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Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!

The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 81 Ratings

Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!

    The Me Exception

    The Me Exception

    Do you ever do something that breaks a rule (or even a law), thinking to yourself that it doesn’t apply to you?



    I do.



    Sometimes, I use that speed limit sign as a suggestion.  I’m a good driver, I tell myself.  What harm could +5mph do?  Except the sign is a law, not a guideline or suggestion.



    But I explain it away.  I decide it is ok.



    I dare to venture that very close to 100% of people do something similar with some rule or law in their own lives.  Someone tells me that they think affairs are bad and unacceptable, while excusing their own infidelity.  I once saw a doctor (some years back) tell a patient that smoking was very bad for them, and they needed to stop… while heading out for a smoke break!



    I could go on and on.



    How do we make those moments make sense?  The "Me Exception,” to borrow a term I recently read about.  (The topic I was reading about is politically charged, but my observations were meant to note how we ALL do it, every day… and not about the topic I was reading about.)



    The Me Exception.  We all do it… and it isn’t particularly beneficial to us thriving.  It might even be dangerous to the greater good!



    Listen in below as we explore your Me Exception.



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    • 19 min
    Is Micro-Quitting Keeping You from Thriving?

    Is Micro-Quitting Keeping You from Thriving?

    Do you micro-quit?  I sure do.  And I need to quit micro-quitting!  Maybe you do, too.



    It undermines my goals (and likely, your goals too).  And it keeps you from thriving.



    What is micro-quitting?  Well, if you quit something (an activity, a job, a sport, a hobby, etc.), you stop doing it.  You step away from it.



    But when you micro-quit, you don’t follow through on the smaller building blocks of the bigger thing.  You don’t quit.  But you chip away at that bigger thing.



    For example, you are exercising.  Maybe you like to.  Maybe you want to be in better shape.  But either way, you have decided to exercise.



    You set your alarm for an early workout.  It goes off.  You decide to hit the snooze button and do a shorter session.  Or you give up on that next set of reps.  Even though it was in your plan… and it was your intention to do it.  You don’t.  You micro-quit on that plan, on that action.



    And in the process, you may be undermining your goals.  A little at a time, a micro-quit at a time.



    It might just be keeping you and me from thriving!



    I discuss micro-quitting (and how to micro-commit) in this episode of the Thriveology Podcast.  Listen below.



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    • 21 min
    Change Your Algorithms

    Change Your Algorithms

    All around the news, we are hearing about algorithms built into our social media.  It directs what we see and hear. It is how all social media decides what to feed you next.  If you like this video, then you might like this one.  If you know this person, then you may know this person.  If you respond to this ad, then you might respond to this one.  The task?  To keep you on the app or the website.  Because that is the thing about social media:  they want your attention and your time.  



    But guess what?  You have algorithms that are running inside of you.  They are your “Personal Algorithms.”  They are your habits that run your daily life.  And they don’t really function that differently than what the tech companies use.



    In essence, algorithms are simply If/Then formulas.  “If” this happens, “then” you do this.  In life, they represent your own daily habits and reactions.  The “If” is a trigger.  Something happens.  And when it does, you “then” do something.  If your stomach growls, then you grab a bite to eat.  If you are walking by the cookie jar, then you grab one and eat it.  If the alarm goes off, then you hit the snooze several times.  If/Then.



    Those algorithms can keep you stuck or free you up, depending on how you use them.



    My guest this week is Michael Balchan.  He is the CEO of Heroic.us, an app based approach to thriving more in life.  Listen in as we discuss your habits, your life, your algorithms, and how to be on your own “heroic journey.”



    Throughout his adulthood, Michael has been trying to not just “punch the clock,” but to thrive.  And over the years, he immersed himself in learning and executing.  He sought wisdom from others, then worked to apply it into his life.



    Along the way, he moved from finance professional to professional coach.  And on that path, he realized his own mission was to help the world to thrive.



    On this episode, we talk about ways to thrive, and a new resource to help you thrive.



    Listen below.



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    Heroic.us

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    • 47 min
    Start Here

    Start Here

    "Where should I start?", my client asked.



    Lots of times, we want to make changes, we want things to be different.  And sometimes, we want things to be different before we make any changes.



    We want a different starting point.



    If you've ever been at a park or mall, looking at the map to figure out where to go, you might notice that one very important feature, "You Are Here."  It points to the spot where you are now.



    Not where you want to go.  Not where you want to be.



    But where you are.



    If you are at the mall and see the store you want... on the other side of the mall, you might wish you were standing nearby, near the destination store.  Not all the way across the mall.



    But if you are on the other side of the mall, that is where you are.  Navigating to the destination from a closer point -- a point where you are NOT -- is not likely to be effective.



    You start where you are.



    And you might just find... it is a pretty good place to start.



    Listen to this podcast episode for how to start where you are, and why where you are is a pretty good place to start.



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    • 15 min
    How Do Others Treat You?

    How Do Others Treat You?

    "Why don't they treat me the way I want to be treated?", my client asked me.



    So, I asked, "Have you taught them how to treat you?"



    The silence let me know.  But after a pause, my client said, "I guess it never crossed my mind I needed to do that."



    The fact is that people do not know how we want to be treated... unless we are clear about how we are to be treated.  Otherwise, we get treated the way THEY want to treat US, and not the reverse.



    In the end, that leaves people frustrated, defensive, and feeling mistreated.



    Your BOUNDARIES are what lets people know how you want to be treated.  They are your "NO's" of life.  Things you will not let people do to(wards) you.



    If your boundaries are solid, you are already following this rule.  But if you find yourself being treated in ways you don't want to be, time to start following this rule, "Teach others how to treat you."



    Listen to this week's Thriveology Podcast for yet another Rule for Living.



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    • 21 min
    The Forgive Habit

    The Forgive Habit

    A few weeks ago, a coaching client noted her resistance to forgiving for fear that she would be vulnerable to being hurt.  I told her that was not at all true.  In fact, being alive leaves you open to hurt!



    But not forgiving?  It offers no protection.  It does, however, prolong the pain caused by some person or event.



    This client was not the only one who told me about her concern of forgiving.  I have heard it over and over through my three decades of counseling and coaching.



    Most people have fallen into a habit of hanging on to the hurt, of not forgiving.  They have a habit of UN-forgiving.



    Let me suggest that, just like any other habit, you can change this habit.  You can foster a Forgive Habit.  There, you more quickly work toward forgiving the hurts and pains you feel from events and others.  And in the process, you find freedom to move forward with a thriving life.



    In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss The Forgive Habit and how to foster it.



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    Why Forgive?

    How to Forgive

    Teaching Others How to Treat You

    How to Set Boundaries

    The Forgive Process Book

    • 17 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
81 Ratings

81 Ratings

Danib120 ,

Compelling

I love how this podcast causes me to look at things deeper. For example the “can’t” and “SSC” episodes. Lee’s topics are always interesting, his voice is calming, and his invitations to apply what he’s offering are always filled with grace. Recently he had a guest on and I loved that variation.

Marlee Baucom ,

Such a great podcast!!

Loving the conversations about dealing with challenges during quarantine.

Stavros Mastrogiannis ,

I am so glad I discovered your podcast

Great, down to earth advice. Love listening to your podcast!

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