MindCircles Patricia Elliot

Here are 5 tips on how to stop beating yourself up – sometimes also called self-bullying.


It’s great to have goals. Yes you need to have things in life you want to achieve. But you don’t have to constantly seek perfection in everything and then beat yourself up for everything not being perfect or making mistake or not achieving your goals when you wanted.


It’s ok to critique yourself and learn from mistakes because this helps you to be more self-aware and find new ways to improve.


However, if you constantly beat yourself up, criticise yourself then instead of helping you reach your goals it erodes your confidence and your peace of mind.


Take a moment to think about some questions.....

You might not believe it but when you’ve been through the ringer, in other words, through so many challenges, you might feel defeated but you can rise stronger. You can be like the Phoenix, someone who is ready to rise above the troubles of the past and take on new opportunities. When you change your mindset you find that you have the power to build something better, even spectacular. You probably don’t realise it but you have immense power within you. It’s never too late to turn things around. Don’t be afraid of change, rise above your challenges, learn from them and see them as opportunities. Of course you need tips and my ABC are the go-to for bringing balance into your life and improve your overall wellbeing

Be more like water – be flexible, uncompromising and persistent in overcoming challenges and obstacles just like water finds its way. You might be wondering what water has to do with exploring your emotions but life is ever-changing like water. Bottling up your emotions, usually due to past conditioning, impacts negatively on your health. Take time to confront, embrace, and understand your feelings, let them flow smoothly rather than bottling them up. You and only you are in control of your emotions – they are not in control of you. Remember changes are a natural part of life. Learn to accept change. Use your journal to write down your feelings.

Many of you may be reeling from a difficult year and are still finding it challenging going into a new year. This is why it is vital to have easy to use tips to help not just kick start your new year but motivate you to change your mindset to be more positive no matter what challenges you face. Remember only you can change you but it's never too late to start. Quick tip as always - smile and laugh, they cost you nothing. Thank you for listening. Virtual hugs to all.

Many people find thoughts their head, so many that they are overwhelmed, anxious, irritated, frustrated, so much that this impacts on their overall mental, emotional and psychological wellbeing. It can become worse as we approach holidays, and festivities of any kind. So it is important to have tips to hand, that are easy to use yet proven psychologically effect. The hard bit is to repeat the techniques so that they become your good habit. I's never too late to start so START NOW. Remember too to smile and laugh, they cost you nothing. Laughter is the best medicine. I would appreciate comments on this podcast format as I have not put my music at the start or end - do you prefer it this way? Go to my website MindCircles and you can contact me. Why not join my MindCircles Community - it's free.

If you've been feeling overwhelmed, having low energy, over-worrying and anxious, particularly over the last few weeks, you are not alone. It is important to stay calm, not over-think, not over-worry but can sometimes feel impossible. It is vital to be calm when times are tough. Listen to my tips as they are proven psychological tips for improving your overall wellbeing. Also smile and laugh they cost you nothing.