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The early years of a child’s life are the most important for their long-term development. Sometimes, the abundance of information out there can feel overwhelming and difficult to navigate. My New Life is here to support parents and help make sense of the science behind early learning.

I’m Jessica Rolph, mother of three and CEO of Lovevery. With the help of experts from around the world, we break down all the child development science into usable nuggets of knowledge that you can put to the test in your own home.

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    • Kids & Family

The early years of a child’s life are the most important for their long-term development. Sometimes, the abundance of information out there can feel overwhelming and difficult to navigate. My New Life is here to support parents and help make sense of the science behind early learning.

I’m Jessica Rolph, mother of three and CEO of Lovevery. With the help of experts from around the world, we break down all the child development science into usable nuggets of knowledge that you can put to the test in your own home.

    Talking about death

    Talking about death

    Birthing is a topic we all want to weigh in on, but death? Not so much. We tend to avoid the subject, and when it comes to talking to our child about death, choosing the right words is hard. Of course, there’s no “right” way to talk about death except to lead with honesty and love.
     
    Jessica Rolph, your host, welcomes Michele Benyo to the show. She is the founder of Good Grief Parenting. Michele came to this work in the wake of losing her child 20 years ago and helping his sibling through the grief. Today, Jessica and Michele discuss how parents can support their children through the death of a pet or loved one.
     
    Highlights:
    [1:26] What do parents need to know about how children grieve?
    [3:13] How can parents help a grieving child?
    [4:30] Michele gives examples of some mistakes parents make when discussing death with children.
    [6:53] How can parents begin to use direct language to talk about death with their children?
    [9:19] How does grief manifest through play?
    [11:41] A question from the Lovevery community: “How do you answer: Are Grandma and Grandpa going to die? Followed by, Are you and Daddy going to die?”
    [13:52] When do children start to understand death?
    [15:27] How can we prepare our children for the death of someone who is close to death?
    [17:10] Another question from a listener: “How do I incorporate family members who died into my son’s life at 7 months old? How do I explain to him that they’re no longer here, but they love him very much?”
    [20:11] Ways to approach the death of a pet.
    [22:47] How should we prepare children for a funeral?
    [25:08] Jessica shares her takeaways from the conversation with Michele Benyo.
     
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    • 26 min
    Pacifiers: In or out?

    Pacifiers: In or out?

    Pacifiers are so convenient… until they’re not. At some point, there can be concerns about developing teeth and interference with speech, and weaning a child off a pacifier can be challenging.
     
    The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, the American Academy of Pediatrics, and speech and language therapists recommend starting that weaning process between 6 to 12 months, and weaning entirely before a child’s third birthday. 
     
    To guide us through that transition, My New Life host Jessica Rolph welcomes Dr. Amy Conrad to today’s episode. Dr. Amy is a mother to a 10-month-old, a Lovevery customer, and the host of the Ask Doctor Amy podcast.
     
    Highlights:
    [1:19] Dr. Amy talks about the pros and cons of pacifier use.
    [3:42] What red flags should parents be looking for with regard to pacifier use?
    [5:52] Dr. Amy shares her thoughts about the paci fairy approach.
    [7:25] If a child is using a pacifier all through the day and at night, is it advisable to wean them from the pacifier during awake times, and then eventually extend that to nap-time and finally bedtime? 
    [8:38] Can we revert to pacifiers when a child gets sick or during a trip?
    [9:30] What about gradually shortening the tips of the pacifier? 
    [10:40] How much of a concern is tooth decay, and how and when should we wean our child from the bottle?
    [11:08] What are some signs that your baby is ready for a drinking cup? 
    [12:31] How and when to use sippy cups, open cups, and bottles? 
    [13:52] Jessica shares her takeaways from the conversation with Dr. Amy.
     
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Brought to you by Lovevery.com
     
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    • 15 min
    Coping with separation anxiety

    Coping with separation anxiety

    The stress of separation is real — it can be upsetting for both you and your child. Whether it be a child sobbing for you to stay when the babysitter shows up or clinging to your leg at drop-off, it’s easy to feel like you’re doing it all wrong when these raw emotions take over.
     
    My New Life’s Jessica Rolph welcomes Family Psychologist Ashleigh Warner to help parents navigate this tricky terrain. Ashleigh reassures us that these feelings are normal, and shares ways to make separations easier on everyone involved.
     
    Highlights:
    [1:45] What is causing our babies and toddlers to get so upset when we leave the room? 
    [3:02] Ashleigh talks about Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s model of attachment.
    [5:15] Ashleigh explains why it is completely normal for a child to struggle at drop-off.
    [6:37] What happens if there are a few caregivers, who might even change day by day? 
    [7:30] How to handle attachment in a daycare setting for a baby? 
    [9:03] Is sneaking out recommended? How should parents handle separation?
    [11:21] What can caretakers do to make separation less traumatic?
    [14:45] What is the role of distraction? Are distractions recommended?
    [15:58] How long is it okay for a child to be crying and upset over a separation? 
    [17:34] Is it ok to go back for your child if the crying is more than you can handle?
    [21:05] Should caregivers be practicing a few things at home before a big transition like starting daycare or preschool?
    [22:30] What are ways that caregivers can build trust in their children that they will always return?
    [23:30] Jessica presents the question of a listener. She’s a Navy mom who is gone a lot, and finds it painful when her child expresses a preference for Daddy. What advice does Ashleigh have for this mom? 
    [25:02] How can a parent ease the transition when returning to work?
    [26:38] Jessica shares her takeaways from her conversation with Ashleigh Warner.
     
