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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

The Unburdened Leader Rebecca Ching, LMFT

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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

    EP 36: Leading with Dignity: Hard On Ideas, Easy On People with Rosalind Wiseman

    EP 36: Leading with Dignity: Hard On Ideas, Easy On People with Rosalind Wiseman

    We are seeing conflict move so quickly to chaos these days.Anger, entitlement and self-preservation can kick into overdrive when you feel devalued. We forget about relationships and fight to be right, no matter the cost.Civility is pushed aside more and more as we navigate our differences.The wounds of relational trauma, betrayal, neglect, poverty, racism are playing out in so many spaces of public gatherings and personal relationships.But now is not the time to throw our hands up and walk away from this messy state of affairs.Yes, there is a lot happening that takes us out of our space of leading from confidence, clarity and calm. It is inevitable that our emotions will overwhelm us at some point.But it is essential that we cultivate spaces together that encourage conflict that moves us towards solutions, not sensational soundbites.We have to look at how we communicate and the language we use. We have to intentionally set expectations and guidelines for what is okay and what is not okay.We have to lead with dignity, which means doing the deep inner work so we can show up and lead by facing our biases and recognizing the inherent worth of every person.Today’s guest fosters civil dialogue and inspires communities to build strength, courage and purpose.Rosalind Wiseman is the founder of Cultures of Dignity (https://culturesofdignity.com/); an organization that shifts the way communities think about our physical and emotional wellbeing by working in close partnership with the experts of those communities–young people, educators, policymakers, and business and political leaders.She is also an internationally recognized author of multiple books, including Queen Bees and Wannabes, the groundbreaking best-seller and basis for the movie Mean Girls and its subsequent Broadway adaptation.Listen to the full episode to hear:* How to define and foster a culture of dignity through deep listening and engaging with ideas* The real value of debating in good faith and what our culture gets wrong about “winning”* How the dynamics of authority and expertise we enforce with kids can defeat our purposes, and ways to turn them around* How to use principles of a culture of dignity to set expectations and norms for handling conflict and dysregulation* Why young people need more than just to know their rights, they need skills to implement them and a responsibility to advocate for otherLearn more about Rosalind Wiseman:* Cultures of Dignity (http://culturesofdignity.com/)* Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl WorldLearn more about Rebecca:* rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)* Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)* Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)Resources:*

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    EP 35: Navigating Career Pivots and Identity Crisis with Dr. Lindsay Padilla

    EP 35: Navigating Career Pivots and Identity Crisis with Dr. Lindsay Padilla

    We all grew up being told who was the creative one, who was the smart one, and who was the sporty one. There was no space for anyone to hold a multiplicity of skills and interests.
     
    Of course, none of us hold just one identity, skill or interest.
     
    So an identity crisis–or multiple identity crises–are inevitable.
     
    But an identity crisis can be a powerful turning point in your life and work.
     
    On one hand, you can keep doing what you’ve been doing—what you’re supposed to do. Or you can take a big risk and do something different.
     
    We all have PhDs on what we are supposed to do. We have breathed in the messages on what it means to be a success and responsible. Staying on the current path is oddly comfortable—even when it sucks.
     
    When you decide to honor the desire to grow and make a pivot with your work or take a risk with a significant relationship in your life, you are entering into a stage of growth that can be lonely and a bit disorienting.
     
    But leaders like us know there’s more to life than the status quo.
     
    My guest went through her own shifts in her career and identity and is growing a business and a life that looks very different from her original life plan.
     
    Dr. Lindsay Padilla is an ex-community college professor who accidentally started a business while on the tenure track. Now, as the CEO and co-founder of Hello Audio (http://helloaudio.fm/), Lindsay challenges online industry norms of unfinished courses and unconsumed content with her product.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * The surprising side hustle that sparked Lindsay’s move out of academia
    * The role networking played in her developing a business that capitalizes on her teaching knowledge and experience
    * How shifting careers changed not only her work identity, but Lindsay’s identity within her marriage
    * Why identity shifts can be a source of grief, even when the shift is good or necessary
    * Why your metrics of success may have to change with your identity
    * How a series of major personal and professional losses made Lindsay recommit to her taking care of her body and to keeping her values at the forefront of her business

     
    Learn more about Dr. Lindsay Padilla:

    * Hello Audio (http://helloaudio.fm/)
    * Instagram: @drlindsaypadilla (https://www.instagram.com/drlindsaypadilla/)
    * Hello Audio Facebook Group (http://www.facebook.com/groups/helloaudio)
    * Academics Mean Business Podcast (https://lindsaympadilla.com/podcast/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:
     

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

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    EP 34: The Unburdened Leader Roundtable Sessions: Kim Paulus, LMFT and Natalie Gutierrez, LMFT

    EP 34: The Unburdened Leader Roundtable Sessions: Kim Paulus, LMFT and Natalie Gutierrez, LMFT

    Leadership and discomfort are inextricably connected.
     
    So much personal and professional development teaches us to figure out the problem and quickly move on.
     
