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Created by certified sex coach and educator Sara Tang, this podcast features intimate conversations about navigating sex in the modern world. On this frank, informative and lighthearted show, we tackle the taboos that many people commonly experience around sex. Expect banter and open hearted discussions between the hosts and their guests, as we dish up inspiration around how to get Better in Bed.

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Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast Sara Tang, Sex Coach

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Created by certified sex coach and educator Sara Tang, this podcast features intimate conversations about navigating sex in the modern world. On this frank, informative and lighthearted show, we tackle the taboos that many people commonly experience around sex. Expect banter and open hearted discussions between the hosts and their guests, as we dish up inspiration around how to get Better in Bed.

Tune in to this Asia-based sex and sexuality podcast - http://sarasense.com/podcast

    Sex FAQs - How do I Manage Mismatched Libidos?

    Sex FAQs - How do I Manage Mismatched Libidos?

    Sexual desire, or libidos, naturally ebb and flow. Sometimes over a course of a single day. So one of the most common challenges that couples face in relationships is a loss of desire or mismatched libidos. Often in these situations, sex begins to feel like a chore or a performance, which leads to further avoidance.
     
    On this Sex FAQs episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After tackle common questions crowdsourced from listeners around the topics of desire, and how to take sex from performance to pleasure:
    “How can we restart our sex life after having a baby? I’m in the mood more often than my wife, but hesitant to bring it up with her as I’m afraid it will lead to conflict.” “I have a far stronger libido than my partner. When we do have sex, it tends to be the same every time, without much enthusiasm and passion. We’ve talked about it but she just doesn’t have the same interest in it that I do.” “I’ve always thought of sex as a performance and for my partner’s pleasure rather than myself. When my partner asks me what I want, I find myself not knowing what I want as well. Is there anything that can help him and us?” “I used to enjoy sex but find myself avoiding it because it feels like too much hard work and gives me very little pleasure. I focus so much on not coming too fast that it takes me ages to get there and I sometimes just give up. What can I do to learn to enjoy it again?” “I have been trying to get my wife pregnant but it seems my body disagrees. I am having trouble getting hard and when it happens, it only lasts a short time. Please help.”  
    Valentina and Sara talk about broadening the experience of sex beyond just orgasm, and approaching it with a sense of curiosity, fun and playfulness. Adopting a “performance mindset” around sex (i.e. reaching orgasm) usually results in unsatisfying sex, and lead to couples overlooking other ways of building physical and emotional intimacy.
    We also discuss strategies for couples to introduce novelty, explore each other’s bodies, and take responsibility for their own sexual pleasure.  After all, sexual desire is built on the assumption that you’re having the kind of sex that is worth craving!
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    • 52 min
    Getting Down with Dirty Talk & Sexting

    Getting Down with Dirty Talk & Sexting

    Dirty talk usually gets a bad rep. After all, sex isn’t dirty – so why should talking about it be?
     
    On this hilarious episode, Sara chats with her sex-positive friends Kat and James, who are never short on things to say, in the bedroom or otherwise. We talk about the many benefits of dirty talk – from building fantasy, increasing arousal, establishing consent, getting validation and connecting more deeply with one’s partner.
     
    We explore the many different styles – from flirty, naughty, seductive to filthy and degrading – and agree its all in the delivery. We also dish the dirt on our personal best and worst sex talk experiences, which words turn us on or off, and give best practices for sexting.
     
    Learn how to master the art of dirty talk as we come up with ideas for easy phrases for shy beginners, and other must-dos when it comes to the language of sex.

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    • 1 hr 3 min
    Sex FAQs - How do I Corona-Proof My Sex And Love Life?

    Sex FAQs - How do I Corona-Proof My Sex And Love Life?

    How has the global pandemic affected your sex and love life? And how can you ‘corona-proof’ your relationship against the stress, uncertainty and conflict?
     
    A crisis like the one we find ourselves in accelerates the dynamics of any relationship, and you may feel more intense emotions for each other or reach breaking point more quickly.
     
    We’re all concerned about staying physically healthy during these times; but it just as important to keep your relationships safe, strong and healthy too.
     
