What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson

When we explain to our partners and families that we need them to pitch in around the house, we sometimes hear back that the real problem is our too-high standards. That if we actually think "doing the laundry" means FOLDING the laundry, instead of leaving it in the dryer, that that is just too high a bar.
Eve Rodsky, author of FAIR PLAY, suggests that partners establish a "minimum standard of care" for household duties. But how does that get set? And is that really all it takes?
In this episode Amy and Margaret discuss:

How to use "community standards" to determine minimum standards of care

The tired old idea that women have impossible standards

Why it might be your system that's the problem, and not your partner


Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Sheila Wray Gregoire for Bare Marriage: EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: HOW DO WE DECIDE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE?


Listen to our Fresh Take with Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky's FAIR PLAY: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780525541943


Leslie Goldman for The Cut: The Marriages Hanging On by a $19 Deck of Cards


Buy Lyz Lenz's book THIS AMERICAN EX-WIFE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593241127



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This month, we're doing a deep dive series into mom guilt—why it's so pervasive and what we can do about it. You can find the playlist with all of the episodes in the series here.
Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, MD is a psychiatrist and author specializing in women's mental health. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times and the founder of Gemma, the first digital education platform dedicated exclusively to women’s mental health. Dr. Lakshmin is most passionate about empowering women and sees her clinical work as a perinatal psychiatrist as an extension of this mission.
In this episode we discuss mom guilt, stress, self-care, the anxiety of this ongoing pandemic moment, and how we can reclaim ourselves amidst it all. 
You can find Pooja on Instagram @poojalakshmin and at her website: poojalakshmin.com

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Are female friendships really more complicated than male friendships? Does that make our friendships more valuable?
Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator on the science of women’s platonic connections. In her new book FIGHTING FOR OUR FRIENDSHIPS, Danielle explains what makes female friendship strong as well as tips for making and keeping great friends. 
In this interview, Danielle and Amy discuss:

The three central affinities that bring women together: secrecy, symmetry, and support

How to compassionately approach friends who are flaky

Scripts for navigating common issues in friendships


Here's where you can find Danielle:

www.betterfemalefriendships.com

@daniellebayardjackson on IG

@thefriendshipexpert on TikTok

Listen to the "Friend Forward" podcast

Buy FIGHTING FOR OUR FRIENDSHIPS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780306830617



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This month, we take the Myers-Briggs personality test live on air—Margaret answers with her first instinct and Amy parses every question within an inch of its life. The results will and will not surprise you...

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Is one morning of runny eggs and burnt toast really fair payback for 364 days of work? Does "Mother's Day" have to mean packing the kids for a two-hour drive to see your mom and/or mother-in-law? Why does Mother's Day often feel like it's more trouble than it's worth?
Margaret and Amy discuss:

Anna Jarvis and the rather tragic origins of Mother's Day

"minor Mother's Day" vs "major Mother's Day," and how to deliver that message

How to ask for—and get—the Mother's Day that feels right for you


Margaret mentions "The Lanyard" by Billy Collins in this episode.
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This month, we're doing a deep dive series into mom guilt—why it's so pervasive and what we can do about it. You can find the playlist with all of the episodes in the series here.
"Mom guilt" is shorthand for what we think are two pretty different things:

the universal, low-grade feelings of inadequacy that our soccer snacks aren't as good as Monica's

the intense, deeply personal shame that we are definitely the only horrible parent who has ever allowed their baby to roll off the changing table


Yes, we take on these feelings of guilt and shame—but society is pretty quick to hand them to us. In this episode we discuss

why there isn't such a thing as "dad guilt"

why mom guilt might serve as a sort of magical thinking

if we can at least skip the feeling guilty about HAVING mom guilt part


Here are links to some studies and other writing on this topic that we discuss in this episode:

Lara Bazelon for The Atlantic: The End of Mom Guilt


Amy Paturel for The Washington Post: Why we feel 'mom guilt'—and how to stop


Fresh Take: Dana Dorfman on When Worry Works

Fresh Take: Carla Naumburg on Why You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent

Fresh Take: Sara Petersen on "Momfluencers"

Fresh Take: Susan Linn on How 'Big Tech' Targets Our Kids

Batram-Zantvoort, Stephanie et al, Frontiers in Global Women's Health: "Maternal self-conception and mental wellbeing..."   


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