Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life‪.‬ Spenser Brassard | Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Fertility Expert, Mama-B

We all want to love ourselves. But have we ever thought to ask WHY?
 
The truth is that “self-love” isn’t just about you being a good girl who should be nice to herself.
 
There’s waaaayyyyyy more of an exciting benefit to self-love than that — which is why I recorded this weeks podcast on this particular topic that you’re NOT going to want to miss. 
 
It’s important for you to know the fertility-enhancing benefits of self-love so that you can feel encouraged and motivated to make the relationship you have with yourself, the most important one. 
 
There are many health and happiness benefits to shifting your blame and shame for feelings of self-love, particularly in the subject of self-compassion.
 
Compassion comes up a lot on the fertility journey, because compassion is often high-lighted as a response we have to ourselves in times of challenge and difficulty. 
 
It’s sad to admit, but we are a culture who normally kicks ourselves when we’re down. We don’t feel self-compassion to be productive. But again, it extends beyond the benefit of it being just a feel-good concept. 
 
The latest research on the connection between shame and inflammation/auto-immunity challenges: 
 
Auto-immunity refers to a condition where the body's immune system mistakenly targets and attacks its own tissues. Autoimmunity often involves inflammation because the immune system's attacks trigger inflammation in the affected tissues. 
 
Health experts are noticing a correlation between shame and inflammation within the body. 
 
Auto-immunity is when the body attacks itself. 
Shame is when the human psyche attacks itself. 
 
❤️Self-compassion offers the mind AND the body relief from this mistaken attack ❤️
 
You DO NOT WANT TO MISS this weeks podcast: Can self-compassion heal inflammation in the body? (Hint: The answer is YES! 😆) You’ll learn more about the exciting benefits of self-compassion and exactly how to begin your journey towards it, to enhance your health, happiness and fertility. LISTEN NOW! 

Chances are, there’s a totally untrue hierarchy between you and your baby that’s swirling around in your head.  
 
Here’s how the ego’s playing this mental story out: Your baby is HIGH up on the pedestal. Maybe even wearing a crown with jewels sipping on the most delicious nectar of milk. And you’re at the bottom, exhausted, trying to claw your way up with all the energy you have. You’re looking up hoping you can earn your worth to them by doing all the things (and doing them with precise perfection) to prove how bad you want it. 
 
And this my love… is totally unnecessary. 
 
Why? Because you are already insanely loved by the spirit of your baby.
 
They ALREADY chose you – out of 4 billion other women in the world. They want the authentic version of you to be their mother… not the perfect one. And… they want you to see this for yourself.
 
Listen to this weeks podcast to explore this topic further: The spirit of your baby chooses YOU. It will paint the picture of what’s REALLY happening behind the scenes, so you can let go of earning something you already fucking have.

I used to think my shame was a reaaaallllly good protector of judgment. I used to think, “If I just listened to the orders of my shame – stayed small, pretended everything was fine, kept it all inside – then I wouldn’t have to face judgment.”
Meaning, if I silenced my true thoughts and feelings, then no one would know how broken I am. 
 
But I was never broken, despite shame making me feel that way. And I never felt more loved then when I let go of my shame, opened my heart and let my authentic feelings be seen and heard. There is nothing more healing than this to the mind and body liberated from the chains of shame.
 
It helps to see how this plays out IRL, so I’m sharing an interview with 2 of my former Fertility Mind-Body Mastery members Marcie and Emily. I interviewed them in a retreat last year on how they shed their shame – and the outer results that came from the inner transformation. It’s kinda mind-blowing what happened!
 
On this weeks podcast: How real life women TTC let go of their built up fertility shame -- you’ll learn: 
Why shedding your shame creates a deeper connection in your marriage.
How it can inspire life-changing change, like a career switch to your dream job.
How Fertility Mind-Body Mastery makes it easier for you to safely let go of your shame and feel worthy of exactly who you are, in all of your imperfections…
Why human support is needed for our survival.
What it’s like to be inside of my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. What happens? How does it feel? What’s it like to be in a group container like this? How much time do you get to be coached?

