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Actor Matthew Del Negro (The Sopranos, The West Wing, Scandal) describes his career as being told "No" for a living. Here, he gets up close and personal with top-shelf folks from all walks of life about the 10,000 "No" s they've had to endure and struggles they've had to overcome on their journey to where they are today. Inspiring, raw, honest and funny, this podcast will help you see that the people you think have "got it made" put their pants on one leg at a time, just like you.

10,000 "No" s with Matthew Del Negro Matthew Del Negro

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Actor Matthew Del Negro (The Sopranos, The West Wing, Scandal) describes his career as being told "No" for a living. Here, he gets up close and personal with top-shelf folks from all walks of life about the 10,000 "No" s they've had to endure and struggles they've had to overcome on their journey to where they are today. Inspiring, raw, honest and funny, this podcast will help you see that the people you think have "got it made" put their pants on one leg at a time, just like you.

    Disruptive Innovator, Miki Agrawal, Founder of Tushy, Thinx & Wild 

    Disruptive Innovator, Miki Agrawal, Founder of Tushy, Thinx & Wild 

     
    Miki Agrawal was named "Fast Company's Most Creative People, "Young Global Leader" by the World Economic Forum and Inc's "Most Impressive Women Entrepreneurs".  She is the co-founder Tushy, Thinx and Wild Restaurants... which are valued at a combined $150Million dollars.  She is currently the CEO of Tushy.  She has found success by being a disruptive innovator - building each one of her companies by taking something that was challenging to her, and underserved in the market place, mostly because the topics they dealt with were considered taboo by the business world, and standing firm on her beliefs in the face of critics and doubters. 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

     Facing high expectations from parents and gaining drive from knowing what they do is never enough, (4:37). “There’s a part of me that is chilled and laid back. I’m pretty intense and hardcore about everything – immigrant family mentality.”, (7:12). Desiring to genuinely chill out at times to calm her mind, (9:08). Spending her entire life as an entrepreneur and having a ‘getting after it’ mentality, (9:30). Playing soccer and badminton at a young age, (9:58). Being taken off the basketball team by her dad, (10:45). Having been the smallest people on the field with her sister, (12:57). “You lose a play, you have to get up, get back and your head into the game. I think it lends well into entrepreneurship.”, (13:27). Working summer jobs at LA for different film studios at 19 and raising nearly $10,000, (14:35). Playing D-1 soccer all 4 years at Cornell, (20:10). Quitting with her sister after her coach wanted to bench her last 2 games senior year, (18:37). “My sister and I found out the investment banks were holding first come first serve interviews for anyone in the communication and arts school. They pick one or two from the school to bring in a creative perspective.”, (20:38). Getting to the final round of interviews for every investment bank with her sister and receiving a job, (23:10). Starting her job at the investment bank in NYC during 9/11, (23:50). “It made me realize that life is so short. I calculated from 22 years old to the point you die, you only have 21,000 days to live. The average human dies at around 80-85. 21,000 dies to live and what are we going to do with our lives? Are we going to spend it chasing down money or are we going to follow our dreams or passions?”, (25:39). Making it into the New York Magic soccer team, (27:56). Working in the film business as a production assistant in NY after investment banking, (30:26). Wanting to create NYC’s first gluten-free, organic pizza in 2004 after giving up eating pizza, (32:09). Bringing together a group of people to start a business idea, (37:10). “I always lead with, ‘How can I help you first?’ before asking for help first.”, (37:35). “That is what I keep on telling people. Just DM people and tell them you want to work for them for free for a couple of months.”, (40:52). “You have to know what your zone of genius us. My zone of genius is definitely not operations. I’m a creative. I come up with the ideas, the campaign, the aesthetics and I find people.”, (46:00). Breaking down the stigmas of talking about reproductive health for women, (49:08). Delivering 3,000 pairs of underwear for women, (52:57). Not being allowed to say the word, ‘period’ on ads in NYC and made a full press story about it, putting them on the map, (56:00). Finding Hello Tushy from realizing the inefficiency of toilet paper, (58:00). “I find we live in a world where we overthink everything. No, we figure things out. We learn, we grow from them. What has been revealed to me?”, (1:17:38//1:05:58). 

