk about the biggest symptoms of perimenopause
07:57 What's happening hormonally during perimenopause?
09:48 What about women on hormonal birth control who do not have periods or other physical symptoms? How can they tell?
11:32 The myths about hormone treatment that many women still believe 
13:29 Why is it so important to treat perimenopausal symptoms?
15:21 Is there a correlation between puberty and menopause? 
16:48 How can women find an ally to support them during this time?
22:28 So, how do you really know where you are in this process? What tests should you have, or questions should you ask your OBGYN?
24:18 At what point do you need to undergo lab tests?
27:06 Women's thoughts about hormone treatment and the truth about it
30:39 What can perimenopausal women do to embrace this period in their life?
35:38 The real opportunity for women approaching the perimenopausal stage
Connect with Dr. Heather Bartos:
- Instagram
- Website
- Podcast
Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook

Have you ever felt constantly exhausted from saying YES to everything and everyone? Are you embarrassed to say NO and feel that you always have to explain yourself whenever you say that word? Do you always put yourself last and prioritize other people's feelings over your own? If you see yourself in any of these situations, this conversation is for you. 
Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In today's episode, Lynya Floyd interviews Wendy Sterling, a Divorce Coach, Author, Speaker, and Host of The Divorced Woman’s Guide Podcast. Wendy discovered that her divorce could be the most empowering experience she went through to find her authentic identity and voice, to design a life she loved. She has helped thousands of divorcees heal more quickly and move through their emotions to create a new life through her 5-Step Program, The Divorce Rehab. 
Tune in to discover how to set your boundaries, end the victim mindset, and start creating a vision for yourself based on what you want. It's time to stop being everyone's doormat and become a boundary-setting queen! Keep practicing!
“When you don't honor your boundary, you're just allowing yourself to become a doormat.”
- Wendy Sterling
 In This Episode:
00:00 What is this episode about?
00:42 Meet Wendy Sterling, Divorce Coach, Author, Speaker
02:59 Why are boundaries important? 
06:09 Why do women have difficulty creating boundaries?
08:14 Think about your core values 
12:49 Learn from what Wendy did when she realized she didn't have firm boundaries
17:22 Wendy shares how she became a divorce coach and how boundary work is tied to a difficult transitional phase in someone's life
23:20 Ask yourself this question: Why are you making other people your priority?
24:00 Discover the ways that we intentionally or unintentionally weaken our boundaries and the easiest (yet hardest) way to set a boundary
29:43 What else can we do to strengthen our boundaries? It's easier than you think.
33:43 Simple yet powerful words or statements you can use to set firm boundaries
37:40 What is one action step you can take right now to establish your boundaries?
Resources:
- Download the 5 Steps to Start Setting Boundaries Today
Connect with Wendy Sterling:
- Website
- Instagram
- Facebook
- TikTok
- Podcast
Connect with Jade & Scarlet Society:
- Instagram
- Website
- Facebook