All these answers are inside the podcast. Listen now!

Today’s new Fertile Ground podcast is a free gift for you! 
A free meditation: How to cultivate a feeling of enoughness. 
 
Listen if you want to feel enough and worthy of your baby, now. No more proving. Let’s embed this truth into all the cells of your body. You can listen to it here.
 
I wanna ask a favor of you…
 
If you appreciate the Fertile Ground podcast and how it’s helped you, it would be so helpful for you to leave a quick review on iTunes. 
 
The fertility industry is loud with noise on all the things you need to do to change, fix, and perfect yourself. This space - The Fertile Ground Podcast - is the relief all women TTC need. Your review will help it to get seen. 
 
You can leave a brief review here
 
Tips for an effortless review: Don’t overthink it. Speak from your heart. Keep it simple. 
 
Prompts: 
 
What do you want other women TTC to know about what the journey can feel like?
 
How does the podcast make YOU feel?
 
What does it bring to the TTC journey that’s missing? 
 
So grateful to you. Enjoy the meditation!

Vulnerability share: I had a really hard few days last week. For the first time in what felt like forever, I had a lot bubble up inside of my body. At first, I resisted. I pouted. I complained. (Like any other human does at the feeling of deep feels.) But then… eventually…  I surrendered.
It got me thinking…
 
My God… us human beings have this massive capability of feeling emotions inside of our bodies. To help guide us and process our life experiences. To literally help us become healthier. Admittedly, it’s very hard to feel it. It’s uncomfortable to be present with your sadness, your grief, your anger. It takes self-worth to create enough space in your life, to process, cry and witness what wants to come up. 
 
On top of this really hard part of being a human, we are taught to believe that these aspects of ourselves are wrong. Bad. Maybe we even believe they rise up because we aren’t “good enough” at managing things. And it’s so not true. 
 
I realized in my experience that pain is so healthy. Pain is so natural. Pain is healing in motion. It helped me to discover so much about myself, about my life, about what my body needed, about what I can change for the better. Although it did not feel like it at the time, it was a total gift from God.
 
We all feel these intense emotions. They are nothing to be ashamed of. It’s the price of being a human being. 
 
So why not just feel them? 
 
I released a new podcast today: Your pain wants to heal you. Here’s how to let it.
 
It’s to show you how to create enough safety within your mind and body to say yes, the next time your body is ready to feel the more difficult emotions.  
 
You’re not alone in having them. There’s nothing wrong with you for having them. You are safe to feel them. Listen now.

Time is at the core of so much suffering when you’re TTC. So it only makes sense for me to devote an entire free podcast to it, to alleviate the panic it’s causing you.

My view point: 
 
I’m probably the world’s most impatient person. When I want something, I want it now. I’m even annoyed at it needing to take a whole damn day for Amazon to send me my shit! 
 
But… I’ve learned to both accept and shift this aspect of myself. My fertility journey taught me exactly how to develop a new relationship with time. 
 
Questions for ya: 
 
What if time wasn’t the royal pain the ass you think it is?
 
What if time wanted to offer you more than a baby? (Would you say yes?)
 
What if the setbacks and the change of plans are because the Universe is orchestrating every-fucking-perfect-detail behind the scenes, to give you 1. What you want, but also 2. An even better life than you had planned?
 
Time isn’t against you. Time will, however, feel like and become what you perceive it as. 
 
Your relationship with time is not set in stone. Time is not a fixed, set, hard aspect of reality. It’s 100% malleable. 
 
Time expands and is incredibly generous, when you expand your perception of it.
 
You have a healthy sense of control on how you respond to the unfolding nature of time. Particularly, on your fertility journey. 
 
And I’m going to offer you a new relationship with time in this weeks brand new Fertile Ground Podcast: How to handle setbacks and frustrations around time while TTC.
 
Stop suffering from the illusion of time that culture has wrongly placed on us.  
 
Be open to what time is here – right now – to offer you inside of this podcast.
 
Listen now!