    Sara chats with clinical psychologist Dr. Kimberly Carder, as we discuss practical strategies and solutions to answer the following crowdsourced questions from followers:
     
    How do I reduce anxiety for myself, and comfort and reassure my partner during this crisis? I’m around my partner all the time, and we don’t have much desire for sex right now. How can we spice things up and re-capture that sense of excitement? We’re both stuck at home at this intense time, which is driving us to nitpick and fight with each other over lots of small things that wouldn’t normally bother us. What can we do? My partner and I are stuck in different cities, and I’m feeling lonely and bored now that we’re separated. What can we do to feel more connected? My partner thinks I am over reacting and minimizes my fear of the coronavirus, how can I get them to take it more seriously? Is it even safe to have sex these days?  
    Kim and Sara talk about why the power of “teamwork” is more essential than ever during these times, and the need for the 4Cs – creativity, communication, connection and commitment – to strengthen any relationship, and keep things hot and sexy!
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    • 42 min
    Everything I Wished I Learned in Sex Ed

    Everything I Wished I Learned in Sex Ed

    What were you taught in sex-ed, and what do you wish you had learned? Often there’s a big difference between the two!
     
    Sara and guests Jules Hannaford, teacher and host of the Hong Kong Confidential podcast and comedian Elena Gabrielle of Story Party, talk about the sex education we received, which was shrouded in fear, abstinence and shame.
     
    We share our early sexual experiences, and reflect on what we wished we’d known about STI’s, consent and responsibility at that time.
     
    We also talk about how we learned about sex and intercourse from a biological standpoint, but there never seemed to be enough focus on the social and practical aspects of sexual relationships.
     
    Jules gives some guidance for parents on how to speak to their children about sex from a young age and encourage a healthy sexuality. We conclude that sex education shouldn’t just start and end in school, it can be an ongoing journey of learning for adults too.
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    • 1 hr 11 min
    BDSM for Beginners

    BDSM for Beginners

    Is your perception of BDSM and kink informed by the infamous Fifty Shades of Gray?
     
    Even though the Fifty Shades franchise does a lot to bring BDSM to the mainstream, it also get a lot of things wrong. Particularly one of BDSM’s key principles, negotiating consent.
     
    Sara and co-host Kat sit down with Jannus of KinkBites — a veteran kinkster, community organizer, and Hong Kong dungeon manager — to lament the Fifty Shades effect, and the myths and misconceptions around BDSM that it perpetuates.
     
    We talk about how the “church of kink” is full of variety (and not all about pain) and how kinky people come from all walks of life. Jannus’s shares his own personal introduction to kink – when his desire to learn how to do better drag resulted in a fateful encounter with Mistress Decima, Hong Kong’s “Godmother of Kink”.
     
    Jannus provides recommendations to beginners and newbies who want to get started with BDSM. He sheds light on common BDSM terminology, what toys one can start with, dating as a kinky person and how to introduce a vanilla partner to your kinks. All in a fun, non-threatening, consensual manner. 
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    • 1 hr 4 min
    Sex and Disability - Breaking the Taboo

    Sex and Disability - Breaking the Taboo

    Do people with disabilities have a right to be sexual? And what can they teach able-bodied people about intimacy and sexuality? 
     
    On this episode, Sara and co-host Kat talk to Carmen Yau, a registered social worker with a PhD from Hong Kong Polytechnic University and founder of erotica collection, “Sugar’s XXX Stories”.
     
    Having been born with spinal muscular atrophy, Carmen is an iconic spokesperson for the sexual equality of people with disabilities and women. She is very vocal about breaking the taboo of people with disabilities often being considered asexual, as well as debunking other myths.
     
    Armed with her own personal experiences living in a traditional Asian culture which focuses on “infantilising” people with disabilities as a form of protection, she shares how she was able to explore her sexuality, in spite of her physical limitations.
     
    In particular, she talks about the creativity that people with disabilities use in terms of coming up with unique sex toys, sex positions, and even how their bodies can sometimes develop heightened senses that can lead to “abstract orgasms”
     
    This episode will challenge your idea of what is considered “normal” in sex and sexuality. Listen in as Carmen shares an empowering message for everyone, whether disabled or able-bodied -about loving one’s body and valuing oneself. She believes that how you perceive yourself impacts how you conduct yourself with others, and how fruitful your life will be.  
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    • 1 hr 3 min

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Amazing honesty

Narratives are very well handled. It’s really tough to handle this subject.

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Inspired to get better in bed!

Listening to this podcast is my favorite time of the week. I love the approachable hosts and content is really entertaining!

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