Understanding Mother Stories Adeline Dubreuil

A short episode on the difference between motherhood and matrescence so we can use both terms as appropriate.
Motherhood is a more of a cultural aspect in which we raise our children and live as mothers.
Matrescence is a personal development of your life as a mother and has many layers that are affected by this new role you have.
 
0'00 Introduction
1'25 Motherhood definition and the fish-tank of motherhood analogy by Dr Sophie Brock
4'27 What is matrescence?
6'23 "Motherhood is hard" vs "matrescence is hard"
7'14 Conclusion
 
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Today I discuss a common challenge many parents face: dealing with their child's aggressive behavior, such as hitting or biting. I emphasize that these behaviors are often impulsive and not intentional acts of harm. We highlight two main reasons behind such behavior: a lack of attention or connection from caregivers and possibly being exposed to physical handling or aggression from others.
We advocate for adults using their own self-control and understanding to model appropriate responses and provide the necessary support and guidance for their children.
We encourage caregivers and other adults involved in the child's life to help navigate through this challenging phase of development.
0'00 Intro
0'50 My child's story
1'40 About hurting the child back
2'00 What happens when children hit and some possible reasons for it
2'47 Need for connection vand positive attention
4'15 Reaction vs response
6'15 Connection vs attention seeking
6'50 If the child is being hit by another child
8'45 What you can do when the chils hits
9'55 About adult's triggers
10' Script for yourself on how to respond
 
Mentionned:
Episode 60 on Triggers
 
 
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Adeline introduces the concept of toy rotation as a solution to reduce clutter and stress. Toy rotation involves periodically swapping out toys, keeping only a select few available at any given time. This method is beneficial because having too many toys accessible can overwhelm children and hinder their ability to play effectively.
3'00 Age-Appropriate Toy Selection (babies)
4'52 Toys Organization (toddlers +)
8'13 Observation-Based Rotation
10'10 Managing Cleanup
11'01 How to do toy storage
13'10 Editing Toy Inventory
14'13 Handling Unwanted Gifts
This episode emphasizes creating a less stressful and more organized home environment by being intentional about toy management, thereby enhancing both children's and parents' well-being.
 
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 Adeline's heartfelt narrative about her journey towards body acceptance, particularly influenced by her experiences with motherhood. She shares her struggles with body image during her teenage years, but later discovers her physical strength through activities like dance and aerial silks. However, life's challenges such as asthma, financial constraints, and the demands of motherhood impact her ability to maintain her physical health.
She gained significant weight during her pregnancies and initially felt a sense of loss and disconnect from her body due to the changes. She then learns to love and care for her body, focusing on its strength and resilience rather than its appearance. The episode emphasizes the importance of hormonal health and encourages women, especially mothers, to embrace their bodies as they are, acknowledging the unique challenges they face.
 
0:25 Intro on our relationship with our body
0:46 Adeline's younger body story
2:50 Effect of pregnancies on the body
4:05 Feelings towards the body
4:45 Regaining control
5:35 About hormonal health
7:25 Look at your body
8:15 How I got there
 
 
Mentionned in the episode:
Nicole Jardim - book : Fix your period, IG @nicolemjardim
Mariah Berendt @nourishyourcycle 
Extra on the subject: @thebirdspapaya
 
 
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Hello Mama, here is what we dive into today: our triggers and reactions
 As moms, we often get triggered by our children’s behaviors, such as tantrums, meltdowns, or potty training challenges, which can evoke deep emotions like frustration and anger. Additionally, high stress levels, disorganization at home, or mental overload can exacerbate these triggers, making it harder to remain calm.
To manage these triggers, it's important to recognize and address our inner child wounds. This involves reassuring ourselves that certain childhood behaviors are normal and allowing ourselves to heal from past negative experiences. Understanding the natural pace of child development and practicing patience is crucial, as helping too much can hinder a child's learning process. Preparing for the inevitable messiness of learning processes like self-feeding or potty training, both practically and emotionally, can also make a significant difference.
One effective strategy for managing reactions is mental rehearsal. By visualizing challenging situations and practicing calming responses, we can train our emotional regulation and prepare for real-life scenarios. Regular self-care practices are essential for maintaining emotional balance and control, enabling us to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.
In conclusion, parenting requires preparation and emotional regulation. Just as athletes use mental rehearsal to enhance their performance, moms can use it to improve their responses to their children’s behaviors. Being gentle with ourselves, understanding our triggers, and practicing self-care are key steps in becoming the responsive and caring moms we aspire to be.
 
0:30 Why and how we get triggered
2:57 Healing our own childhood, a few tips 
5:25 Learning process and how NOT TO help our child
7: 00 Controlling tough situations with mental rehearsal
9:51 Conclusion 
 
 
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In today's episode, we explore the overwhelming mental load of motherhood, why it often falls on moms, and how to challenge this dynamic for future generations.
Moms typically become the default parent, managing most child-related tasks, which leads to a significant mental load. Effective communication with partners is essential to redistribute household and parenting responsibilities, especially if the current load affects your mental health.
Our society's gender roles influence these dynamics, so it's important to encourage children to participate in a variety of tasks regardless of gender and to model balanced behavior in your family. Reflect on your family's task distribution and work towards equity by sharing responsibilities based on interests and abilities. Montessori education and insights from same-sex parenting couples offer valuable lessons on reducing gender biases in task distribution. Additionally, moms need to trust their partners and let go of the need to do everything perfectly to achieve a more equitable parenting dynamic.
Reflect on your role and consider redistributing the mental load in your family for a more balanced and enjoyable family life.
 
0:20 intro
 
0:55 The default parent and the parenting load
 
2:55 why we take on as much... social norms based on gender
 
3:30 how to challenge this gender bias
 
4:30 Modeling this balance
 
5:25 about Montessori education and challenging gender bias
 
5:55 Erica Jossa's take on this bias
 
6:35 why it is hard to let go of our responsibilities
 
7:10 what is your position in your family ? Conclusion
 
 
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