    But true resilience and growth require more than just the decision to “let it go.”
     
    Leading well requires tolerating the discomfort of being seen, not just at your filtered best, but really being seen in your strengths and also when you make a bad decision and navigate the fall-out, respond defensively to criticism, and struggle with your confidence.
     
    Bypassing or shutting down discomfort leads to numbing and disconnecting instead of feeling through the hard things.
     
    It is essential  that we get to know the burdens we carry and learn how to heal them so we can lead ourselves and others with more presence and generosity.
     
    On today’s show, it is an honor to give you a window into the friendship I have developed with two colleagues of mine, Natalie Gutierrez (https://traumacounselingnyc.com/) and Kim Paulus (http://www.kimpauluspsychotherapy.com/). These friendships have become so valuable to me because safe, trusted relationships that can hold up a mirror to my growth edges are so rich and valuable.
     
    Natalie and Kim help me kick off a new series for the podcast: The Unburdened Leader Roundtable Discussions, where I have conversations with colleagues, friends, and other leaders on topics we care deeply about.
     
    Natalie Gutierrez is Puerto-Rican LMFT whose work is dedicated to providing trauma-informed psychotherapy to Black, Indigenous, and other People of Color/Mixed race. She supports her clients in healing legacy burdens, ancestral trauma and the impact of colonial trauma.
     
    Kim Paulus is a biracial, queer psychotherapist and IFS clinical consultant in private practice in Oakland, California. With a background in social justice activism, she serves primarily the LGBTQIIA+ and BIPOC communities, including multiracial people and adult children of immigrant parents.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How our legacy burdens impact our ability to make friends, especially later in life
    * Why a mindset of scarcity makes deep connection difficult in our relationships and in our movements
    * How burdens of fear, self-doubt and mistrust keep us from being seen and what makes us feel safe to let our guards down
    * Why decoupling the cultural legacy burdens of power, privilege and historical trauma from shame and blame can help us take responsibility for doing the work to release them
    * How moving with urgency can bypass the slower work of making foundational changes

     
    Learn more about Kim Paulus, LMFT:

    * Kim Paulus MFT (https://kimpauluslmft.com/)
    * Instagram: @kimpauluslmft (https://www.instagram.com/kimpauluslmft/)

     
    Learn more about Natalie Gutierrez, LMFT:

    * Mindful Journeys MFT (https://traumacounselingnyc.com/)
    * Instagram: @nataliegutierrezlmft (https://www.instagram.com/nataliegutierrezlmft/)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources:

    * Fatimah Finney (https://www.healingdifferently.com/)
    *

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    EP 33: Befriending Your Anger with Graphic Artist Sacha Mardou

    EP 33: Befriending Your Anger with Graphic Artist Sacha Mardou

    Everyone gets angry.
     
    And most people have learned to hide their anger–often at great costs.
     
    There is a LOT of baggage we carry around the emotion of anger.
     
    These burdens come from our faith traditions, culture, family of origin, work, school and inform your relationship with anger today.
     
    We are constantly navigating the many rules of what is ok and what is not ok when it comes to expressing, let alone feeling, anger.
     
    In the process, anger can slowly start to consume us. Anger overwhelms  and it feels like it owns us—even as we’re doing our best not to show it.
     
    But contrary to what many of us have been taught, anger is an important and valuable emotion.
     
    You can own your anger instead of your anger owning you.
     
    To own your anger, you’ve got to trust yourself. You’ve got to be able to hang out with the anger you feel so you can identify where it’s coming from and what it’s trying to tell you.
     
    My guest today is no stranger to rumbling with her anger and leaning on IFS to help her better lead her emotions and her responses to them. Sacha Mardou (https://ifscomics.com/) is a cartoonist, author of the graphic novel series, Sky in Stereo, and many webcomics about therapy.
     
    Bringing readers with her on her therapy journey has changed everything for both Sacha and those of us who get to experience the profound impact of her work–making the world feel a little less lonely as we navigate the vulnerability of being human.
     
    Content Alert: There is mention in this conversation of sexual assault. We do not go into detail but it is mentioned in reference to a family member of Sacha’s around the 27 minute mark. Take care and don’t push through if it is too much.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How sharing her personal comics and sketches has helped Sacha feel less alone and process her own experiences as readers have shared their lives with her
    * How Sacha has built in space and boundaries around sharing her comics and processing the feelings and events she depicts
    * The process of noticing and working through anger and frustration with herself and her mother
    * How allowing herself to feel anger was key to working through a familial legacy burden and how sharing those experiences reduces shame and helps put an end to intergenerational traumas

     
    Learn more about Sacha Mardou:

    * Therapy Comics (https://ifscomics.com/)
    * Instagram: @mardou_draws (https://www.instagram.com/mardou_draws/)
    * Facebook: @sachamardou (https://www.facebook.com/sachamardou)
    * Sky in Stereo Vol. 1 (https://bookshop.org/books/sky-in-stereo-vol-1/9781941250310), Sky in Stereo Vol. 2 (https://bookshop.org/books/sky-in-stereo-vol-2/9781941250327)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

     
    Resources:

    * Virginia Satir (https://satirglobal.org/)
    * Pema Chodron (https://pemachodronfoundation.org/)
    * My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies (https://bookshop.org/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-9781942094470/9781942094470), Resmaa Menakem

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    EP 32: Committing to Sustainable Change and Giving a Sh*t About the Planet with Ashlee Piper

    EP 32: Committing to Sustainable Change and Giving a Sh*t About the Planet with Ashlee Piper

    We love to be right. So much so, that we often trade being right for being in relationship.
     
