Close Quarter Dad Adam Mitchell

Too often we will apply fear as a scare tactic to get our children to either do or avoid something, rather than using it as a valuable tool to learn and become more resilient. In today's episode of Close Quarter Dad, I sit down with Mark Booher, a former infantryman, intelligence professional, counter-terrorism specialist and and licensed attorney ... and he's a Dad.

Mark has conducted intelligence and security operations around the world and understands threat, assessment and response to fear. He's a trainer, leader and host of the Pearl Snap Tactical Podcast.

Our conversation delves into the nuanced distinctions between fear, terror, bravery, and courage in the realm of parenting, shedding light on the importance of comprehending fear.

KEY TAKE AWAYS:



Understanding Fear: Mark discusses strategies for identifying and overcoming fear, emphasizing the significance of exposure to discomfort in the journey towards courage.



Power of Purpose: We underscore the role of purpose in conquering fears, managing anticipation, and fostering self-empowerment in children.



Serious Topics Addressed: Serious issues like sexual abuse, bullying, and the necessity of physical activities to cultivate confidence are brought to the forefront.



Modern Parenting Practices: The conversation questions contemporary parenting practices that prioritize screen time over physical engagement, advocating for real-life experiences over online identities.



Personal Growth: Mark spotlights personal growth, finding purpose, ancestral respect, and safety, offering insights into online courses on situational awareness and pistol tactics.



You will be encouraged to explore the transformative nature of courage and how it realities to your children, regardless of how old they are; the importance of instilling values, and the benefits of engaging in physical activities for holistic development.

Mark’s expertise offers a unique perspective on navigating fears, building resilience, and shaping a well-rounded approach to parenting.

CONNECT WITH MARK BOOHER

Barritus Defense

Email: info@barritusdefense.com

IG: @thebarritus

FB: @TheBarritus

 

ABOUT MARK BOOHER

Mark is a former infantryman, intelligence professional, and licensed attorney who has conducted intelligence and security operations around the world. He has trained units from the Department of Defense, the Department of Justice, the Fortune 500, and police officers from over 60 departments from around the country.

He is a contributor to the Counter Terrorist Magazine and the host of the Pearl Snap Tactical Podcast.

In this episode, I speak with a leading global expert on the topic of sexual abuse. Celebrated author and TEDx speaker, Joelle Casteix is changing the current cultural perspective on sexual abuse, and bringing light to the urgent need of conversations with children about sexual abuse and victimization. There are some mind-blowing concepts she shares, that are so simple and hidden in plain sight; making this a must listen for all Dads. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:


Equipping Dads with the info and building  courage needed to speak about sexual abuse.
The importance of Dads teaching children personal protection.
Use of proper biological terms for body parts and teaching children about boundaries and consent.
Age-appropriate discussions, the ick factor, stranger danger, and peer-to-peer sexual abuse.
Child protection and abuse prevention.
Teaching children about body boundaries, consent, and the difference between tattling and reporting.
Online pornography and today's impact on your children.
The connection between pornography and child sexual abuse. 
How to create a safe environment for their children to report abuse and seek help.
Peer-to-peer abuse in schools and the importance of holding schools accountable for protecting students.
Age of consent laws and the need for legislative reform. 

This episode is literally a workshop for men, on how to speak to their kids about a topic often reflected to the school systems - or worse - ignored. And considering the statistics are 1 in 6 listeners of this episode will have a child who will be targeted as a victim; are you willing to bet on those odds? 

CONNECT WITH JOELLE CASTEIX & SUPPORT HER WORK:

Website: https://www.casteix.com/

The Worthy Adversary

Her Book: The Well-Armored Child

Her other books

Joelle's TEDx Talk

 

ABOUT JOELLE CASTEIX

Joelle Casteix is a journalist and a leading global expert, author, and keynote speaker for survivors of child sexual assault and institutional cover-up.

 

START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW

Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent.

CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions

 

CONNECT AND LEARN MORE

WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad

FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad

 

What can you do to support this channel?


