11 avsnitt
Specs Lessons Specs Lessons Podcast
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- Samhälle och kultur
I've been writing diary entries for 13 years detailing academia, existential crises, failed relationships and seemingly eternal crushes as a way to immortalise memories I wanted to keep forever and work through muddled emotions.
I wanted to share some of these entries along with advice and lessons I've learnt from the experiences I've had so far so you don't make the same mistakes as I have or so we can commiserate and laugh together!
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“My girls are my sisters”
The final episode of season 1! Specs Lessons host Maz speaks about the importance of female friendships, the opinions and gossip garnered and their development or dissolution over the years.
References:
Valentines Day https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine%27s_Day_(2010_film)
Shock Value https://open.spotify.com/album/4BxB8U8QgpR4UCvJ0moj8Z
Duke of Edinburgh Award https://www.dofe.org/
People mentioned:
Aysha - A close friend from church
Holly & Alina - childhood best friend clique
Cameron (ep. 1) - first "boyfriend"?
Tia - childhood best friend
Florence - Grand Frenemy the 1st -
“Recovery is a long process”
Episode 3/3 of the coercive control relationship series. Maz discusses the messy aftermath, forcibly trying the out of sight out of mind approach and dating casually again.
People mentioned:
Tia - my best friend
Ola - my ex-boyfriend
Richard, Antonia (ep.2) and Courtney - secondary school friends
Uncle Mark - an older guy I went to University with that I dated briefly
Louise - a summer work colleague from University
Moses/Teacher - my OG Tinder 'superlike' the I dated for a while
Harry - my first Tinder match I met up with
Julianne - a 'friend'
Ameera - a friend from University
References:
Malmaison https://www.malmaison.com/locations/london/
The Gibson http://www.thegibsonbar.london/
Sbtv Summer Cookout https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBpz20aKwMk&ab_channel=SBTV%3AMusic
Saatchi Gallery https://www.saatchigallery.com/
Music:
Crew - GoldLink ft. Brent Faiyaz & Shy Glizzy https://open.spotify.com/album/5nltbdv58POHGL7YHfNEOz -
“Perfect when he WANTS to be”
Part 2 of 3 of the decline of a fairy-tale 'friends with benefits' situationship turned full blown relationship. I discuss in depth different elements of emotionally abusive intimate relationships with elements of coercive control and explore the psyche of narcissistic sociopaths. The constant push pull of me trying desperately to regain focus and normality in my final year of University whilst my then ex-boyfriend was more interested in trying to slowly discourage and gaslight me back into his control.
Domestic Abuse information and advice:
Refuge
https://www.refuge.org.uk
National Domestic Abuse Helpline
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk
Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 2000 247
Women's Aid UK
https://www.womensaid.org.uk
Musical References:
Young Thug - JEFFREY https://open.spotify.com/album/7EpUpNUkkEGnaCvkcn1j4H
Missy Elliott - Supa Dupa Fly https://open.spotify.com/album/6UkdyvPElK6JDkyeRClbI2
Migos - Culture https://open.spotify.com/album/2AvupjUeMnSffKEV05x222
Cardi B - Gangtsa Bitch Music Vol. 2 https://open.spotify.com/album/47IM97GbpNyDREWlr2HtNM
Etta Bond - #Bad4Me https://open.spotify.com/album/76N74IIAic4X7LThS0ADKQ
Bob Marley: Deep Cuts Playlist https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/bob-marley-deep-cuts/pl.168393eab99e45ffad5bd19e4b750c09
RayBLK - Havisham https://rayblk.bandcamp.com/releases Durt https://open.spotify.com/album/1P29D0CPo7YeQnUUL13SEh
People Mentioned:
Ola - my second ex-boyfriend mentioned in episode 7
TJ - one night stand cum rebound
Eric - my first ex-boyfriend mentioned in episodes 1,3 & 6
Shaneece - a mutual friend of Eric who we met at college
Tia - childhood best friend
Julianne - a 'friend' from college
Binky and Kelly - University housemates
Lenka - University colleague who I met whilst working in the library -
“I asked him ‘do you love me?’”
Desperation calls for drastic measures. After the breakup of a serious relationship, the loneliness drove me to try to rebound only for feelings to get caught but was it mutual? How to tear yourself away from a situationship that no longer serves you.
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“I never knew I could love so hard”
What is a real healthy relationship meant to feel like? This second part of the context episode shows the other more positive side of dating is still full of ups and downs but undoubtedly the joy outweighs any of the bad
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“He was only practising”
A context episode spanning from ages 16-18. I discuss breaking into the confusing world of dating with different expectations and a lack of communication.