Aren’t you tired of hating your body, tired of counting calories, tired of making your scale decide whether you get to feel good today or (more likely) not? Aren’t you tired of feeling guilty for eating what you like, tired of exercising obsessively to get rid of that guilt? Tired of the negative self-talk-chatter in your head?
Aren’t we all?
So. Welcome home.
Let’s start this journey toward body positivity, a better body image, acceptance of diversity and a more balanced approach to health; goodbye to body negativity, fat-phobia, disordered eating and a compulsive relationship to exercise. Confidence is an inside job and it’s high time we bust the myth that weight should dictate our worth. Let’s start this journey to loving our bodies from a Health At Every Size perspective and let’s nourish our body, mind and soul without going crazy.
LU 075: When ED treatment fails, being on the spectrum, feeling low, boundaries & exciting news.
Today on the "Life. Unrestricted." Podcast you are going to hear... me.
After one year of shameful silence... Let it be broken.
I think we need to talk about what it is that might be going wrong in many eating disorder treatment clinics, and all I can do to inspire a conversation is contribute my own experience; colored – of course – by my own shadows and blind spots.
So if you feel like you are in a position to listen to this, I am honored.
May it be for the betterment of the current state of many ED treatment facilities.
I’ll also talk about how and why this year was so dark and confusing for me, and what my plans are to hopefully make the start of 2019 more pleasant.
Lovelies, this one’s long and highly personal, and I already have a vulnerability hangover, just from thinking that I’m putting all of this out there. But I would love for you to listen. I just think this need out.
Last but not least, dear ones:
Happy holidays, take utmost care of yourself.
Love to all of you.
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LU 074: Cyndi Springford – Breaking decades of body shame, food rules and exercise addiction.
Today on the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, I’m so happy to share with you my conversation with Cyndi Springford from Plaistow, New Hampshire. Cyndi's varied background includes being a Personal Trainer, a Running Coach, and a certified Eating Psychology Coach. She has been in the fitness industry since 1993, encouraging REAL well-being and fitness with her clients. Many of you know Cyndi from her "Love Your Body Project"-Facebook page. Currently, she is working out of her home, coaching clients both remotely and in person. Cyndi shares her background about her body image challenges, chronic dieting, disordered eating and excessive exercise and how she made peace with all of it through discussions, articles, and podcasts with the media. Cyndi talks about: – Why she doesn’t remember a time when she ever felt good in her body as a child – How her mother related to food and exercise in a punishing way – How her lack of trust in her own body led her into a severely disordered way with exercise and eating – Why she felt dependent on outside approval, especially in terms of her appearance and performance – How her relationship with exercise spiraled out of control – How her obsession with exercise and her body negatively affected her relationships and her entire life – How unprocessed trauma played into her disordered ways with food and exercise – Why she couldn’t receive unconditional love – How she felt she was dying inside while people thought of her as an "inspiration" – At what point she started to allow herself to wonder "maybe there’s more to life than presenting a body ideal and eating a certain diet, and maybe there’s more to life than hating myself" – How she sat with the fears and anxieties that she felt when she gave up dieting and overexercising – How she turned her thinking around and started to apply her perfectionism to recovery and healing – How getting angry helped her in recovery – How women often hide their disordered exercise and eating behaviors behind being a "fitness professional" or a "nutritionist" – How she found a new "identity" after having been a "fitness professional" for so long – Why it might be best for some people to just go "cold turkey" and cut exercising out completely – Why her FB page was a tool in her recovery – How mirror work helped her in her recovery – What she did to quiet the negative body image thoughts – How she helps her clients through all their struggles with overcoming food and body fears – What makes dieting so addictive and what it distracts us from – Why your weight is the LEAST interesting thing about you – What she wants every woman to know... ... And so much more! For more information check out Cyndi’s website at: www.loveyourbodyproject.org Here’s the link to Cyndi’s "LYB Project" Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/LoveYourBodyProject/ Here’s the link to Cyndi’s coaching on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachcyndilou/ Here’s the link to the book "Overcoming Overeating" by Jane Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter that Cyndi mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Overeating-Break-Healthier-Satisfying/dp/1456413333/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1505754598&sr=8-1&keywords=overcoming+overeating+by+jane+hirschmann+and+carol+munter And here’s the link to the "Intuitive Eating Workbook", the new workbook by the authors of "Intuitive Eating", Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch: https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Workbook-Principles-Relationship/dp/1626256225/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1505754704&sr=1-3&keywords=intuitive+eating Please consider supporting the podcast with a donation by becoming a "Patreon"; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here's the link: https://www.patreon.com/lifeunrestricted ********* Don't forget!********* Make sure to join my tribe and meet some of the most supportive, l
LU 073: Tabitha Farrar – Adult EDs, the lure of energy deficit, and going "food first" in recovery.
