Life Uncut Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne

Hey Lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark questions and weigh in on all of the dilemmas!

How incredibly awkward can facebook marketplace be? Laura's had the person who is way too keen for a chat and Britt has ended up... not paying for some boogie boards!If you received a message saying "Available when? I work m-f and get home around 9ish" what would you think it meant? There's a man in Florida who, ahhhh misunderstood those of us working weekdays...

Vibes for the week:Britt Podcast Trump TrialsKeeshia "Dancing for the Devil The 7M TikTok Cult " on NetflixLaura Hippo Closet Dehumidifier

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I'VE BEEN SLEEPING WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S BROTHERI have been friends with my bestie since primary school. We are in our early 20’s now. About 6 months ago I was staying at her house and I slept with her older brother. We had had a few drinks and it honestly just happened. I didn't say anything because I felt bad and thought it would never happen again. But, we have started sort of sleeping together… and now I have feelings! AHHHHH I am in so deep. What should I do? How do I know if it is worth seeing him seriously and risking the awkwardness with the whole family, and do I tell my friend regardless? I know she is going to be upset.
IS IT OK TO GHOST FRIENDS YOU'VE OUTGROWN? I am in a group chat with a few girls I went to high school with 10 years ago. I am close-ish with one, used to be close with two, then the other I never connect with. Every now and again the chat pops up about making plans and I never am really interested in being involved. I feel like I have to respond and make up a reason for not joining. I am asking, is it ok to ghost the chat? It feels harsh, but I can’t say “sorry guys I’ve outgrown the group”. The hard bit is that one of the girls I want to preserve my friendship with, and of course don’t want to seem ‘mean’ to the others. How do I approach this?
MY EX NAMED HIS DAUGHTER AFTER MEMy ex-fiance and I were together for a few years in our early twenties. After a few years of no contact we have since remained friendly and kept in touch with family updates, happy birthday etc. A couple of years ago he messaged me out of the blue after a few years and shared that he had a daughter. His message was friendly but he didn't share the daughter’s name which seemed like an odd omission at the time. We had planned a family and named our future kids so I did wonder if he had used *our* name. He popped up again today and curiosity got the better of me so I did a Facebook deepdive and within 10 minutes found his daughter's name. He hadn't borrowed *our* name but to my shock his daughter shared my name. I don't know what to think. I did some more research and it seems I am not the first person to ask this question. Many girls seem to be named after their fathers' ex-girlfriends, crushes, and mistresses. Is this a whole thing?

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There’s a huge amount of stigma associated with anything to do with our periods and for a lot of people, they may have spent years being told that they are dramatic, moody and irrational around the time of their period. As it turns out, it may not have just been ‘that time of the month’. They may experience a condition called PMDD or Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. 

As for any invisible health condition, having a name for it can be really validating and give you a sense that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. It also helps people around you understand what might be going on so this episode isn’t just for the girlies who experience extreme mood shifts like depression, irritability, anger and hopelessness around their period, it’s also for those of us who don’t so that we can be more supportive for a loved one who does. Today we have Dr Isobelle Smith, an endocrinologist with over 10 years of experience in hormones, joining us to unpack the ins and outs of PMDD.We chat:


What PMDD is and how it differs from PMS
The stigma of ‘erratic’ moods and emotional dysregulation
The possible causes of PMDD
PMDD being listed as a mental disorder
Treatment and management for PMDD
How PMDD changes over the course of your ‘reproductive’ years
PMDD in perimenopause and menopause
 Medical misogyny and advocating for your own health

 

You can find Dr Izzy Smith here

Izzy mentioned the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders here

And the resource that the Queensland Government put together here

 

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Hey Lifers!First up today, we hear what 'Life Uncut' could have been. We also went on holidays to the same place but actively chose not to see each other! Britt got into competitive arguments & Matt surprised Laura with a guest on their family holiday. More highbrow chat; Laura shares a tiktoker who got a bullet vibrator stuck up their butt. Unfortunately it was on. 

Then we are joined by political expert and journalist Charles Croucher to get our heads around Donald Trump's criminal conviction, making him the first president in U.S. history to be convicted of a crime. Charles breaks down Trump's cover up of a 'hush money' payment to porn star Stormy Daniels in the lead up to his presidential election in 2016. We break down whether it's likely Trump will go to jail, whether he could run for president from prison and what other cases might be coming up in the future. 

We speak about what the actual crime was, and how Trump's team tried to use everything in their power to shame and silence a porn star, claiming that she wasn't a credible witness simply because of her job.

You can find more from Charles here.

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.

ON THE SHOW


Mitch shares his sister's MS battle
Laura puts her foot in it
We put Britt's boyfriend to the test
Mitch got caught in a compromising position 


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Hey Lifers!

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas!

Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode!

Vibes for the week:Britt - Apples Never Fall on BingeKeeshia - "Hale" on Spotify Hale Breathwork.  Laura - We the wild Neem Oil Spray

Then we get into your questions:


PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPSI matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.” Questions:1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not.2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match?


HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILYMy partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship! 
PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTHThe most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??

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Joining the podcast today is domestic violence advocate Bianca Unwin. Bianca has degrees in both criminology and psychological sciences and she is joining us today to speak about a loophole known as ‘emergency management days’ that over 7000 prisoners could be using to receive reductions in their prison sentences. Many of these convicted offenders are violent and high risk offenders.

Bianca’s sister Katie was a 29 year old mother of two when her partner Shane Robertson beat her to death while the couple’s child slept in a room next door. Shane was convicted but received a below average sentence of 19 years without parole. However, due to legislation enacted by the Victorian government allowing sentence reductions for prisoners under ‘emergency management days,’ a provision especially impactful during COVID-19, his sentence may be substantially reduced.

Bianca joins the podcast today to speak about the contrast between what we all seem to be screaming from the rooftops in our fight to protect women, and the government’s leniency on reducing the sentence of violent criminals. We also speak about the inadequate rehabilitation of violent perpetrators and how we all need to be showing the government that these reductions in sentences are not what the community wants.

Please take the time to click on this link and sign Bianca’s petition

PLEASE SIGN THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION

You can listen to Bianca's previous episode here!

Some further resources are available below:

Crimes Amendment (Remissions of Sentences) Bill 2021

Released Prisoners Returning to Prison

CORRECTIONS ACT 1986 - SECT 58E Emergency management days

Victorian prisoners get unfair sentence reductions as a result of COVID-19 restrictions, Opposition says

 

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