Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life‪.‬ Spenser Brassard | Certified Life Coach, Mind-Body Fertility Expert, Mama-B

One of the main teachings inside of my book, Fertile Ground, is that: 
 
There are 1000’s of different paths you can take to conceive your baby
 
The problem is that we get caught up in how we’re supposed to do it according to culture and the mainstream fertility industry. 
 
For example, think about how people usually talk about getting ahead in education and business. Most people will tell you the way to go is to head off to a four-year college and get that degree. But there are tons of other routes, like vocational training, online courses, or just learning on your own. 
 
Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs are both college dropouts. Beyonce and Oprah didn’t even bother.
 
There is another way. Life is a LOT more abundant than that one, narrow path culture convinces you to take.
 
Problem is, most people stick to the traditional and “acceptable” way of doing things, even though there are plenty of other paths that will lead to a similar (if not better) destination. 
 
We’re trained to do this, even if the mainstream path causes: 
 
Burnout
Stress
Overwhelm 
Or just doesn’t feel right.
 
This week’s podcast is to reveal to you that there is another way to your baby. Another approach. 
 
I know – first hand – how scary it is so go against how everyone else is doing it. 
 
But I also know – first hand – that I would not be where I am today, if I continued to follow what everyone else did. 
 
Me and my nature were not made for the normal way of doing things. And if you’re reading this, I don’t think you were either.
 
We’re safe to be different. 

Ready to feel the relief? Click here to listen to this week’s podcast and build the safety you need to do things your own damn way.

As you’re reading this email, I’m most likely sleeping, meditating, oracle card reading or listening to 528 Hz beats while going pen to paper
 
This mama needs a break. I need a break away from producing, promoting, posting, doing, blooming. 
 
And I ain’t got no shame. 
 
After my book launch and a recent death in my family which has left me quite heart broken, my body is feeling burnt out. And to me, that means, I need (not want… need) a retreat inward.  
 
Of course, my socialized self is tempted to bypass this very real, very necessary call to rest. 
 
But I’m listening. Because I know that this time and space inward, is where I recharge and receive the most bang on guidance about next steps in my life.
 
I will never find what I’m looking for, outside of myself. 
 
I recorded a podcast this week where I share more about this decision, because too many of us are attempting to bloom all year round. When a retreat inwards, could be the exact medicine you need to get happy and/or get pregnant.
 
You are an extension of nature. You have this code inside of you that knows what you need to thrive, to grow (yourself and that belly) and to be the best version of yourself. 
 
But you miss this. YOU. MISS. THIS... when you don’t take the time to fold inward and hear what nature wants for you.
 
To learn how to do this, listen to this week’s podcast. 
 
The code of your nature has been patiently waiting for you. 
 

My husband Dan attended a work conference a couple weekends ago in Banff, Alberta. 
 
It was a gathering of female physicians with a focus on mental health. 
 
I wasn’t there. But it was a shock to Dan that so many women are struggling getting their partners on board with the day to day tasks that make adulting feel so hard.
 
Women do so much. It’s called the “invisible workload” and it encompasses the intangible and often unnoticed tasks and responsibilities involved in managing a household and even more so in your case, the fertility journey. 
 
It’s very common for women to  struggle to create a more equal role of responsibility on the fertility journey. Not sharing the responsibility of this journey with your partner adds a ton of pressure to the woman, while also making her feel fully responsible to “make it happen.” 
 
This week, I interviewed my husband Dan on the Fertile Ground podcast to create common ground towards a solution. I’m so excited for you to listen! (And omg can I just tell you – I am so in love with this man.)
 
Men are different. They think and do things differently. But this doesn’t mean we can’t come together to achieve our goals and live a beautiful life… where we take on equal roles to make sure everyone is rested and happy
 
TBH, making this transition to equality wasn’t easy for Dan and I. But you can listen and learn from our mistakes
 
This week you will learn the 3 steps on how to create more equality in your partnership:
 
Accept that men and women are different (and why this isn’t a bad thing).
Disarm each other when you get activated. 
How to ask for what you want and need from each other. 
 
You’re gonna LOVEEEE this episode! 
 
A weight is going to be lifted off of your shoulders. 
 
The pressure isn’t yours to hold mama bear.
 
Listen now!

I see you. Way more than you know. 
 
You have done so much to try and create this baby. 
 
You are so determined, so passionate and so brilliant. You deserve to be celebrated on this day (if not MORE) than a mother with 3 kids. 
 
In my eyes, Mother’s day is for YOU!
 
To make you feel special and seen, I recorded a special podcast with one of my favorite people in the world… my mama! Tracy Lucas ❤️ 
 
She held such beautiful space for me on my fertility journey, so I thought — Why not share her with you? Why would I keep her all to myself? Why not spread the love and wisdom? 
 
Please listen to this today. It’ll warm your heart. Make you feel so special for exactly who you are.
 
We laughed. We cried. Please enjoy this heart-opening conversation on this vulnerable day. 
 
Listen now!

Boy oh boy does it sound fancy AF to say this but…
 
I decided to hire a publicist to get the word out about my book, Fertile Ground, that’ll be released in a week! A WEEK! 
 
She’s worked with Vogue, Serena Willliams and Ralph Lauren. She’s a feminist. And gorgeous. I love her. 
 
Her name is Liz Dennery and she asked if she could interview me on the Fertile Ground podcast. 
 
I said duh, of course. 
 
She asked me some really cool questions like:
 
How did you strike a balance between actively pursuing conception and maintaining a sense of normalcy and fulfillment in other aspects of life?
Many people facing fertility challenges often feel isolated or misunderstood. How does your book aim to provide support and community for individuals going through similar experiences?
Beyond helping individuals conceive, how do you envision your book impacting readers' lives in broader ways, beyond their fertility journeys?
Our chat is refreshingly fun girl talk, but we cut straight through the bull shit and into how to actually heal, feel whole and be happy now. All of this, of course, leads to increased fertility. 
 
Listen now!

 
I got a little (a lot) spicy in this weeks podcast

I’m unleashing a lot of pent up emotions I have about the fertility industry

This week's podcast is called: 3 things that drive me crazy about the fertility industry. 

If you don’t yet know this already — with the exception of a handful of fertility experts — I loathe 90% of fertility advice out there.

It DID NOT work for me. In fact, it made me feel farther away from the goal and it made me feel like I couldn’t trust myself. 

I don’t think most of the “tips and tricks” work for women who are: 
Naturally more anxious. 
Have perfectionist tendencies.

In fact, I think the fertility journey tends to EXPAND on these characteristics and make it feel worse. 

It’s a bit of tough love for you this week, as I offer blunt but very effective guidance, if you REALLY want to change this narrative from: 

Someone suffering and struggling to conceive.

to

Someone who is thriving and open to conceiving their baby.

There’s a huge difference mama bear. 

LISTEN NOW!

After you listen, I wanna open up the conversation about it. Tell me how it landed. I’m SO CURIOUS to learn what emotions it evokes within you. 

I love you (with big sister tough love)

xo Spenser