At a Total Loss Katherine Lazar

I tackle the most requested topic from my followers "how do handle anxiety during pregnancy after loss". So I polled and here I read off all the things y'all sent to me regarding this topic. You will hear be reading so if watching it helps, go to my At a Total Loss Youtube page :)...Here is what I talk about:

Your questions & concerns:
Trying to conceive & how to know you're ready
Ultrasounds
Hope vs anxiety
What you can control vs what you cannot
Having a game plan/protocol
Coping with crippling anxiety
Announcing vs waiting to announce
At home Dopplers
Intuition vs fear
Guidance from our Angel Babies or Signs from them
MEDICATION DURING PREGNANCY
What was helpful during PAL.
omg and so much more...

I CANNOT stress this enough: consult with all of your medical professionals, research and do what's best for you based off an educated position. I am NOT a doctor so everything I say is based off MY personal experiences and all the experiences that were shared with me through my audience.

Links to things I mentioned in the episode:
LossLink coming soon! Join this private community of loss moms who want to connect virtually or in person. Sign up for the waiting list here: https://stan.store/thekatherinelazar
Count the Kicks: https://countthekicks.org/
The book "Spirit Babies': https://a.co/d/0iRCROcy
The book "Signs": https://a.co/d/0aU9bKHy
Message me if there are any I didn't include that you want.

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!
Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop
 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 
Youtube: @thekatherinelazar
Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com
Website: www.katherinelazar.com
 
Some helpful resources:
https://countthekicks.org/
https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
https://www.tommys.org/
 
Local to Atlanta:
https://www.northsidepnl.com/
 

Amanda, Junie's Mama, comes on to talk about getting your Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Birth Plan together. Juniper was born still at 38 weeks due to an undiagnosed small placenta (if you want to hear the whole story, find the episode 'Amanda + Juniper'). Since then, Amanda has been a huge advocate for preventative care as well as a resource for so many mama's who have experienced a tragic loss.

We know how much fear there is around the birth of the baby after loss, so Amanda has a list of things that we can think about doing to prepare. We also dive into protocols & preventative measures for the pregnancy as we found that having a game plan helped so much while navigating this scary time.

Helpful Tools & Resources:
Count the Kicks: https://countthekicks.org/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwpZWzBhC0ARIsACvjWRN5OR6cSALmSotFiyijSpzl3PoZZ8SoYRfvvfn_qrDZ5pLzOlpIN_caAnEdEALw_wcB

Measure The Placenta: https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

Dr Harvey Kliman at Yale: https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/harvey-kliman/

Find Amanda on IG at @orangeafmama https://www.instagram.com/orangeafmama/?hl=en

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!
For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!
Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop
 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 
Youtube: @thekatherinelazar
Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com
Website: www.katherinelazar.com
 
Some helpful resources:
https://countthekicks.org/
https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
https://www.tommys.org/
 
Local to Atlanta:
https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Molly talks about her precious Roman who was stillborn at full term just over a year ago. Molly provides insight on her faith, her support group, and gives advice to anyone who is afraid to experience joy after baby loss. We also talk about signs and how she whole heartedly believes she receives them letting her know Roman is ok. The stories will give you chills.

Find Molly on IG at @champagnegetaway https://www.instagram.com/champagnegetaway/


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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!
For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!
Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop
 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 
Youtube: @thekatherinelazar
Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com
Website: www.katherinelazar.com
 
Some helpful resources:
https://countthekicks.org/
https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
https://www.tommys.org/
 
Local to Atlanta:
https://www.northsidepnl.com/

I asked what y'all wanted to hear about. So many of you wanted to discuss what else we lose after our babies die. I took your submissions and I discuss the following in this episode:

The inability to relax and always have to run at max capacity.
The loss of innocence
Losing our faith.
Becoming an extreme introvert now.
Unable to look at old photos
Accepting this reality
No longer having a tolerance for petty stuff
Debilitating Anxiety that we never had before
Loss of trust that things will be ok.
And a lot more...

I also go on a tangent about lawn maintenance so I'm sorry lol.

I do a lot of these polls to see what y'all want to discuss, so if you don't already follow on Instagram, go here and be a part of the next poll>>> @thekatherinelazar

Want to watch this episode? Go to my YouTube At a Total Loss channel!>>> YOUTUBE

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store! At a Total Loss Shop

Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com



Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/



Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Courtney's precious Conrad was born still after a seemingly perfect pregnancy. Her journey to this point is super insightful and extremely raw. We chat about literally everything in this episode. No really, like, wanna hear 2 loss moms just going IN on this whole situation, this is the episode. Does it sound like we're ranting? GOOD because we are and we are allowed to. Most *normal* mothers do this but with wayyy less intense subject matter. We are keeping it very real here. Here is what else we talk about in this almost 2 HOUR episode...

Being sent home without babies but with our mental health in extreme danger.
Post Partum struggles
The loss of her parents + the loss of her baby.
We are expected to "move on" when we just cannot do that.
Society likes to distance themselves from death yet sensationalize it on TV & film.
Letting medical pros know how horrible this is so that they get it.
The struggles of having a living baby after loss.
Medications to take while struggling
Relationship with God
I told you we tackle a lot lol... AND there's more!

We just want this to help. You might not agree with everything you hear (that's ok) but at least one little nugget or glimmer is what we're going for here.

Find Courtney on Instagram at @courtneydouglascoaching
https://www.instagram.com/courtneydouglascoaching/


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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!
For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!
Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop
 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 
Youtube: @thekatherinelazar
Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com
Website: www.katherinelazar.com
 
Some helpful resources:
https://countthekicks.org/
https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
https://www.tommys.org/
 
Local to Atlanta:
https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Bri's daughter Caroline was diagnosed with a rare form of CHD, Ebstein’s Anomaly. Living in Sacramento, her and her husband moved to Stanford to ensure she received the best possible care. After Caroline was born, she spent 27 days fighting for her life until ultimately passing away peacefully in her mother's arms. Among her diagnoses it was also found that she had Pallister-Killian Syndrome (PKS) after she was born.

Bri talks about this journey. From finding out about this rare disorder, to how to proceed, to giving birth to her daughter alive, to then deciding to do surgeries and the days she lived in the NICU. Bri walked away with zero regrets, something a lot of loss momma's wish they could do.


Our hope is that this story finds someone who needs to hear it. Even if their diagnoses is different, or their circumstances are in a different catagory, it helps to hear about how to cope, how to hold onto hope, and to help you realize you are anything but alone.

Information on Ebstein's Anomaly: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK534824/#:~:text=Ebstein%20anomaly%20is%20a%20rare,portion%20of%20the%20right%20ventricle%22.


To connect with Bri, find her on Instagram at @brihansen


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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!
For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!
Support the podcast and shop the store! At a Total Loss Shop
Instagram @thekatherinelazar
Youtube: @thekatherinelazar
Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com
Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:
https://countthekicks.org/
https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:
https://www.northsidepnl.com/