     

    GUEST LINKS: 

    Website: Miki's Personal Site 

    Instagram: @MikiAgrawal 

    Twitter: @TwinMiki 

    Book: Disrupt-Her: A Manifesto for the M

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    Trauma Surgeon, Navy SEAL, Gymnastics Champion, Breakdancer, Dr. Christopher J. Burns, MD, FACS

    Trauma Surgeon, Navy SEAL, Gymnastics Champion, Breakdancer, Dr. Christopher J. Burns, MD, FACS

     
    Dr. Christopher J. Burns is a trauma surgeon in Boston and a member of Harvard Medical School’s faculty. Before that, he was a US Navy SEAL. But the reason he is on 10,000 “No”s is that before that he was one of my best friends at Boston College.
     
    Burns’ life reads like the script of Forest Gump and this conversation runs the gamut from two old friends reminiscing and busting chops to ample amounts of wisdom being dropped by a man who has been exposed to the extremities of the human experience both as a soldier and a surgeon.  At the very least, it will leave you wanting to join us for linguini with white clam sauce in Boston’s North End. 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

    Having a first impression of Chris as a leader while we met at BC, (5:15). Clarifying his role as an instructor of surgery at Harvard Medical School, (11:42). “There are certain phrases and teachings my dad has given me through the years, and he has always said, ‘You don’t actually know something until you can teach it.’”, (18:05). Describing his childhood activities and moments with family, (19:37). Recalling the start of his gymnastics team experience at age 6, (24:10). Knowing that he wanted to be a doctor since he was 5, (26:40). Discovering break dancing in his youth, (29:10). Completing over 20 operations on a Marines medic after taking a shot in Afghanistan, (36:36). Operating on pilots after being shot down by an RPG, (38:30). Being born with fluid in his ear making him hear almost as if he was underwater, (40:50). Relearning how to speak while seeing a speech pathologist, (41:30). “I had a problem and the surgeon fixed it. That was a very real tangible for me, and I thought I want to be a surgeon because I want to take a problem and fix it. I knew that at age 5.”,(44:06). Aspiring to become a fighter pilot prior to the release of Top Gun, (47:07). Describing how a SEAL officer leads from the front of the lines, (50:35). “I had my silly little reserve ID, and I said, ‘My name is Chris. I think I want to be a SEAL. Can I talk to someone?’”, (52:45). “These are not superheroes; These are just men who can do super things.”, (56:20). Relying on his religion to cope with encountering death in both the fields of a SEAL and surgeon, (1:03:46). “There are a few moments in my life where I have been privileged to be a fly on the wall. I happen to be in the room for a reason, but really I was a fly on the ball because I was basically irrelevant.”, (1:16:00). Recalling moments where he only listened to a conversation with SEAL Team 6, (1:16:20). “People talk about the new normal. By day 3, I’m getting my ego shoved down my throat and getting completely beat up. Walking through the front door isn’t as exciting anymore.”, (1:24:20). “Sacrifice hurts to the bone. To some degree, I may tell myself, ‘You have no idea how hard it is going to be because it is far harder than I thought it was going to be.’”, (1:41:58). 

     

    GUEST LINKS: 

    Website: Boston College 

    Website: Harvard Medical School 

    Website: Brigham and Women's Hospital 

    Website: South Shore Hospitalg 

     

    SHOW LINKS: 

    Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show 

    Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.) 

