Welcome to Motherhood Simplified,a podcast for moms who want to declutter but don't want to become a full blown minimalist!
Each episode is recorded live and in real time on my social media platforms so that you can have the experience of hanging with mom friends who get you, and are there for you while you embark on this living with less journey!
When you've decluttered and still aren't happy
This the ACTUAL end result of decluttering, spoiler alert. It isn't just a clean house.
It's the ability to actually see your life for what it is, and what is/is not working.
It's basically standing there as a naked and exposed version of yourself. I don't lead with this because honestly, it's not the sexy microwaveable answer people want.
There is a lot of truth in how your internal world mirrors your external world.
Whether its falsely curated, or a total mess or something in between.
Ways it does not make you happy
1. It doesn’t erase your past experiences and traumas
2. It doesn’t change your belief systems about yourself and your life
3. It doesn’t nurture relationships
Ways Decluttering makes you happy:
1. It gives you relief
2. It makes your days easier
3. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and pride in your home
4. It gives you time and energy for relationships
5. It eliminates a lot of the things that lead us to perpetually judge and shame ourselves
6. It breathes life into us
It's stepping into a new normal. One where you have space, energy and clarity. Boundaries. Tolerance for only what serves you
It's being able to see the ROOT issues of your life and then address them.
After you've decluttered is when the real work begins. Not to say decluttering isn't work, its about establishing boundaries to protect what you do want. The example of me absolutely freaking out over something I had put boundaries up and then fetl like they were being violated and I absolutely was sent into a tail sping because I didn't want to go back to my old way of being.
In the same way we freak out when we've decluttered and family/friends go over board with gifts and hand me downs. You will get to a new normal where you aren't freaked out by being derailed any more.
So yes, we talk about decluttering and all the work that goes into it but we can't expect it to make us happy. Happiness isn't an end result or something that just comes once we've gotten rid of enough stuff. It happens when we decide to intentionally and always only keep things that align with our happiness.
4:10 - Krista's real life story - from 2 house full of stuff to 1 suitcase per person
5:53 - learning to sit with yourself
6:42 - declutting takes your from bogged down to freedom and brings clarity and space.
7:15 - declutting gives you space in more places than just your physical space.
9:05 - 2 reasons why you still feel dissatisfied after declutter
11:27 - 3 ways that decluttering doesn't make you happy.
13:50 - 6 ways that declutter does make you happy
17:57: - podcast link for clutter shame spiral
23:20 - come join the fb group ( https://www.facebook.com/groups/2010014145929427/ )
24:58 - you have to put some effort in
25:27 - one week challenge in the motherhood simplified facebook group in May called "Release your clutter like a powerful mother."
26:47 - leave a positive review on iTunes. Leave a review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to Krista@motherhoodsimplified.com and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.
3 reasons you feel like you aren't making progress with your decluttering
Do you ever feel like no matter how much you declutter, it never seems to make a dent?
Here's why - it's could be one, two or a combination of these things. Or maybe none apply.
1. You have a skewed experience of accumulating versus decluttering. You have been accumulating in the form of shopping, holidays, birthdays, hand me downs, thrift stores, Amazon for YEARS. Maybe even decades.
If you're like me you never really knew that intentionally letting stuff go was a part of managing a home. Logistically it makes sense but it's just not always something we think about.
It takes time to recalibrate this.
2. You don't realize how much you are still consuming so when you do declutter, it's almost immediately RE-cluttered. THink about when you go shopping or get things delivered and how much is coming in versus how much you actively let go.
It's similar to the first point above, but a more immediate and daily experience of what you accumulate versus what you declutter
3. You haven't reached your personal clutter threshold yet. We all have one, some are bigger, some are smaller. It also changes based on the season of life we are in. But if you've decluttered a lot and have not RE-cluttered, this is likely where you are getting hung up.
4. You haven't put the finishing touches on your decluttering yet. I'm talking about organization. Yes, it's an essentail piece of the decluttering puzzle but it's the LAST piece. Most of us try to lead with this. However, if you have decluttered enough and really don't think there is anything left you might just need to create systems and a flow around the stuff you have left. The way you know have reached this point is by having all of the stuff you own comfortably fit in the spaces you have. I'll give you an example with the toys.
