Soulful Heart ๏ฟฝโช๏ฟฝโฌ Amrita Rai
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- Utbildning
Understanding life
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Honor your past Achievements........
This is a very important chapter. Itโs one of my favorite exercises to boost my
clientsโself-confidence (and my own). Its purpose is to empower you and make
you aware of what you have already achieved in your life! We are always so
centered in the things that donโt work so well or what we havenโt achieved that
we forget what we have already achieved. Iโm sure that you have fantastic
achievements in your life and in this chapter you will become aware of those
past successes and use them as rocket fuel to achieve your goals and future
successes! So the big question is: What great things have you achieved in
your life so far? You put yourself through college, traveled the world, have a
great career, have lots of great friends. Maybe you lived abroad for a while all on
your own. Or maybe you have overcome a tough childhood and major personal
setbacks. Maybe you raised fantastic children. Whatever challenges youโve
overcome or successes you have achievedโnow is the time to look back and
celebrate them. Remember the chapter about focus? In this case, it means that
the more you remember and acknowledge your past successes, the more
confident youโll become. And because you are concentrating on successes you
will see more opportunities for success! Make your list! Remind yourself of
your past successes! Give yourself a pat on the shoulder and say to yourself
โWell done!โ The important thing is the experience of success! Get into the
same state that you were in, see the success once again in your mind, feel again
how it felt then!
Action Step:
1) Write down a list of the biggest successes youโve achieved in your life!
2) Read them out loud and allow yourself to feel fantastic for what you have
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Know yourself ll Know your values ll Know your strength๐ช
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.โ
Aristotle
The first step before changing your life is becoming aware of where you are and
whatโs missing. Please take some time to answer the following questions.
What are your dreams in life?
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At the end of your life, what do you think you would most regret not having
done for yourself?
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If time and money were not factors, what would you like to do, be, or have?
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What motivates you in life?
_____What limits you in life?
____________________________________What have been your biggest wins in the last 12 months?
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What have been your biggest frustrations in the last 12 months?
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What do you do to please others?
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What do you do to please yourself?
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What do you pretend not to know?
_____________________What has been the best work that you have done in your life until today? Letโs talk about values. Not in a moral or ethical way, but looking at what fuels
you and what motivates you. Being clear about and knowing your values is one
of the most important steps to getting to know yourself better. By knowing your
values, you will be able to attract more of what you want in your life. If there is a
big difference between the life you are living and your values, this might create
suffering and tension. Once you find out what your values are, you will be able
to understand yourself and your actions a lot better. When your goals are
aligned with your values you will notice that you achieve them much
quicker and hit a lot less resistance. Everything changed for me around two
years ago when I gained a clear knowledge of my values. I finally knew where
the tension and stress at my work and in my life came from (not one of my core
values was being applied!) and I could understand my reactions in various
situations a lot better. So what is really important to you? Find out what your
most important values are that bring you joy, peace, and fulfillment. From the
list of values. You may
find that you can group values. Then narrow them down to your top four
values.
Also answer the following questions: What is very important in your life?
What gives purpose to your life?
What are you usually doing when you experience that feeling of inner peace?
What are you doing that is so much fun that you usually lose track of time?
Think of some people that you admire. Why do you admire them? What kind of
qualities do you admire in them?
What activities do you enjoy the most? What kind of moments bring you joy and
fulfillment?
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Chapter_12 ll Focus on what you want, not on what you lack!๏ปฟ
๐๐ฝ ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ญ๐พ๐ป๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ธ๐พ๐ป ๐ญ๐ช๐ป๐ด๐ฎ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฝ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐๐ฎ ๐ถ๐พ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ฌ๐พ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ฝ.