     

    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:  

    Instagram:  @mattydel 

    Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro 

    Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site 

    LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro 

    Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST  

    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: 

    Ep 90: Melissa Ponzio, Teen Wolf's Mama McCall: Honesty and Authenticity on  the Journey to Being a Professional Actor 

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    Amanda Clayton, The Long, Long Road to City on a Hill 

    Amanda Clayton, The Long, Long Road to City on a Hill 

    Amanda Clayton has hit her stride, with her latest portrayal of Cathy Ryan, the tough-as-nails wife of an armed car robber, on Showtime's City on a Hill.  But long before she was dazzling millions in their living rooms, she was grinding, first as an athlete and then as a waiter and theater actor.  She eventually nabbed a series regular role on Tyler Perry's television series, If Loving You is Wrong, where she did nearly 100 episodes, but it wasn't easy getting there.  We take a deep dive into the long grind of becoming a working actor.  Amanda admits to the sometimes infuriating, embarrassing and painful aspects of her journey, making this episode funny, heartbreaking and, ultimately redemptive.  If you're not in the entertainment business, this episode will entertain you. If you're an aspiring actor, wondering whether you'll ever get your break, this episode is a must listen. 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

    “I told my mom when I was 3 years old that I wanted to live inside the television,” (4:13). Constantly being involved in sports and cheerleading with her 2 sisters, (8:22). Discovering theater will consume most of her time while in college, (10:41). “There was that thing about affecting people that was the truest, purest form of it. That 3 year old mentality *gasp* ‘This is awesome. I want to do this to somebody.’ I want everybody to feel this way. That feeling of want to cry so badly.”, (15:17). “I was so shy. As far as putting myself out there in front of anybody, I was an athlete and a cheerleader. I had a ton of friends and it was a wonderful experience in high school, but I was so reserved and embarrassed to put myself out there in front of anybody,” (16:54). Taking her mother’s advice on going into college as undecided with her studies, (22:32). “It was my first time taking this stand on my own. This is my time and this is what I want to do. I’m going to go with the theatre group and sign up for theatre classes,” (23:42). Seeking out acting opportunities in New York with family, (27:02). Leaving college and moved to NYC at 19 after convincing her parents that acting is her passion, (30:30). Watching the 9/11 attacks unfold from Brooklyn, (31:03). “I think that was oddly enough a big catalyst too, to be like, ‘Nothing is going to stop us from doing what we want to do,'” (32:37). “I bring it up too because without those things, I don’t think I would’ve believed enough in myself,” (35:14). “As actors in general, I think we always need that, ‘Hey, you’re doing great,’ because we are so wrapped up,” (37:58). Encountering pressure from parents to have a fallback plan, (42:57). “I had no idea whatsoever how to run my own business of being an actor. I had no idea of how to promote myself,” (46:30). Living in LA for 7 years and met an agent at the restaurant she was waitressing in, (49:34). “It was just waiting for the thing to come and then, I got into this really awful habit of waiting for something to happen,” (54:42). Losing her best friend to suicide in NY, (57:52). “Every opportunity I decided finally to just go, ‘Ok great, ok perfect. I’m doing this. I finally got that job,’ I started making money right away,” (1:02:25). Being approached by an agent, but they didn’t know what they were doing, (1:07:22). “And I started getting myself really ready to get into that door. Now I can do what I’ve always been able to do, but now I have to do it for the right people,” (1:19:29). Receiving a first audition for a sitcom to be a season regular, (1:20:37). “This is where I’m supposed to be, and I know it is the right time, so I sat down and no one acknowledged me. No one even looked up from a desk. Nothing at all,” (1:22:23). “I want to go in there and I don’t want to let them win. That is not fair. I almost gave up because of them,”

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    Transform Your Body & Life with Jay Ferruggia REPOST 

    Transform Your Body & Life with Jay Ferruggia REPOST 

    As we continue our holiday hiatus, we give you another one of last year's transformational New Year's interviews, this time with top strength coach and transformation specialist, Jay Ferruggia. If you are in the midst of beginning your New Year's resolutions, you don't want to miss this one.  Enjoy... 

