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94: What if my child leaves the church? Nurturing relationships when beliefs change. Fight Like a Mother
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- Ментальное здоровье
This podcast episode is a bit of a shift from my normal mental health content, but I feel this topic is so vital for so many families today, I am seeing so many parents struggle. So many families are having shifts in religious beliefs within their families and it can be challenge for relationships that were often built upon those religious beliefs and values. Because our religious traditions and beliefs are rooted in the Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints, we talk about our beliefs within that framework, but the principles apply to any relationship where beliefs differ.
Today's guest is none other than my oldest child Nathan. Nathan is one of my favorite people on earth. He is a deep thinker, kind, steady, funny and is such a pleasure to be around. Nathan served a 2 year mission for the LDS church to Washington. Within the last year or so Nathan's religious beliefs have shifted and he has chosen to walk away from the church and beliefs he was raised with. Nathan is one of my favorite people on earth and I cannot imagine not having a close realtionship with him even through this shift of belief for him.
We have been able to maintain and even improve our relationship with Nathan during this time even though we still participate in the church. It takes humility on both side, willingness to listen, opening our hearts and minds and respectful boundaries. For us as parents it has been vital to expand our faith and not see things in black and white.
When our religious beliefs are deeply rooted through generations (both my husband and i have pioneer ancestors who crossed the plains to Utah with the Mormon pioneers) and so much of your life is informed by the culture and traditions of that church, it can almost feel like a personal attack when your child steps away. The LDS church isn't just a church, it's a lifestyle and affects the very core of your identity. So we often get defensive and angry and hurt.
In this episode we have the hard conversations and talk about what it looks like to have a deep, loving, respectful relationship when our teen or young adult (or even grown adult) child leaves the church we beleive with every fiber of our being
This podcast episode is a bit of a shift from my normal mental health content, but I feel this topic is so vital for so many families today, I am seeing so many parents struggle. So many families are having shifts in religious beliefs within their families and it can be challenge for relationships that were often built upon those religious beliefs and values. Because our religious traditions and beliefs are rooted in the Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints, we talk about our beliefs within that framework, but the principles apply to any relationship where beliefs differ.
Today's guest is none other than my oldest child Nathan. Nathan is one of my favorite people on earth. He is a deep thinker, kind, steady, funny and is such a pleasure to be around. Nathan served a 2 year mission for the LDS church to Washington. Within the last year or so Nathan's religious beliefs have shifted and he has chosen to walk away from the church and beliefs he was raised with. Nathan is one of my favorite people on earth and I cannot imagine not having a close realtionship with him even through this shift of belief for him.
We have been able to maintain and even improve our relationship with Nathan during this time even though we still participate in the church. It takes humility on both side, willingness to listen, opening our hearts and minds and respectful boundaries. For us as parents it has been vital to expand our faith and not see things in black and white.
When our religious beliefs are deeply rooted through generations (both my husband and i have pioneer ancestors who crossed the plains to Utah with the Mormon pioneers) and so much of your life is informed by the culture and traditions of that church, it can almost feel like a personal attack when your child steps away. The LDS church isn't just a church, it's a lifestyle and affects the very core of your identity. So we often get defensive and angry and hurt.
In this episode we have the hard conversations and talk about what it looks like to have a deep, loving, respectful relationship when our teen or young adult (or even grown adult) child leaves the church we beleive with every fiber of our being
41 мин.