In today's episode of the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, you’ll hear my conversation with Tabitha Farrar from Boulder, Colorado. Tabitha developed anorexia at age 17 and – as she says so herself – this devastating illness took pole position in her life until, at 25, she finally started her recovery journey. She successfully recovered from her eating disorder and the complicated matrix of obsessions and habitual eating disorder behaviors that came with it. Since recovering she has done a lot of work to help adults with eating disorders, and she has written a book called "Love Fat", an educational memoir on eating disorder recovery and all the insights that she gained. Tabitha is a founding member of IEDA, International Eating Disorder Action and World Eating Disorders Action Day, and she has written countless eating disorder recovery guidelines for adults. Apart from that, she has set up two forums for adults in active recovery, she founded AEDRA, the Active Eating Disorder Recovery for Adults Meal Support Service, she has been selected to be a Coordinated Specialty Care Grant Advisory Board member, and she hosts a podcast called "Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast". On top of that, she coaches adults and family of adults in recovery from eating disorders and she frequently gives talks about understanding eating disorders, how to spot them, and how to treat them. Tabitha talks about: – How long she was able to keep the body-confidence she felt as a child – What triggered her eating disorder – What the almost inexplicable lure of "being in energy deficit" can feel like – What her eating disorder took from her – How her compulsions and obsessions only grew the more her illness progressed – Why eating disorders are such isolating illnesses – Why so many people with eating disorders also struggle with excessive exercise – What makes eating disorders to hard to break free from – What the "Adapt To Flee Famine" model explains when it comes to eating disorder behaviors – What she learned from animal studies – How she differentiates anorexia and bulimia, and why her recovery guidelines apply for both illnesses – What it was that made her start recovery – Why she prioritizes food over everything else when it comes to recovery – Why "going cold turkey" with exercise was the only thing that got her out of her compulsive and obsessive ways with exercise – How she dealt with the fear of eating – What she experienced in recovery – Where she looked for advice regarding recovery – How she dealt with her changing body in recovery – How not to get stuck in "quasi-recovery" – Why overshooting (weight) in recovery isn't just "a good thing", but maybe even critical to a full recovery – How she now understands, trusts and feeds her body – What her advice is for clients suffering from anorexia or bulimia – Why eating disorder treatments that still have a weight-centric approach often backfire and make a full, lasting recovery impossible... ... And so much more! If you are interested in Tabitha’s extensive work and all the resources she has, please check out her website: http://www.tabithafarrar.com Here’s the link to Tabitha’s book called "Love Fat", a memoir about her insights from recovering from her eating disorder: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Fat-autobiography-Tabitha-Farrar/dp/0692461426/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1501769393&sr=8-1&keywords=tabitha+farrar Here’s the link to Tabitha’s podcast called "The Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast": https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-eating-disorder-recovery-podcast/id1138563928?mt=2 Podcasting is expensive. So if you enjoy and love my podcast, please consider supporting it by becoming a "Patreon"! It would greatly help me to keep those episodes coming to you. Thanks! https://www.patreon.com/lifeunrestricted ********* Don't forget!********* Make
LU 072: Dr. Michael Levine – The internet affects our body image & dealing with negative thoughts.