๏ปฟ ๐๐ป๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ธ๐ฝ๐ต๐ฎ ๐๐ท๐ช๐ผ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ผ๏ปฟ ๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ท๐พ๐ถ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ธ๐ท๐ฎ ๐ป๐ฎ๐ช๐ผ๐ธ๐ท ๐๐ฑ๐ ๐น๐ฎ๐ธ๐น๐ต๐ฎ ๐ช๐ป๐ฎ ๐ท๐ธ๐ฝ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ช๐พ๐ผ๐ฎ๏ปฟ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ทโ๐ฝ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ท ๐ด๐ท๐ธ๐ ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ. ๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ท๐พ๐ถ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฝ๐๐ธ ๐ป๐ฎ๐ช๐ผ๐ธ๐ท ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ต๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๏ปฟ ๐ช๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ต๐ต๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ต๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ผ ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ, ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ช๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ธ๐ท๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฝ๐ป๐ช๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ท ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๏ปฟ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ทโ๐ฝ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ, ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐๐ธ๐พ ๐ช๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ธ๐ท๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฝ๐ป๐ช๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ทโฆ๐๐๐น๐ช๐ท๐ญ๐ผ! ๐ก๐ฎ๐ถ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ธ๏ปฟ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ฌ๐พ๐ผ ๐ธ๐ท ๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐๐ธ๐พ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐ป๐ธ๐ถ ๐ท๐ธ๐ ๐ธ๐ท! ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐๐ธ๐พ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ฌ๐พ๐ผ? ๐๐ท ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐น๐ธ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๏ปฟ ๐ธ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ท๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ช๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ? ๐๐ท ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐น๐ช๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐น๐ป๐ฎ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฝ? ๐๐ธ ๐๐ธ๐พ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ฌ๐พ๐ผ ๐ธ๐ท ๐น๐ป๐ธ๐ซ๐ต๐ฎ๐ถ๐ผ ๐ธ๐ป๏ปฟ ๐ผ๐ธ๐ต๐พ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ธ๐ท๐ผ? ๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐ฌ๐ป๐พ๐ฌ๐ฒ๐ช๐ต! ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฒ๐ผ ๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ช๐ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ช๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ป๐ช๐ฌ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ธ๐ท ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฎ๐ผ ๐๐ป๐ธ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๏ปฟ ๐ถ๐ธ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐น๐ฎ๐ธ๐น๐ต๐ฎ ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ ๐พ๐น! ๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ผ๐ช๐ โ๐โ๐ถ ๐ช๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ป๐ช๐ฌ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ถ๐ธ๐ท๐ฎ๐โ, โ๐โ๐ถ๏ปฟ ๐น๐ป๐ธ๐ผ๐น๐ฎ๐ป๐ธ๐พ๐ผโ, ๐ซ๐พ๐ฝ ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ผ๐ช๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ฌ๐พ๐ผ ๐ถ๐ธ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฎ ๐ธ๐ท ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ซ๐ฒ๐ต๐ต๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๏ปฟ ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐น๐ช๐, ๐ธ๐ท ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ถ๐ธ๐ท๐ฎ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฎ๐ผ ๐ธ๐พ๐ฝ, ๐ธ๐ท
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Chapter_11 l Get comfortable with change and chaos!
โ๐๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ต๐ต๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ซ๐ฎ ๐พ๐ท๐ฌ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๐ฝ๐ช๐ซ๐ต๐ฎ. ๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๐ฝ๐ช๐ซ๐ต๐ฎ ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐พ๐ท๐ฌ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๐ฝ๐ช๐ซ๐ต๐ฎ. ๐๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ช๐
๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ธ๐พ๐ฐ๐ฑ, ๐ซ๐พ๐ฝ ๐ฒ๐ฝโ๐ผ ๐ช ๐ผ๐ถ๐ช๐ต๐ต ๐น๐ป๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐น๐ช๐ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ช ๐ญ๐ป๐ฎ๐ช๐ถ.โ
๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐๐ช๐ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ผ๐พ๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ผ๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฎ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ป๐ธ๐พ๐ฐ๐ฑ ๐ฌ๐ฑ๐ช๐ท๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ฑ๐ช๐ธ๐ผ. ๐๐ธ๐ป ๐น๐ฎ๐ป๐ผ๐ธ๐ท๐ช๐ต ๐ฐ๐ป๐ธ๐๐ฝ๐ฑ ๐๐ธ๐พ
๐ฑ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ซ๐ฎ ๐ฒ๐ท ๐ช ๐ฌ๐ธ๐ท๐ผ๐ฝ๐ช๐ท๐ฝ ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ช๐ฝ๐ฎ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ต๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ผ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ฝ๐ต๐ ๐พ๐ท๐ฌ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๐ฝ๐ช๐ซ๐ต๐ฎ. ๐๐ฎ๐ฝ ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ
๐ฑ๐ช๐ซ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ผ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ทโ๐ฝ ๐๐ช๐ท๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ญ๐ธ. ๐จ๐ธ๐พ ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฌ๐ฑ๐ธ๐ธ๐ผ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ญ๐ธ
๐๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ท๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ซ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ท๐ฎ ๐ป๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ช๐ป๐ญ๐ต๐ฎ๐ผ๐ผ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฌ๐ธ๐ท๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฌ๐ฎ! ๐ฃ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ฎ๐ช๐ท๐ผ: ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ
๐ฒ๐ท๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฑ๐ธ๐ต๐ญ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ช ๐ฐ๐ป๐พ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฎ, ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐๐ฝ๐ป๐ช ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ต๐ฎ ๐ฒ๐ท๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ผ๐ช๐๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฌ๐ช๐ทโ๐ฝ ๐ซ๐ฎ
๐ญ๐ธ๐ท๐ฎ; ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฝ๐ช๐ด๐ฎ 100% ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ป๐ฎ๐ผ๐น๐ธ๐ท๐ผ๐ฒ๐ซ๐ฒ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ ๐ฏ๐ธ๐ป ๐๐ธ๐พ๐ป ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ธ๐ป ๐ฒ๐ท๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ซ๐ต๐ช๐ถ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ
๐ธ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ผ.