Subscribe, every new listener counts to us
Engage, we are a community who supports each other
Leave a review, let us know what you think
Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

 

Episode 56: Level up how you communicate with your children about conflict situationsIn this episode, we go deep in an insightful conversation with the experienced Mike Hammond, a retired Chicago homicide detective, to explore the crucial topic of helping children navigate the aftermath of conflicts or traumatic events.

Key highlights from the episode include:


Mike Hammond's emphasis on the importance of articulating reasons for using force in self-defense and teaching kids to articulate their actions to keep them out of trouble and avoid litigation.
Insights on the importance of teaching children safety and survival skills.
Discussions on the impact of acknowledging fear and trusting one's intuition in children, and the importance of teaching them self-defense and survival instincts.
Personal experiences shared by Mike Hammond and the challenges of dealing with violence while striking a balance between protective instincts and allowing children to have a normal childhood

Our conversation centers on the importance of training children on how to communicate after a conflict has occurred, including speaking with school teachers, principals, and law enforcement.

In addition, Mike offers practical advice on helping children effectively communicate their position and navigate fear, all while building self-confidence and resilience.

Check out Mike's Podcast, Detective Story with Mike Hammond

Instagram: @detectivestorymikehammond

Facebook: Detective Story Podcast w/Mike Hammond

 

About Mike Hammond: 

Mike is a retired Homicide Detective with the Chicago Police Department, A member of the Chicago Police Department for 22 years he was promoted to detective in 2000 where he served in Area Four Homicide Unit, Cold Case Homicide Unit and Area North Homicide until his retirement in 2016. He is a recipient of the Chicago Police Department Superintendents Award of Valor. Currently the host of Detective Story with Mike Hammond podcast which has a focus on victims and their families and discussions of actual cases and investigations.

 

START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW

Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent.

CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions

 

CONNECT AND LEARN MORE

WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad

FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad

 

What can you do to support this channel?


Subscribe, every new listener counts to us
Engage, we are a community who supports each other
Leave a review, let us know what you think
Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

In this episode, "Parenting in a Sexualized World," we're joined by Dr. Tara, a professor at Cal State University specializing in sex behavior and sexual communication. Together with our host, Adam Mitchell, they discuss the complexities of raising children in a society saturated with sexualized content and the importance of open, empowering conversations about sexuality within families.

From redirecting sensation seeking energy to navigating exposure to pornography, they provide valuable insights and guidance on supporting children in understanding healthy relationships and boundaries.

Join us as we explore the vital role of fathers in addressing these difficult yet crucial topics, and the impact open communication can have on children's long-term well-being.

What you're going to learn in the episode with Dr. Tara:


Sensation Seeking Redirected: Redirecting sensation seeking energy to healthy activities. Natural impulses can be channeled positively. Encouraging sports and socialization.
Open Sexual Health Communication: Using correct vocabulary and initiating dialogue with questions. Parents should have open conversations without penalizing children.
Empowering Children's Boundaries: Empower children to communicate feelings and boundaries. Addressing boundary issues and teaching children to assert themselves.
Responsible Talks about Pornography: Addressing intense topics responsibly. Discussing appropriate sources of information and engaging in honest conversations about porn.
Fathers in Sexuality Conversations: Fathers being present in sex and masculinity discussions. Essential role of fathers in sexuality talks. Ancient wisdom and continuous learning.
Resources for Men's Sexuality: Encouraging men to educate themselves about their sexuality. Suggested books and websites for men to learn about their sexual health.
Challenges of Oversexualized World: Fathers facing difficulties in parenting. Concerns about children's exposure to oversexualization and inappropriate content.
The Danger of Pornography: Addressing dangers of children being exposed to pornography. Protecting children from being targeted by predators through porn channels.
Empowering Conversations about Sex: Encouraging open discussions and empowering children. Providing children with the knowledge and confidence to make smart choices.
Family Sex Communication Research: Understanding the impact of family sex communication. Research project on family sex communication and its association with young adults' sexual satisfaction.

 

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in ABC News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.

https://themonapp.com/

https://www.couply.io/luvbites

https://superstars.co/

 

In today's episode, host Adam Mitchell sits down with Matt McKee, VP at Bark and author of "Parenting in a Tech World," to dive deep into the challenges and opportunities of raising children in the digital age.

