On this episode of #TheDojo, with Thabang absent, we kick things off with a brief catch up of what we got up to during the week. We move on to deliberate about the legacy of apartheid president FW de Klerk, we attempt to contextualize his contributions to his "people" and the suffering inflicted to the majority black population of SA due to him being a leader in Apartheid SA. We ponder momentarily the issue of Miss SA attending the Miss Universe competition in Israel and we exchange views around our understanding of the conflict in the Middle East. We discuss girlfriend allowances and muse over the monies women receive from men and the expectations on both sides, that may arise from such arrangements. We advise a listener whether they should inform their partner when they get hit on by people in their partner's circle. We round off the pod chewing over a listener provided scenario around a stepfather dealing with a biological dad who was absent, now wanting to be present in their child's life.