Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons Jason and Lauren Vallotton

In this enlightening episode, the Vallottons peel back the layers on the complex art of motherhood, equipping you with five transformative strategies that promise to shift your perspective and nurture your soul. In short:


Take care of yourself first! Build a support network! Prioritize your marriage over your children!Watch out for over-responsibility and shame!Plan for success!
From the imperative of self-care, likened to the crucial oxygen masks on airplanes, to the power of a robust support network, the Vallottons guide you through the essentials that will not only help you flourish as a mother but also teach your children the vital importance of self-respect and personal well-being.

As glasses are raised to Mother's Day, the Vallottons also shine a light on the often-overlooked cornerstone of a happy family life: your marriage. Witness as they unravel the reasons why placing your partnership before parenting isn't just good for you and your spouse, but it's the foundation for a stable, loving environment for your children.

Alongside heartfelt wisdom and anecdotes, they explore the pitfalls of parenting from a place of over-responsibility and shame, and offer a peaceful, faith-centered paradigm to replace the fear and comparison that can so easily infiltrate our lives.

Join the Vallottons for a journey into the heart of motherhood, where joy and balance are not just possible—they're within reach.












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In the 70th episode of their podcast, celebrating a quarter-million downloads, The Vallottons delve into the concept of emotional bank accounts. They guide listeners through recognizing the subtle signs of emotional depletion and emphasize the importance of self-care to maintain inner resilience. From navigating the challenges of loss and parenthood, they advocate for replenishing one's spirit through activities that bring joy and fulfillment to everyday life.
Drawing from the insights of the Gottman Institute, The Vallottons explore the dynamics of emotional exchanges in relationships, particularly within marriages. They highlight the institute's recommendation of maintaining a golden ratio of five positive interactions to every negative one for a thriving partnership. The hosts offer practical advice on making intentional deposits into the love account through affirmations, encouragement, and thoughtful gestures that nurture the bond between partners.
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This episode is a discussion between hosts Jason and Lauren Vallotton about the importance of deep and fulfilling adult friendships. Inspired by recent events and discussions with others in their community, Jason and Lauren wanted to talk specifically about their own personal journeys in adult friendships as well as the practical things that people can do in order to foster deep and meaningful friendships. 

Inheriting a legacy of robust friendships, as exemplified by Lauren's mother, sets the stage for weaving those threads into the fabric of the Vallottons' own lives and marriage. Jason and Lauren talk about weathering the dissolution of old ties and the nurturing of new ones, all while seeking that sweet spot where companionship and friendship intersects with personal growth. Walls are torn down to reveal the stark reality of loneliness, with insights from Barna Research on discipleship and companionship being dissected, alongside sharing intimate anecdotes. Lauren and Jason candidly exchange notes on the power of shared experiences and regular check-ins, showcasing how these small, intentional acts can fortify the bridges between them.
This episode serves as a reflection, a conversation, and an invitation to embrace the profound changes in how success, happiness, and fulfillment are viewed, both in careers and personal lives. It's about setting foundations for friendships that are as solid and enduring as the values held dear, and it's about opening up to the enriching experiences that come from investing in the people around us.
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This Q&A session is a follow-up on the recent Sex Series (episodes 62-67) and includes questions from listeners pertaining to individual, dating and marriage scenarios. The following topics are covered, and we've attached some links to other resources related:
Healing from sexual past, including memories Restoration of virginity and the healing processDating  people who have extreme sexual history such as visiting prostitutes, porn, homosexuality, etcDating someone who is actively struggling with pornography but aggressively pursuing freedomPartners who are experiencing grief as they process their partner's sexual past Building trust in the healing processDiffering sex drives in marriageChronic illness and its impact on sexual relationship in marriageRESOURCES:
Moral Revolution BlogThe Whole Man Project (for men regarding sexual wholeness)DMB Episodes on Processing Pain:
1. Episode 20: A Plan for Pain, Part 1
2. Episode 21: A Plan for Pain, Part 2 Connect with Lauren:
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In the final episode of the Sex Series, the spotlight shifts to the intricate interplay of women's health and sex in the context of marriage. Rebekah LaRobardiere, a certified sex and relationship coach, joins the discussion, guiding listeners through the delicate dance of intimacy experienced by women from adolescence to menopause. Together, they explore the dynamic relationship between the body's natural rhythms and the emotional resonance of relationships, offering empathy and understanding to harmonize these elements into a loving melody.