Hey, lovely radicals... podcast ahead! In today’s episode of the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, I have the pleasure to bring to you my conversation with Dr. Michael P. Levine from Santa Barbara, California. Michael is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology who actively taught for 33 years. In the field of eating disorders, Michael’s commitment to research, writing, and activism focuses on the intersection between sociocultural risk factors, prevention, community psychology, and developmental psychology. He has authored two books and three prevention curriculum guides, and he has co-edited three books on prevention. In addition, he has authored or co-authored approximately 110 articles and book chapters, and he has presented his work throughout the United States, as well as in Canada, England, Spain, Austria, and Australia. He is a member of countless advisory councils such as The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), or the Center for Study of Anorexia and Bulimia (CSAB, NY), among others, and he has been awarded with awards for Leadership in Public Awareness and Advocacy, for Excellence in Eating Disorders Prevention and Awareness, a Research-Practice Partnership Award, and one for Lifetime Achievement. To this day, Dr. Michael P. Levine is an absolute expert in the field of eating disorders, and he is still working on informing people regarding research, advocacy and activism related to eating disorders prevention, body image, public health, dietetics/nutrition, community, health psychology and social work. Listen in and hear Michael talk about: – How his father influenced what he believed about the world, men, women and bodies – What his first reaction was when he heard about feminism – Why he became a feminist, and why he thinks that many men feel threatened by the idea of feminism – Why feminism is as much for men as it is for women, as it should help all humans to liberate themselves from oppressive, gender-based ideals – Why healing can only start when we start questioning the beliefs that we’re passed on to us – How important it is to question our automatic assumptions about the world, our bodies, weight, and our worth – Why we should all educate ourselves on the effect mass media has on us – What "the third person phenomenon" is – A good example of "the fundamental attribution error" – How important it is to recognize that all of us are being influenced by the messages we see all day, no matter how much we might think that we’re "above that" – Why the internet and social media can be the worst danger to our self-esteem AND a door to find people who help us to stay strong in recovery from all sorts of self-destructive behaviors – Why it is important to learn that it’s totally ok to have to opposing thoughts in our head, and to learn that we don’t have to act on our negative thoughts (that tell us to restrict/overexercise, etc.) – Why he loves the word "AND" – Why he considers America’s "war on obesity" to be an absolute madness – Why he thinks that how this society thinks about class, gender, race, health, age, etc. is only exacerbating the problem – How we can create more resilience in ourselves against the onslaught of diet-culture messages and images – How to make the best of the internet and social media and disregard what isn’t helpful for us – What he means when he talks about "the mass media being a power tool" – Why we so easily internalize ideas that we were raised with or exposed to, and why only by questioning whether we really agree with those ideas, we get a chance to change our mind and rise above harmful beliefs – What you could do as "a radical act" – Why, weirdly, body image issues are so intimate for people, and why it takes guts to honestly talk about them – Why he thinks that if we would feel NO anxiety, and NO doubt on this journey,
LU 071: Dr. Michelle May – Eating without fear, specifically for diabetes, WLS, and binge eating.
Today on the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, you’ll hear my follow-up conversation with Dr. Michelle May from Phoenix, Arizona that we promised to have in our first talk (episode 56 - in case you haven’t had a chance to listen to that one yet, I highly recommend it to you). Michelle is a former physician, mindful eating speaker, and recovered yo-yo dieter who founded the "Am I Hungry?" company that offers "Mindful Eating" programs and trainings. "Am I Hungry?" empowers people to end chronic dieting and overeating, and to get back a fulfilling life without deprivation and guilt. She is also the award-winning author of the book "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat". Based on the success people had with her first book, Dr. Michelle May wrote and published three more books: "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Diabetes", "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Binge Eating" and "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat for Bariatric Surgery". Her books, programs and retreats are all designed to help people increase self-awareness of beliefs, habits, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations, to finally understand why diets do not work, to discover simple yet powerful methods for knowing when, what, and how much to eat without restriction. Since finding her passion in helping people get out of their dieting traps, Michelle has retired from her medical practice to focus fully on sharing the mindful eating method. Along the way she has been featured on countless media outlets and publications, and her personal story is even featured in "Chicken Soup for the Dieter’s Soul". Today, you’ll hear Michelle talk about: – The "Eat – Repent – Repeat" –cycle – All the cases she hears where people tell her "Michelle, I love your idea to be able to love what we love and love what we eat, BUT I CAN'T, because ... " – Why she is convinced that everybody is able and allowed to eat without fear – What she wants people who are managing diabetes to know – What the common misperceptions are about food when it comes to diabetes are (often perpetuated by uninformed health professionals) – General myths about weight, food and eating in relation to diabetes – Myths about food and eating in relation to "treat" binge eating – How "mindful eating" could look like for people with diabetes – What she tells people who deal with binge eating – How "mindful eating" could look like for people who deal with binge eating – What she advises to clients who had bariatric surgery – How "mindful eating" could look like for people who had bariatric surgery – Why abstinence or elimination eventually leads to reactionary eating... ... And so much more! Check out Michelle’s website: www.amihungry.com Here’s the link to Michelle’s books on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=michelle+may ********* Don't forget!********* Make sure to join my tribe and meet some of the most supportive, loving and kind people of all shapes and sizes, including great coaches and leaders! We’re right over here at: http://www.lifeunrestricted.org/join/
LU 070: Lu Uhrich – End the restrict/binge/overexercise-cycle & get your health and period back.
