Kinfolk Romika Gunn

The way you stay free requires a completely different approach than the strategy you used to get free.

In this episode, Romika shares a lot about Game Theory - the science of strategy - so that you can learn how to strategize ways to win at life, instead of just settling to play the game not to lose.

This episode includes:


Examples of what it looks like to play not to lose
12 thought pattern examples from a worksheet sent to Romika by her therapist from one of their sessions
4 practicals on how to enforce a strategy that helps you play to win

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It may seem as though there is a completely different approach needed when it comes to maintaining old friendships (as compared to new friendships), but the truth is: many of the fundamentals are the same!

In this episode, Romika shares easy to apply practicals to help strengthen, deepen and maintain the bonds in your older friendships.


Define the Relationship (DTR)
Make new memories
Focus/Prioritize the connection, not the issue
Don't assume (good or bad) - ask



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Perfectionism is the silent filter that curates your perspective on life - and many times, it's filtering your life, unbeknownst to you.

In this episode, Romika wants to help you self-identify the different types of perfectionism. Most perfectionists fall in and out of these 3 categories: the self-oriented perfectionist, the other-oriented perfectionist, and the socially-oriented perfectionist.

In short, there are 3 key principles:


Learning that everything you do, doesn't need to be the best you've ever done
Does it have to be perfect, or is it okay that it's done?
Inventory and Delegate

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It's hard to talk about life without also addressing your limiting beliefs...we all have them, the hope is that we'll all become more aware of the ones that are influencing our decisions in a negative way.

If unchecked, limiting beliefs take on a scarcity mindset. In this episode, Romika takes a deep dive into some of the groundwork that will hopefully help you begin to heal your scarcity mindset by targeting your limiting beliefs first.

In short, it comes down to 3 main areas:


Your narrative
Your influenced decisions, and lastly,
Stretching your capacity to give more

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The courage to be disliked is all about risking rejection. If you are anything like Romika, everything in you will tempt you to skip over this episode, but please stick it out.

It'll be worth it if you're a recovering people pleaser who wants to show up more genuinely in life and relationships.


07:07 - Introducing "constraints"
20:28 - You're a people pleaser
26:34 - You don't always need to relate to others
32:55 - Let them

The book referenced is called, The Courage to be Disliked by  ⁠Ichiro Kishimi⁠ and ⁠Fumitake Koga⁠ 



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It can be extremely difficult to live in the present moment....it takes a lot of intention and planning to make it happen for yourself.

In this episode, Romika provides you with 3 simple and practical steps to start living in the present moment by telling your time how you want to spend it, instead of feeling pulled in multiple directions and distracted from the present moment.


03:23 - Get organized
14:30 - Stop relying on your past or the fear of the unknown future to determine what you do right now
20:29 - Release yourself from the responsibility of influencing others

Watch the reel explaining how I organize my planner!

shop my organization tools here!

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