45 min

Episode 9: Hidden Pain and the Power of Facing Your Fear The Best of You

    • Mental Health

This conversation is an absolute gift. Bianca is a powerhouse of wisdom who talks honestly about the hidden pain that both motivated her and almost got the best of her. She shares about the moment she passed out on her dorm room floor from carrying so much hidden pain—and how she began to face the fears that drove her.   

You do not want to miss her encouragement for listeners with mother or father wounds and the commitment she made to herself to “die empty." We discuss these topics and more:  

1. Will I struggle with feeling pain forever? 

2. Why trying to “just be happy” doesn’t work. 

3. How her first trip to counseling was a bust 

4. How fear can motivate us in both positive and negative ways 

5. The burdens of generational trauma that can add to our pain 

6. The pressure she put on herself to heal so she wouldn’t pass on pain to her own children 

7. How she learned to advocate for herself and “staffed” herself accordingly  



Connect with Bianca at behindtheconfidentsmile.com or on 

Instagram: @biancancotton & @behindtheconfidentsmile   



You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode here.

Sign up to receive Dr. Cook’s weekly email and receive 2 free e-books and a guided prayer reflection.

This conversation is an absolute gift. Bianca is a powerhouse of wisdom who talks honestly about the hidden pain that both motivated her and almost got the best of her. She shares about the moment she passed out on her dorm room floor from carrying so much hidden pain—and how she began to face the fears that drove her.   

You do not want to miss her encouragement for listeners with mother or father wounds and the commitment she made to herself to “die empty." We discuss these topics and more:  

1. Will I struggle with feeling pain forever? 

2. Why trying to “just be happy” doesn’t work. 

3. How her first trip to counseling was a bust 

4. How fear can motivate us in both positive and negative ways 

5. The burdens of generational trauma that can add to our pain 

6. The pressure she put on herself to heal so she wouldn’t pass on pain to her own children 

7. How she learned to advocate for herself and “staffed” herself accordingly  



Connect with Bianca at behindtheconfidentsmile.com or on 

Instagram: @biancancotton & @behindtheconfidentsmile   



You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode here.

Sign up to receive Dr. Cook’s weekly email and receive 2 free e-books and a guided prayer reflection.

45 min