With a focus on purpose-driven technology use, child safety, and insightful parenting advice, you'll hear about the evolving landscape of online risks, the role of third-party monitoring services like Bark, and the impact of technology on mental health and relationships.

From practical tips to thought-provoking discussions, this episode is a must-listen for every parent navigating a tech-driven world. Stay tuned as we unpack the essential insights and guidance for fostering a healthy digital environment for our children.

What you will learn in this episode? 


Approaches to Monitoring Online Activities
Different parental attitudes toward monitoring children's online activities
Importance of establishing digital citizenship and an entrance/exit strategy for technology use
Focusing on the purpose of children using technology rather than the amount of time spent on it
Recommendation of services like Youth Digital to help kids learn coding through platforms like Minecraft
Advice for New Fathers
Bark: A Tool for Child Safety
Use of artificial intelligence to monitor children's activities on platforms like YouTube
Role of Bark as a third-party monitoring service and its focus on providing alerts and context around objectionable content to facilitate conversations
Broader range of risks online, such as mental health and cyberbullying, beyond just exposure to pornography
Preparing for Emerging Technological Landscape
Awareness and engagement with the metaverse

The Impact of Technology on Parenting: "The problem with technology today is parents don't know how to curate any type of environment."

 

Matt McKee is just another guy trying to make a difference.

Matt helped found three tech companies over the course of his career and invested in more than a dozen others. He was passionate about the intersection of parenting and technology and considered it one of his specialties, having spoken at places like SXSW, CES, and the National PTA.

Matt was the author of Parent Chat: The Technology Chat for Every Family and Parenting In A Tech World which enabled him to share what he learned about raising kids in the digital age.

Sadly, Matt passed away in 2023. Our community lost one of the good men, truly doing God's work. 

"Don't fight like hell. Win like heaven" 

 

What is the current state of Family Safety and as a man and father, are you prepared? Amber Elle, Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development at Fieldcraft Survival discusses family safety measures and exactly how to safeguard your loved ones. You'll learn:


The current state of safety and risk factors families are facing today
Immediate changes you can put in place in your home to keep children safe
How to create a family culture of safety through activities and connection
How and why ever father should be expanding their skillset for preparedness and self-reliance
A mother's perspective on what is needed for a home to be safe

As well, this episode covers various safety scenarios, such as home invasion, unlocked firearms, and personal safety in emergency situations. Amber stresses the importance of practical preparation, situational awareness, and communicating with loved ones in times of emergency. The goal of the episode is to help listeners create a lifestyle of preparedness and self-reliance, so they can have peace and feel empowered during times of turmoil.

Fieldcraft Survival

INSTAGRAM: @ms.amber.elle

ABOUT AMBER ELLE

Amber is our Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development. She is a mother to three adventurous children and leads their home education journey through living and rich experiences. She holds a bachelor of science degree in nursing with active licensure and maintains CPR and first aid certifications. She holds training as a classical education educator and has experience leading young adults in their studies. She has also led gun safety and situational awareness classes with local children’s groups. Amber loves maintaining a home garden, raising animals, hunting, cooking, and using her life to teach other families how to thrive in spite of their unique circumstances.

From Close Quarter Dad

Thank you for visiting and supporting my work with Close Quarter Dad. If you enjoyed this episode, please continue to support by subscribing to our YouTube channel. If you are interested in stepping further into my work, below are links to help you better understand Close Quarter Dad and opportunities that may help in your path in becoming closer to your children and family through safety training. Once again, thank you for spending time here ~ Adam

CLOSE QUARTER DAD: https://closequarterdad.com

MEMBERSHIP & TRAINING: https://closequarterdad.com/join 


Community - Monthly topic specific study group
Member - Distance training and live classes online

FREE TRAINING RESOURCES:

3 Discussions Every Dad Must Have

Close Quarter Dad Podcast

The Child Safety Summit

ABOUT CLOSE QUARTER DAD

Close Quarter Dad is a project for fathers who are constantly seeking new skills and tactics to help enrich the lives of their children, making them safer, stronger and empowered. The YouTube channel offers tips and insights that Dads can use every day with their kids, teaching them and spending fun time together. We welcome the participation from Dads from all parts of the world, backgrounds and experience, as we re united in our roles as leaders.