    Without relationships, we cannot experience meaningful change because the change we desire is rooted in relationships, not the certainty of being right.
     
    But dang, the expediency and certainty of being right sure are seductive.
     
    Pursuing being right cultivates the tunnel vision of perfectionism which runs rampant over our curiosity and creativity–the very ingredients needed for us to have a sustained impact.
     
    When we focus more on creating change instead of criticizing ourselves or others, we are freed up to get creative about our sustainability practices and modeling this for others too.
     
    But too often, perfectionism has a party. We want to get it right from the start and fear making mistakes.
     
    Or we worry about sustaining the work we are already doing, so we don't bother starting, counting ourselves out, believing our small actions do not make a difference.
     
    But they do.
     
    Climate solutions require collective action.
     
    Most solutions that are sustainable require collective action and leaders focused on being right end up cultivating conflict and criticism instead.
     
    Leaders who are committed to relationships end up cultivating creativity, community and the collective action we need to create sustainable solutions. We can all start or continue our sustainability journey with this in mind.
     
    My guest today leads many on the imperfect journey of sustainability.
     
    Ashlee Piper (http://www.ashleepiper.com/) is a political strategist turned vegan and eco-lifestyle expert and author of the bestselling–and very funny–book, Give a Sh*t: Do Good. Live Better. Save the Planet. Her work has been featured in/on Washington Post, Real Simple, BuzzFeed, GLAMOUR, NBC, CBS, and ABC, to name a few.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    How Ashlee remains committed to her values while evolving her approach past rigidity and toward connection
    Why we need openness, curiosity and tolerance along with accountability in our movements
    How her background in politics and policy work informs Ashlee’s approach to sustainability
    How Ashlee moved through a major setback to accepting the failure, revising her approach and trying again
    How perfectionism creates inaction and why it’s okay to embrace imperfection, flexibility, and accessibility in our sustainability strategies

     
    Learn more about Ashlee Piper:

    AshleePiper.com
    Instagram: @AshleePiper

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    EP 31: Building Resiliency and a Culture of Togetherness with Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza

    EP 31: Building Resiliency and a Culture of Togetherness with Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza

    How you lead yourself impacts how you lead others.
     
    And how you lead yourself and others has a ripple effect in all the spaces you live and work.
     
    It really is that simple. And that important.
     
    Unaddressed pain from difficult life experiences and traumas rob us of our capacity for connection.
     
    Unaddressed burdens of trauma impact how you make decisions on everything from parenting to public policy.
     
    Both individual and collective traumas perpetuate disconnection in all the spaces we live and work in.
     
    The ripple effect of disconnection takes us out of our innate ability to genuinely care about the well being of others. We become hyper focused on our own safety - sometimes at extreme costs to others.
     
    When we make decisions based on fear and self-protection, we end up generating more fear and dehumanize the people we lead.
     
    This is weighing us down individually and collectively. Our unaddressed trauma generates very real consequences in our communities.
     
    As my guest today wisely states, we have forgotten how to be human with each other. But when we do remember how to be human with each other, we can create more peaceful, more equitable, and more just communities.
     
    Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza (https://irobyn.com/) is a Transqueer Activist, Latinx Scholar, and a Public Theologian. They are the Founder of Activist Theology Project (https://activistheology.com/), and the author of Activist Theology (https://bookshop.org/books/activist-theology/9781506424644) & their forthcoming book Body Becoming.
     
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How supremacy culture goes beyond whiteness and why it is essential to understand its far-reaching impacts on how we lead and connect
    * Why you need to develop an ethics of engagement that prioritizes relationships
    * Why table fellowship is an important practice for creating conditions for togetherness and breaking the patterns of dissociative patterns and insecure attachments of supremacy culture
    * How an Activist Theology mindset helps move past inaction and fear to actions aligned with your values and capabilities
    * Why cancel and call-out culture fail to create sustainable change and how to build the transparency, honesty and vulnerability required for true accountability

     
    Learn more about Dr. Robyn Henderson-Espinoza:

    * iRobyn.com (https://irobyn.com/)
    * Activist Theology Project (https://activistheology.com/)
    * Twitter: @iRobyn (https://twitter.com/irobyn)
    * Instagram: @iRobyn (https://www.instagram.com/irobyn/), @ActivistTheology (https://www.instagram.com/activistheology/)
    * Activist Theology (https://bookshop.org/books/activist-theology/9781506424644)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)

    • 1h 3 min

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