๐๐ธ๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐พ๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ท๐ด ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฝ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ฌ๐ฑ๐ช๐ท๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ธ๐พ๐ป ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ผ ๐๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฟ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ธ ๐ถ๐ช๐ด๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐พ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ฑ๐ช๐ท๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ผ, ๐ช๐ท๐ญ
๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ท ๐๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฝ ๐ธ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ต๐ถ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฑ๐พ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ท๐ฎ๐ผ๐ผ ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ช๐ผ๐ด ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ท๐ญ ๐พ๐น ๐ท๐ธ๐ฝ ๐ญ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ
๐ช๐ท๐๐ฝ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฐ, ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฝ ๐ผ๐ฝ๐พ๐ฌ๐ด ๐๐ฒ๐ฝ๐ฑ ๐ธ๐พ๐ป ๐ธ๐ต๐ญ ๐ฑ๐ช -
Chapter_10 l Learn the Edison Mentality
Theodore Roosevelt Letโs talk about failure! This subject is so important and yet
so misunderstood! Paulo Coelho hits the spot when he says โThere is only one
thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.โ The
fear of failure is the number one dream killer, but why? Why are we so afraid of
failure? Why canโt we see it like Napoleon Hill who indicated that โEvery
adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or
greater benefit.โ Or in other words, how would our life change if we could see
failure exactly like Napoleon Hill did? Why not see it as a learning experience
that is necessary for growth and which provides us with information and
motivation? What would happen if you could fully embrace the idea that in
reality failure is a sign that points towards progress?
Learn the โEdison Mentalityโ. Edison himself said things like โI failed myself to
successโ or โI have not failed. Iโve just found 10,000 ways that wonโt work.โ
This is what enabled him to bring many of his inventions to us. The man just
didnโt give up!
Accept your mistakes as feedback and learn from them! Luckily, as kids we
didnโt have the mentality which many of us have adapted as adults โ because if
we did then many of us wouldnโt know how to walk! How did you learn
walking? By falling many times and always getting up again. Unfortunately,
somewhere along the road you picked up the idea that failure is something
terrible. And as a result of this nowadays we fail once and then stop doing things
simply because it didnโt work out the first time, because we got rejected, because
our business venture didnโt work out right away.
NOW is the time to change your mentality towards failure! Why donโt you look
at it in this way from now on: Every failure is a great moment in our life,
because it allows us to learn and grow from it!
Even more and more companies nowadays are shifting to a new mentality by
allowing their employees to make mistakes, because they noticed that if people
are afraid to make mistakes, creativity and innovation die and the companyโs
progress slows down. At the end of the day it comes down to this: Success is the
result of right decisions. Right decisions are the result of experience, and experience is the result of wrong decisions.
Here is a story of a famous โfailureโ that literally failed his way to success: โข
Lost job, 1832
โข Defeated for legislature, 1832
โข Failed in business, 1833
โข Elected to legislature, 1834
โข Sweetheart (Ann Rutledge) died, 1835
โข Had nervous breakdown, 1836
โข Defeated for Speaker, 1838
โข Defeated for nomination for Congress, 1843
โข Lost re-nomination, 1848
โข Rejected for Land Officer, 1849
โข Defeated for Senate, 1854
โข Defeated for nomination for Vice-President, 1856
โข Again defeated for Senate, 1858
โข Elected President, 1860
This is the story of Abraham Lincoln, a man we would not exactly characterize
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Chapter_9 l Have Patience and Never give up
Perseverance is more important than talent, intelligence, and strategy. There is
great virtue in never giving up. When life doesnโt go according to plan, keep
moving forward, no matter how small your steps are. The top two habits that
will decide between success and failure, between real change and staying in
the same place are patience and perseverance.
Itโs highly possible that before success comes, there may be some obstacles in
your path. If your plans donโt work out see it as a temporary defeat, and not as a
permanent failure. Come up with a new plan and try again. If the new plan
doesnโt work out either, change it, adapt it until it works. This is the point at
which most people give up: They lack patience and persistence in working out
new plans! But watch out. Donโt confuse this with persistently pursuing a
plan that doesnโt work! If something doesnโt workโฆchange it! Persistence
means persistence toward achieving your goal. When you encounter obstacles
- have patience. When you experience setback - have patience. When things are
not happening - have patience. Donโt throw your goal away at the first sign of
misfortune or opposition. Think of Thomas Edison and his ten thousand attempts
to make the light bulb. Fail towards success like he did! Persistence is a state of
mind. Cultivate it. If you fall down, get up, shake off the dust, and keep on
moving towards your goal.
The habit of persistence is built as follows: 1. Have a clear goal and the burning
desire to achieve it.
2. Make a clear plan and act on it with daily action steps.
3. Be immune to all negative and discouraging influences.
4. Have a support system of one or more people who will encourage you tofollow through with your actions and to pursue your goals.