Why We Romanticize Toxic Relationships + The Trauma Of Codependency Divine Nobodies

The connection between codependency and relationships is something I’ve contemplated for many years. Primarily due to my own experience in relationships being a codependent in the past, but also being a significant other to many codependent partners. If you’ve ever had the unique opportunity to be either of these individuals, than you know how heartbreaking it can be to love someone to the extent that you lose yourself in the relationship, or love someone so wounded that they have an inability love you in a healthy way.  At this time in our world, it doesn’t seem too far of a stretch to conclude that we live in a wildly codependent society, not just in relationships to people, but in our inward striving towards pleasure, fame and the perpetual need for a constant distraction to pull us away from our own deep spiritual inquiry. 
 
While the pursuit of happiness does appear to be a normalized part of our culture, we seldom explore the deeper implications of where these needs arise from. Of course, there are healthy pursuits driven by the most powerful elements of self love, though what happens when our striving for happiness comes from the shadows of our own personal trauma?  It’s a difficult question to explore, and an even difficult quality to identify in ourselves. Though, one thing we can all relate to on our journey, is the need for love. 
 
Whether a child or an adult, we all have a natural affinity towards connection with our external environment.  While a child seeks the love of their parent, an adult seeks the love of a friend or partner, and so the need for a healthy symbiosis between them seems imperative to live a meaningful and happy life.  Though, what happens when our most basic human needs aren’t met when we’re young, and how does this influence the ways in which we seek love as we get older? Without positive and healthy role models to teach us about healthy love, it seems we become vulnerable to many things that prevent us from finding this healthy connection with others. 
 
As we get older we may find ourselves in emotionally/physically abusive relationships where we’re unconsciously reliving the traumas of our childhood, expecting to receive love from people that have an inability to love us in a healthy, consistent and balanced way. We may find ourselves seeking their approval and receiving constant rejection instead. The blow this instability causes to our self esteem can’t be under estimated. Especially since toxic relationships appear more normalized in our culture today. Of course, the most practical approach would be to distance ourselves from these types of partners, however many of us find it difficult to detach from the intermittent reinforcement we receive from unstable partnerships, and there are several reasons for this.
 
In this episode I will explore the question of why we continue to pursue toxic partners, by exploring my own personal experiences growing up as a child and how my upbringing influenced the types of relationships I brought into my life as an adult.
 
In this episode I discuss,
 
How Childhood Trauma Effects Our Perception Of Love
The Role Of Disassociation In Trauma
Why We Romanticize Unhealthy Relationships
Codependents And Narcissists
Love As A Means Of Escape
Why Toxic Partners Can’t Love Us
How To Break The Cycle Of Abusive Relationships
 
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