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    @raisinghumanskind
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    • 28 min
    Preventing screen-time meltdowns

    Preventing screen-time meltdowns

    Screens are hard to avoid in today’s world, and when our children do have access, turning them off can bring on some big emotions! Have you ever wondered why they have these oversized reactions? Or how to avoid them?
     
    My New Life host Jessica Rolph is joined by  Dr. Martha Deiros Collado, a psychologist specializing in family therapy who has her own podcast called Talking Sense, and an Instagram presence at @dr.martha.psychologist. Listen to today’s episode for simple tips to bring more harmony to the conclusion of screen time. 
     
    Highlights:
    [1:03] Does Dr. Martha use screens with her three-year-old?
    [2:11] Which shows does Dr. Martha consider appropriate for her daughter? 
    [3:29] A listener asks for help managing her 3 year old’s big reactions every time she turns off the screen.
    [4:19] What is a parent to do about these meltdowns?
    [7:41] What is actually happening in the child’s brain while they are engaged with a screen?
    [11:22] Is there any evidence that the type of programming can affect children’s behavior? 
    [13:55] Does sticking to a schedule or having some kind of routine around screens help with limit setting?
    [16:02] Another parent shares a questions about timing exposure to screens.
    [18:23] Should parents use screen time as a reward? And what about withholding screens as a punishment?
    [23:55] What are some best practices around modeling moderation for our children?
    [27:18] Jessica shares takeaways from her conversation with Dr. Martha.
     
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Brought to you by Lovevery.com
     
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    • 30 min
    When potty training gets messy

    When potty training gets messy

    Is your child refusing to sit on the toilet? Or waiting until the pull-up is on to go poop? You’re not alone. For a lot of parents, the potty learning process is more drawn out than we anticipate. For some, it takes months or even years.
     
    In previous episodes, you heard some common potty-training scenarios. We shared the advice of the author of Oh Crap Potty Training and Nicole Kavanaugh’s Montessori approach. In today’s episode, Host Jessica Rolph welcomes Quiara Smith, an occupational therapist specializing in pediatric pelvic floor health, to help with the trickier cases when it comes to learning potty etiquette.
     
    Highlights:
    [1:42] What scenarios are most common in Quiara’s practice? 
    [2:28]  What are Quiara’s recommendations for a child who is withholding poop until nap time or night? 
    [3:25] What if the child’s sensory system is overwhelmed?
    [4:55] Is there anything that parents can do to create a more favorable environment in the bathroom for their child? 
    [6:46] A specific potty challenge scenario from one of Lovevery's listeners.
    [8:42] How firmly should parents hold boundaries around the use of diapers to poop? 
    [9:46] A listener asks a question about how we can help a toddler to differentiate between a diaper and pull-ups/training pants.
    [12:26] How can parents help their children to transition from the potty to the toilet? Listen to a parent whose child has been rejecting the regular toilet for almost a year.
    [15:24] What to do when your child uses the potty at school, but not at home? Or visa versa.
    [17:33] What can parents do when their child is withholding to the point of constipation?
    [20:09] What is the average time frame for learning to use the potty? Is there a point at which parents should seek outside help?
    [21:40] What do parents do if their child is potty trained and then experiences a regression? 
    [22:36] Quiara shares tips to continue potty training while traveling.
    [24:09] Quiara’s final advice. 
    [25:37] Jessica gives her takeaways from the conversation with Quiara Smith.
     
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Brought to you by Lovevery.com
     
    Receive weekly emails about your child’s development, and stay in the know about new play essentials, promos, and more by signing up at Lovevery.com
    Follow Lovevery and Jessica Rolph on Instagram.
     
    Listen to Perspectives on Toileting with the Author of 'Oh Crap! Potty Training' and A Montessori Perspective on Toilet Learning.
    Find additional tips on potty training on the Lovevery blog at lovevery.com.

    • 28 min
    Get your baby talking with The Speech Sisters

    Get your baby talking with The Speech Sisters

    This week we are revisiting our most-downloaded episode from Dec. 1, 2021, as we prepare for our upcoming season: Transitions. In the new season of the podcast, we will take a look at transitions from diapers to potty, crib to bed, saying goodby to pacifiers, and lots more.
     
    Language milestones are a hot topic. When should my baby be speaking? And how many words? So much is tied up in our ability to communicate with our little people. On today’s episode of My New Life, we call in the experts to get your baby talking! 
     
    While the timeline for those treasured first words varies from child to child, there are some time-tested tricks to help the process along. Spoiler: Don’t be afraid to sing to your child. Jessica Rolph, your host, is accompanied by speech language experts Bridget Hillsberg and Brooke Dwyer, aka the Speech Sisters.
     
    Key Takeaways:
    [1:54] How much is nature vs nurture when it comes to a child developing language?
    [3:13] Bridget and Brooke talk about their babies’ language development.
    [4:47] The Speech Sisters’ number one tip for parents: imitate.
    [6:05] What’s the difference between baby talk and imitating? 
    [8:01] Another tip for parents: Act it out.
    [9:25] Listening, labeling, and demonstrating play an important role in encouraging language development.
    [12:37] What constitutes saying the first word versus babbling? If you know what they mean when they say it, does that count as a word? 
    [13:23] How much should a child be talking? What’s typical? And when should we worry?
    [16:04] Bridget and Brooke share stories about children who received early intervention to assist in their language development.
    [18:25] Can a child learn language through screens?
    [21:17] How much of a child’s language development stems from parent intervention versus screens or some other outside service?
    [23:15] Parents have a tremendous impact on their children’s language acquisition. 
     
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Brought to you by Lovevery.com
    Speech Sisters on Instagram
    Find more about Bridget and Brooke on SpeechSisters.com

    • 25 min

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