Hey, lovely radicals... podcast alert! In today’s episode of the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, you’ll hear my conversation with Lu Uhrich from Pennsylvania. Lu and I spoke a few months ago, and I'm happy to announce that she shares a great deal of knowledge with us here on the show. Lu is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach, Body Image Mentor and Life Coach who helps women worldwide to grow in self-awareness, find food freedom and practice body love. She also host the "Untamed" podcast, where she interviews women who are living beyond limits and who are helping others to do the same. Lu specializes in guiding her clients to overcome struggles with yo-yo dieting, food restriction, binge eating, loss of periods, shame, body hate and other unwanted symptoms, mindsets or behaviors. Through her one-on-one coaching program and online courses, she teaches participants to end the exhausting hustle for food and body perfection by finding out who they really are, what they truly want, and how to finally get it. Listen in as Lu talks about: – How her parents raised her in a very body positive and food positive (and therefore unusual) way – How well her body and food confidence protected her from falling for diet-messages and body negativity – Why the messages she got in church threw her for a loop with regards to her confidence about herself as a woman – What it was that made her slip into disordered ways with eating and exercise – What we get wrong when "the diet doesn’t work anymore", and why we end up digging an even deeper hole for ourselves – What made her lose her period – Why not having a period is so dangerous for a woman’s health – Why being on the pill only masks Hypothalamic Amenorrhoea (HA) by producing a "withdrawal bleed" – Why we usually only seek help when the uncontrollable binges start (reactionary eating after restriction) – Some of the mental traps she set up for herself that made her think "she had to keep the body she worked so hard for" – Why we often fear weight-gain more when we’re at our sickest/thinnest – How diet-mentality can distort our inner compass and our true values – How she dealt with weight gain in recovery from hear disordered eating and lack of period – How she advises her clients who suffer from Hypothalamic Amenorrhoea (HA) in terms of exercise and food – Why resting, eating plenty and finding joy in what we do are essential for recovery – Why she would never wear a Fitbit or count calories again – How to deal with the internalized "should"s – How we can apply curiosity and self-compassion when our bodies change shape/size – How to understand your binges and how to deal with them – What our culture’s obsession with "eating right" is often code for – What she means when she says "the only way out is through" – What food freedom looks like and why it is liberating on many different levels – Why weight-gain after menopause is the best life-protection for you... ... And so much more! For more information check out Lu’s website at: www.lueats.com Please consider supporting the podcast with a donation by becoming a "Patreon"; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here's the link: https://www.patreon.com/lifeunrestricted Aaand if you want this sort of badassery come to your phone automatically, please DO subscribe on iTunes (Apple): https://itunes.apple.com/ch/podcast/life.-unrestricted.-podcast/id1130713233?mt=2 or on Stitcher (Android): http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=93987&ref ********* Don't forget!********* Make sure to join my tribe and meet some of the most supportive, loving and kind people of all shapes and sizes, including great coaches and leaders! We’re right over here at: http://www.lifeunrestricted.org/join/