     

    Jay Ferruggia is bald, jacked and tattoed.  So it's easy to be intimidated by him or judge him from afar, as I once did.  But scratch the surface and under the muscular build is a sensitive, inquisitive soul who has made it his life's work to strengthen others physically, psychologically and spiritually, as he did for me for a recent role.  Our conversation covers topics as specific as the benefits of sea salt and top training techniques, to Jay's systematic strategies to overcome his "introvert" label and become a super-connector.  Jay's transformation from a "skinny-fat" kid from Jersey to influencing tens of thousands of followers through his books, his podcast, his articles and his weekend retreat events is the stuff of movies.  You will come away knowing more about how to transform your body and, more importantly, your mind in order live up to your full potential. 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

    How I judged Jay based on his appearance before ever speaking to him, (4:57). Growing up watching Stallone and Schwarzenegger, (6:41). Contracting tuberculosis during Sophomore year of college, (7:39). Creating one of the original underground gyms, (8:59). Writing for numerous health and fitness magazines, (10:53). The science behind fitness training, (12:44). Considering your stress levels, gut health and sleep before stepping into the gym, (14:12). Mastering technique in the gym, (15:11). Seeking out the information that is right for you, (16:47). Confusion around different types of diets, (17:51). “Science shows you need to train a body part or muscle group at least twice a week.”, (20:29). Training to become better, not sore, (22:14). Misconceptions around salt, (24:33). Moving out to Santa Monica 8 years ago to begin a transformation, (26:50). Urging others to reinvent themselves, (28:07). “You can’t preach and teach people, you just need to lead by example.”, (32:19). Being a Super-Connector, (37:01). Pushing yourself to do uncomfortable things, (39:07). Taking the reins with meeting new people, (42:32). Limiting the number of tasks in a day, (46:33). “Sometimes asking ‘Why?’ five, six, seven times is important.”, (49:31). Intertwining of masculinity and sensitivity, (54:47). “Now, I tell people when I have weakness and need help.” , (56:56). The Ben Franklin Effect, (57:16). Rewriting the narrative of needing alone time, (59:05). 

     

    LINKS: 

    Website: More on Jason 

    Instagram: @JayFerruggia 

    Podcast: Jason's Renegade Radio Podcast 

    Book: Jason's Renegade Diet Book 

     

    Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020) 

     

    Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show 

     

    Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.) 

     

    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: 

     

    Ep 11: Panic Attacks to Perfect Life, Craig Ballantyne 

    Ep 13: Dumpster Diver to “Overnight” Millionaire, Bedros Keuilian 

     

    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  

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    Transform Your New Year With Charlie "Rocket" REPOST 

    Transform Your New Year With Charlie "Rocket" REPOST 

     
    As we continue our holiday hiatus, we give you last year's New Year's day interview again because it is so inspirational in terms of Transformation.  It applies as much as we kick off 2020 as it did at the start of 2019.  Enjoy...
     
    Charlie Rocket ran a multi-million dollar business where he managed hip-hop artists like 2 Chainz into Grammy Awards.  But he weighed over 300 lbs and was diagnosed with a brain tumor so he decided to do what he has done his entire life:  dream the biggest dream and then set about working toward attaining it, regardless of whether his family and friends thought he was crazy.  One of those dreams was to be a Nike Athlete, which came true when his fan-created commercial of his transformation from obesity to Ironman went viral and he was flown to Nike's headquarters in Oregon.  That trip led to Charlie being featured alongside Lebron James and Serena Williams in a commercial with Colin Kaepernick... something that Charlie had been writing in his journal for months prior. 

     

    His worldview has such simplicity that it is unique:  to remove the brain and allow himself to dream like a child.  But his follow-through and workmanship, fueled by these dreams, is what has so many people talking about him.  10,000 "No"s intended to be on a two month break for the holidays, but this inspiring conversation felt too pertinent to release on any other day of the year besides New Year's Day.  Launch into your 2019 with the wise words of Charlie Rocket! 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