1:55 - Krista starts off with a question
2:36 - 1st reason you feel that way
5:57 - 2nd reason
6:35 - revolving door of clutter
8:55 - 3rd and final reason
9:27 - talking about thresholds
13:23 - personal toy story
18:27 - letting your house breathe
18:50 - join us in Motherhood Simplified (the group) https://www.facebook.com/groups/2010014145929427/
On Instagram https://instagram.com/motherhood_simplified?igshid=d6nkja64ingw
18:59 - I have a gift for you if you listen on itunes and leave a positive review. Leave a review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to Krista@motherhoodsimplified.com and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.
20:00 - new bonus toys in cyc live https://motherhoodsimplified.thinkific.com/courses/clear-your-clutter-live
Raising culturally responsive children with Jocelynn Hubbard
Jocelynn is a mother of 5, and a teacher who specializes in showing how teachers can create a culturally responsive classroom. She also homeschools and helps apply these same principles to the home.
Jocelynn is a wealth of information, compassion, empathy and support for both parents and teachers. And of course her students.
This episode with Jocelynn was such an honor. I was able to reflect on my past teaching experience, share what I wish I had known and differently and was able to get clarity around how I want to both educate and nurture my children on what society deems taboo, or generally uncomfortable conversations.
I hope you enjoy this episode with Jocelynn and of course go follow and learn more from her!
You can follow her on instagram here https://instagram.com/iteachcustoms
And get access to her blogs and ALL of her book recommendations for all ages at https://customteachingsolutions.com
Clutter and overstimulation in motherhood
In this episode we discuss the the three 3 things that lead to overstimulation in motherhood. Our children, our clutter and every day tension and stress.
I give you strategies for deciding which of these things you can reduce or declutter.
Spoiler alert: you can't declutter your kids so the clutter has to go.
Motherhood itself is overstimulating. It only feels worse when we are also constantly overstimulated by the stuff in our home.
At the end of the day we are just humans with nervous systems only capable of processing so much stimulus.
If you struggle with feeling snappy, wanting to hide in a dark room and run away from your home, this episode is for you, and you're not alone.
1:09 - what is sensory overload
4:39 - the 3 major things that cause sensory overload in motherhood specifically
5:10 - 1. our children
5:54 - 2. our clutter
7:16 - 3. Everyday tension and stress
8:28 - thresholds of what we can manage
10:00 - the easiest one to get rid of and why it's life-changing
13:18 - something has to give
14:15 - I have a gift for you if you listen on iTunes and leave a positive review. Leave a 5-star review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to Krista@motherhoodsimplified.com and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.
The full transcription
Get into Decluttering Simplified and get all the support and tools you need to declutter your home!
Don't buy a different house, just declutter!
This episode is for the moms who think the solution to their clutter is a different house. I have a secret!
Wherever you go, your clutter will follow. So yes, sometimes we really do need a bigger or different space. But if that decision is made based on the clutter you have then this episode is for you!
2:36 - Krista shares a story about a real life friend, Danielle Grigg, and her breakthrough.
4:18 - a story about a family with five children and their breakthough.
5:16 - a story about a friend who downsized house size and what her family learned
11:12 - Krista talks about her experience in a tiny house.
13:30 - getting clarity on the root issue
14:41 - podcast episode mention https://motherhoodsimplified.com/how-to-love-your-home-when-you-dont-like-it/
15:37 - Krista talks about their move from Alaska to Florida
18:38 - decluttering simplified the course https://motherhoodsimplified.com/declutteringsimplified
19:36 - I have a gift for you if you listen on itunes and leave a positive review. Leave a 5-star review and before you submit it take a screenshot of what you wrote and then hit submit on your review and then head over to your email and email that screenshot to Krista@motherhoodsimplified.com and let me know that you left a positive review. I will send you an hour long video of decluttering tutorials of spaces that I have a helped other moms declutter.
Full podcast transcription here https://motherhoodsimplified.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Dont-buy-a-bigger-house-just-declutter.docx
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