The discussion begins with an exploration of the challenges inherent in navigating intimate waters amidst life's transitions. Shedding light on the unspoken struggles that can turn sex into a choreographed routine, rather than a spontaneous expression of love, they delve into both psychological and physiological aspects. Rebekah shares insights into the transformative potential of communication, addressing issues such as painful sex and psychological barriers, and highlighting how a deeper understanding of one's body can enhance intimate connections.

The conversation concludes with a heartfelt reflection on the delicate balance between self-care and the demands of intimacy, particularly for mothers. It serves as a reminder that self-nurturance is not a solitary endeavor but an essential component of a healthy relationship. Through Rebekah's guidance, they emphasize the importance of setting personal boundaries with grace and the empowering potential of taking ownership of one's choices in the bedroom and beyond. Tune in to elevate your relationship's choreography to an art form, where each step is taken with care, understanding, and a shared sense of rhythm.

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Rebekah Joy LaRobardiere is a seasoned explorer delving into the intricacies of human connection, particularly in the realms of sexuality and relationships. Rebekah embarked on her journey in 2004 when she married her Love, initiating a voyage marked by love, laughter, tears, and continual growth.

As a certified Sex and Relationship Coach, Rebekah brings not only a wealth of credentials but also a profound sense of empathy, humor, and genuine humanity to her practice. With just shy of two decades of dedicated engagement in her field, she holds certifications as a sexuality educator, complemented by a background in psychology and extensive study in Somatic Experiencing theory.

Moreover, Rebekah is passionate about empowering women to embrace their true selves, advocating for an appreciation of the natural cycles and phases that define our existence. By cultivating self-awareness and authenticity, individuals not only enrich their own lives but also create opportunities for those around them to pursue their desires with confidence.

It's essential to dispel the misconception that Rebekah, as a Sex and Relationship Coach, hasn’t had the same struggles as many of you. On the contrary, her journey is a testament to the messy, yet beautiful, nature of human connection—a journey marked by resilience, growth, intentionality, and profound moments of tenderness. Alongside her partner, Rebekah has navigated challenges, celebrated triumphs, and embraced the transformative power of change.

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In this episode, listeners are invited to explore the complexities of marital intimacy overshadowed by past trauma, physical challenges and addiction through the compassionate insights of Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill from Connection Codes. The journey promised entails a path towards healing and a profound emotional bond between partners.

Together, the hosts delve into the intricate dynamics of sexual trauma within marriage, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing old wounds for their dissolution. Utilizing the 'issue-specific core emotion wheel,' they navigate tender memories and advocate for the 'power of the ooh,' a simple yet impactful expression of empathy strengthening spousal bonds.

Listeners are also encouraged to challenge their perceptions as the discussion also addresses the misunderstood condition of vaginismus, shedding light on its emotional foundations that contribute to a significant majority of cases. The discourse underscores the essential relationship between physical affection and emotional security, emphasizing the need for a tranquil sanctuary for sexual pleasure.

Furthermore, the conversation explores the emotional weight often carried by men and women in response to sexual rejection and the importance of seeking external guidance when stuck in patters of current or past sexual addiction.

Ultimately, the episode serves as more than just an informative resource; it's a heartfelt guide tailored for couples striving to honor God's design for sex within the sanctity of marriage. Through transparent communication and shared empathy, listeners are offered insights to enrich their connection and strengthen their relationship.

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Hills' Bio:
Dr Glenn Hill is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, Connection Codes
coach and author with a private practice in Nashville, TN. He considers his greatest
credential to be his 40-year marriage with Phyllis. He enjoys doing absolutely anything
with her, especially traveling and spending time with their family of twenty.

Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur, Connection Codes coach and the engine that keeps
everything running. She enjoys the partnership and adventures she and Glenn share
and loves being “Honey” to their ten grandchildren.

The pain of their early married years along with decades of research and experience led
the Hills to the founding of The Connection Codes. They counsel couples, families,
individuals, churches and businesses in building deep connection. They are passionate
about the Connection Codes because of the effect on their relationship, as well as
seeing the effect for countless others. It is the Hills’ mission to take the Connection
Codes to everyone on the planet.








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