    Coming from a long line of vacuum salespeople, (8:11).  Getting fired by Soldier Boy at age 18 and deciding to rep musicians as a talent manager, (11:17).  "If you want to be successful, you have to be of servitude, (12:50).  Posting hundreds of MySpace comments for hours every single day to build an audience one person at a time, (14:00).   Driving the entire coast to 'Salute the DJ' and build an army of DJs who would ultimately help him and his artists win a Grammy, (14:45).  Serving DJs by making it easier for them to access their music better by building the biggest DJ website in the world for Urban DJs, DJservicepack.com, (16:41).  How Charlie executed these big dream ideas, (18:07).  "The key thing is, I shut down my brain...", (19:47).  Walking away from a very successful music career at 305lbs, with a brain tumor, to become an athlete, (21:41).  Why Nike was so special to Charlie from a young age, (25:17).  How Charlie turned his recurring journal entry of a year into a reality, (29:01).  Charlie's dichotomy of being a dreamer and a pragmatic practitioner, (30:46).  Being honest and asking for help from followers, (35:44).  Mobilizing a fan base to help launch a book, (37:13).  Shrinking the brain tumor through a diet of living foods, (39:45).  The word "no" really means "not yet", (40:46).   The "Buy, Cry or Die" theory, (41:01).  What Charlie learned about marketing from PDiddy, (42:39).  Bad relationship to spending money, "We spend it and get it back, we that invented that.", (45:29).  The negatives knock you down, but they're also the tools to your positives... so you can change anything, (47:49).  Charlie's lone regret about not spending enough time with his grandfather because he was chasing the flash of the music industry(48:31). 
     

    LINKS: 

    Website: More on Charlie 

    Twitter: @CharlieJabaley 

    Podcast: Charlie Rocket Show 

    YouTube: Fan Made Nike Commercial 

    YouTube: Nike's 30th Anniversary Ad 

    Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020)  

    Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show 

    Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)

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    REPOST Recent Interview with Matt on Intentional Performers  

    REPOST Recent Interview with Matt on Intentional Performers  

     
    Matt was a guest on Brian Levenson's podcast, Intentional Performers on October 9, 2019.  Due to the holiday hiatus, and with the generosity of Brian, we are reposting it here on 10,000 "No"s.  Here is the description from Brian's feed...
     
    Matthew Del Negro joins us on this week's episode of the podcast.  Matthew is an actor that has played a wide range of roles in features both on TV and in theater.  He has worked on TV shows such as Scandal, Sopranos, West Wing, Showtime's United States of Tara, MTV's Teen Wolf, and now he's on a show called Goliath on Amazon Prime.  He is a philosopher at heart, a deep thinker, and he will talk about how he's been reflective throughout his life and how that's led him to this journey of acting.  He's also a podcast host, and his podcast 10,000 No's has all kinds of incredible guests.  Matthew is on a journey and he's trying to find out how he can be a great actor and great at other parts of his life.  He is obsessed with adversity and hearing no, and how others have developed a relationship with adversity and how to turn failures or no's into opportunities. 

     

    SHOW NOTES: 

    In this episode, they discuss what he was doing in San Diego (8:19), what life was like growing up (11:41), the lessons he learned from sports (12:30), where turning no’s into yes’s came from for him (17:40), when lacrosse came into his life (19:58), what it was like playing lacrosse at BC (21:35), how he got into acting (26:00), the moment he decided he wanted to be an actor (29:10), how his parents reacted to him saying he’d be an actor (30:50), what his vision was like in his 20’s (29:00), how he’s changed as an actor (30:40), his religious framework (36:40), the similarities and differences between lacrosse and being an actor (41:40), the systems or processes he’s put in place to handle rejection (44:00), the priming he does before he performs (46:35), questioning of his identity (50:50), how he defines success (54:40), what makes a great story (58:30), how to cultivate connection (59:20), his mindfulness techniques (1:02:00), and what has most helped shape him (1:04:20) 

    Thank you to Matthew for coming on the podcast. We encourage you to check out his podcast, “10,000 No’s” at https://www.10000nos.com/. You can find him on Instagram @mattydel, Twitter @MatthewDelNegro, Facebook @delnegrofansite, and you can email him at info@10000nos.com. 

    Lastly, if you liked this episode and/or any others, please support us at Patreon or follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. 

     
    LINKS: 

    Intentional Performers with Brian Levenson Podcast on Podbean 

    Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020) 

    Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show 

    Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)
     

    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: 

    Ep 92:  What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded for Later 

    Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act 

     

    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com 

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