I began my journey into motherhood at the age of 40. I quickly discovered that starting motherhood later in life was a lonely place. The truth is that I had very little in common with other mothers who had children my girls’ age, and that has not changed over time. It was apparent that mothers in my situation need a place they can find honesty, a place where perfection is not required, a place where you don’t need to feel alone. If you were looking for that place, you have found it!
Discipline: Love and Logic Saved Me!
What is Love and Logic? It's an approach that allows children to make decisions, affordable mistakes, and experience natural consequences. It uses humor, hope, and empathy to build and strengthen the adult-child relationship. It may sound too good to be true, but all it really works! As I enter the teen years, I find myself returning to those early lessons. It's never too late to help your child find freedom in self-discipline!
Discipline: I’m Glad I Spanked my Child!
When Andy started hurting her sister, my husband and I found ourselves discussing spanking. As a child of an abusive father, I didn't want to physically harm my child. What would I be teaching her if I hit her after she hit someone? That discipline meant freedom? Or that it meant terror? It took one instance of spanking her to set me on a completely different path—one that was better for our family, for my children, for me as a parent, and as an individual.
Discipline: The True of Meaning Discipline
What do we really mean by the word discipline? If you listen to the word, "discipline" comes from the root word "disciple." It means somebody who learns or somebody who's guided. As parents, that means it's our job to teach and guide our children in a positive way. I want my kids to reflect and grow from their mistakes, not to be terrified by them because we all make mistakes. Mistakes are good. It's how we learn and grow. I want my children to learn to understand that discipline equals freedom.
Forgiving My Mother
Why is it that with all the abuse I suffered at my father's hands, I could love him and forgive him? Yet I could not forgive my mother for her lack of protection? I expected unconditional love from her, but she never gave it to me. I finally forgave her after I realized I wasn't being fair to her. I accepted that though the love that she gave me was not enough for me, she gave me everything she was capable of giving.
Celebrating our Mothering Roots
Two of the most important women who influenced my mothering ability were my paternal grandmother, Ava, and my maternal grandmother, Jane. My grandmother Ava taught me to over-love my children—to express affection, to hug, to love them all of the time. Grandmother Jane taught me to do the things that needed to be done first and to never back away from doing a hard thing in life. These women had a tremendous impact on how I would develop my mothering definition.
My Mothering Motto
My mothering motto is inspired by the poem "On Children" by Kahlil Gibran. It basically sums up why we, as parents, shouldn't live our dreams through our children. Our dreams can become prisons for our children. Instead, we need to focus on helping them be the best version of themselves that they can be, whatever path they might choose.
Knowing I’m not alone
I’m a stay at home dad with three kids. There’s little if any literature out there to help help stay at home dads with parenting and relevant personal issues. Dr. B spoke to me, her episodes made me feel like I’m not alone, I’m dealing with the same issues as all other stay at home parents do. She’s been able to transcend sexes and make me feel like this is not about being just a mom or dad but rather about the demands on one’s emotional, psychological and physical being. I highly recommend Dr. B to ALL PARENTS!
I didnt realize how much I needed this
I'm not a mom, not by any stretch of the imagination, unless of course you count the number of friends kids I've "adopted" over the years. However, I wont lie, I've found these podcasts quite entertaining and insightful into my own life.....and possibly even learned a few things about myself in that special way that only Dr. B can offer!
Intelligent and practical common sense stories
I love the real life experiences and how she presents cultural and generational issues that gets lost in the younger generation of parenting.