Unapologetically Sensitive Patricia Young

Expansion and Contraction: Honoring Your Rhythms 
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their personal experiences with stress, burnout, and the challenges of navigating relationships. They explore the importance of self-compassion, the need for rest and downtime, and the impact of attachment wounds on their interactions. They also touch on the concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the role of the 'self' in healing and growth.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Jen and Patricia discuss stress, self-care, and finding joy in everyday moments. Topics include managing stress using insights from Emily & Amelia Nagoski's book, Burnout, and embracing self-compassion. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-care activities like crocheting, walking, paddling, resting, and watching TV for relaxation. Patricia and Jen share personal experiences, highlighting the value of open communication and supportive relationships in navigating challenges. Overall, the conversation offers practical tips for stress management, promoting well-being, and finding happiness in simple pleasures.
Takeaways
Practicing self-compassion and separating stressors from the stress response in the body can help manage burnout.
Honoring the body's need for rest and downtime is essential, even if it goes against societal expectations of productivity.
Navigating relationships can be challenging, especially when attachment wounds are triggered, but open communication and self-reflection can help repair and strengthen connections.
The concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) emphasizes the importance of accessing the 'self' and its qualities of compassion, wisdom, and creativity in healing and growth.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences with Stress and Burnout
02:52 The Importance of Rest and Downtime
08:11 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Wounds
14:11 The Role of the 'Self' in Healing and Growth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
 
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
 
LINKS
 
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cody by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski
 
Jen’s Links
 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
 
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
 
Patricia’s Links
 
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Managing Expectations: Showing Up for Yourself During Hard Times
 
Jen and Patricia discuss attachment wounds in their friendship. They explore the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and managing expectations. They highlight the need for compassion & understanding when dealing with attachment issues & emphasize the ongoing work of healing & growth. In this conversation, Patricia shares her recent experiences with conflict & how she navigated this. She discusses the importance of leaning into difficult emotions and listening to others without defensiveness.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
The conversation revolves around attachment injuries and the impact they have on relationships. Patricia explores the concept of self-care and the need to treat oneself with kindness and nurturing. The conversation highlights the different lenses through which people view relationships and the importance of understanding one's own biases. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the value of curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment in navigating challenging situations.
In Depth Takeaways
·         Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger emotional reactions.
·         Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing and understanding attachment wounds.
·         Setting boundaries and managing expectations can help navigate attachment issues.
·         Compassion and understanding are essential in healing and growth.
·         Working on oneself and developing a strong inner relationship is key to managing attachment wounds. Leaning into difficult emotions and situations can lead to personal growth and understanding.
·         Listening without defensiveness allows for better communication and resolution in conflicts.
·         Self-care involves treating oneself with kindness and nurturing one's own needs.
·         Understanding one's own biases and lenses can improve relationships and communication.
·         Curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment are essential in navigating challenging situations.
Additional Takeaways
Understanding emotional struggles: Gain insights into navigating complex emotions. Communication strategies: Learn effective ways to express feelings and thoughts. Attachment wounds exploration: Understand how past experiences impact relationships. Self-reflection tools: Discover techniques for introspection and personal growth. Compassion importance: Explore the role of empathy in fostering connections. Relationship navigation: Tips for managing challenges in interpersonal dynamics. Trauma healing techniques: Tools for addressing and healing past traumas. Empathy and connection building: Foster deeper connections with others. Self-care prioritization: Learn to prioritize self-care and well-being. Embracing imperfections: Understand the value of self-acceptance and growth. Emotional intelligence enhancement: Develop skills for understanding and managing emotions. Healthy boundaries cultivation: Establish boundaries for healthier relationships. Validation of experiences: Feel validated in your personal journey and struggles. Self-discovery encouragement: Find inspiration for exploring your true self. Personal growth support: Receive guidance for personal development and transformation. Conflict resolution strategies: Learn techniques for resolving conflicts peacefully. Resilience and strength building: Develop resilience to overcome challenges. Effective listening techniques: Enhance your listening skills for better communication. Vulnerability encouragement: Embrace vulnerability as a path to authenticity. Positive change inspiration: Get motivated to make positive changes in your life. Sound Bites
"The theme is attachment injuries."
"We all need a secure attachment."
"I really have learned to lean in

Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation
 
Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy.
Takeaways:
Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)
 
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Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation
 
Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.
Takeaways
·         Change and disruption can be challenging.
·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.
·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.
·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.
·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.
·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.
·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.
Sound Bites
·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me"
·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"
·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is"
·         "It's the openheartedness really."
·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Frustrations
08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility
25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility
34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs
40:39 Managing Expectations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
 
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
 
LINKS
 
Jen’s Links
 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
 
Jen’s website: https:/

Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment
 
Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.
·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.
·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.
·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.
·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
 
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.
Takeaways
·         Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
·         Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
·         Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
·         Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
·         Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
·         Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
·         Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
·         Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
·         Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
·         Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
·         Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.
Additional topics discussed:
Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations. Building resilience through shared experiences a