Things That Keep Us Up At Night Abby DesJardien

Today we're joined by Jenni and Lisa, the duo behind the Dear Patriarchy Podcast. Jenni and Lisa are sisters who have worked in male-dominated industries for over two decades. 

A gas-lit woman's guide to surviving the (corporate) world. Jenni & Lisa are sisters with over 2 decades spent working in the male-dominated industries of Construction, Tech and Finance. They delve into the pitfalls and the gas-lighting women experience in the patriarchal construct of traditional corporate environments, sharing their personal experiences along with statistics relating to how misogyny, racism, prejudice, trans-phobia and queer-phobia present in the workplace. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re not getting ahead at work (or getting as far as you want), they'll explore why (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault) and what you can do about it.



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In today's episode, we're going to talk all about success, wisdom, and the key to a joyful life with Janine Aurichio. 



Janine is a joy master intuitive healer, coach, and recovering approval seeker. Her mission is to bring healing to the world by helping women step away from the shoulds in step into their undeniable magnificence. After waking up to the fact that she was living someone else's idea of the dream, she left her prestigious interior design firm and three decades on the management track to answer the call to serve. She started Yes to Yum Life Styling to help women come to know love and trust themselves so that they can unapologetically live their own dream. 

Now she works with discouraged and stuck professional women, both one on one and in groups, guiding them on their healing journey to develop intuitive skills, connect with their purpose, and map out a clear vision for their future. A master of transitioner herself, Janine uses her signature formula of beauty, wisdom, purpose, and practice to teach women how to radiate vitality, embrace their purpose and allow for joyful success.





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Connect with Janine at:


Janine's website: www.yes2yum.com
Janine's email: janine@yes2yum.com
Janine's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janine-aurichio/
Janine's MeetUp: https://www.meetup.com/Marin-Women-Healing-in-Nature/



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*Today's episode is a re-airing of Episode 14 of the Things That Keep Us Up at Night Podcast. 

Before you listen, I want to recognize that not everyone has the ability to create their own schedule or work from home but you can still make small changes towards better sleep. Next week I will be introducing a new resource to pinpoint your first steps to better sleep regardless of your work schedule.

Previously, I talked all about chronotypes. Chronotypes are the classification of the general timing of your biological clock. For our purposes, it is the programming that exists in each person’s biology that tells them when they should wake up and go to sleep.

There are four main categories:
Bears: majority, wake with the sun and sleep when it gets dark
Lions:  wake early, early birds, to bed early
Wolves: aka night owls, sleep in and stay up late)
Dolphins: people with insomnia, struggle to get the recommended amount of sleep and are always tired

Our society was built for the bears. We envy the lions, we judge the wolves, and we shame the dolphins.

I think when we hear these descriptions, it’s easy to identify with one type but wish you were another. Somewhat of a “grass is always greener” scenario. So let’s talk about why this envy exists.

As a society, we have created little room for people to live the lives that are best for their health. We value overworking, sacrifice, and live by the mantras, “Push through the pain.” and “Hard work beats talent if talent doesn’t work hard."  Bill Gates once said, “I never took a day off in my 20s. Not one.”

We need to stop glorifying the leaders who work 20 hours a day, 7 days a week and then expect the same of their employees. Stop glorifying people working so much that they become debilitatingly ill.

There is a decrease in average productivity with increased hours.

Let’s allow people to function on the schedule that matches up with their chronotype so that they’re not fighting their biological programming. Imagine what kind of inspired work someone could produce if they were actually functioning in a way that worked with their body instead of constantly fighting against it.

Things we thought impossible a year ago have been proven possible because we were forced to consider alternatives. This past 9 months has shown us that despite what we’ve been told previously, corporations and systems CAN make drastic changes quickly when the circumstances demand it.

What can you do to create change in your organization or your life?


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*Today's episode is a re-airing of Episode 12 of the Things That Keep Us Up at Night Podcast.

I first learned about chronotypes in Dr. Michael Breus’ book The Power of When. In his book, he writes about how our bodies are programmed to do certain things at certain times of the day. Eat, sleep, have sex, be creative, get nitty-gritty tasks done, etc. By identifying what category you fall into, you can lead a healthier, happier, life and experience more ease in your day to day tasks.

What’s a chronotype? A chronotype is the classification of the general timing of your biological clock. For our purposes, it is the programming that exists in each person’s biology that tells them when they should wake up and go to sleep.

Unlike our horoscope, our chronotype CAN CHANGE. Most teenagers tend to be wolves, staying up late and sleeping in. This may change when they get into their twenties. It may change again when they become seniors. But, for the 40 years between 20-60 years old, things stay relatively consistent. If you’re looking to get better sleep with ease, improve your productivity, or become more mindful of your habits knowing your chronotype may be the missing link!

There are 4 chronotypes, according to Dr. Michael Breus:


Bears: middle of the road types, people who prefer a solar-based schedule and have a high sleep drive, 50% of the population 
Lions: 15-20% of the population, Lions would be tired of hearing “the early bird gets the worm”, but we’re pretty sure they’re the ones that came up with the phrase. 
Wolves: 15-20% of the population., formally known as night owls, Wolves are those of us who are most awake, alert, and productive in the evenings. 
Dolphins: Make up only 10% of the population. Sleep, who? Dolphins know what it’s like to run off a few hours sleep or wake up to the slightest noise. People with insomnia fall into this category.

Remember with sleep, there is no one, magic bullet. But, making small, incremental changes can make a BIG impact. When you’re not fighting against your biology, those changes are going to be easier to make.

When I talk about listening to your body, this is one way to do that.

As always, there are ideals in life and then there’s the reality. You may HAVE to be up at a certain time for work or to help your kids get ready, but if you can make even just ONE of these changes, you probably see a difference in your experience while you’re awake and how you sleep.

We see life through the lens of how much we slept the night before. If you can shift small things and get more/better sleep, you will start to experience more ease and joy.


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Teachers are essential. Teachers are not essential workers. 

As schools across the country begin the process of reopening, many parents are deciding whether or not to send their children to class or to stay virtual - many teachers are not being given an option. 

In the US, education has always been at the bottom of the list when it comes to funding and public policy. Teachers, by default, are often undervalued, underpaid, and underappreciated. Now, in the midst of a global pandemic, many are also being gaslit into returning to class and teaching in person. 

Somehow teachers are now the enemy because they're advocating for safety for themselves and their students, as they always have. The same parents who are publicly professing their love and admiration for teachers a year ago, with performative grand gestures about how teachers are heroes are now the ones demonizing them.

If you want your kids to go back to school, send them back to school. If you want to keep your kids home, keep them home. Do not, however, fall into the trap of blaming the teachers for demanding safety in their jobs, and further concerns that they don't have the resources to keep our kids safe. If you argue that families must have the right to choose to go back or not, then you must also extend the same opportunity to teachers. No questions asked.

More on the new normal in education, children's mental health, and the gaslighting of America's teachers in this week's episode. 





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Ashleigh Brown is the founder and creator of Compliments ‘n Coffee.  She believes  everyone should start your day with more love and less doubt.  Whether you are using the mug to sip coffee or as a vessel for ice cream, each cupful comes with its own signature affirmation.

In this episode, you will learn:


How Ashleigh came up with the idea of compliments ‘n coffee

Why she decided to sleep train herself

Why she believes in “Power Hours”


Where can you find more about Compliments ‘n Coffee?

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Discount code: SLEEP15 - to get 15% off your order

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This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down.

Let me know what you think about this episode and:

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Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision


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