Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther’s Office Hours

They met as community organizers in their neighborhood. She had just gotten out of a multi-year marriage to her ex-wife and began to forge new friendships. After about a year, something shifted for her and she began to develop feelings for him, sending her seemingly solid identity into a tailspin. After 15 years of identifying as a lesbian, she was in her first straight relationship. Now, he is beginning to question what he wants out of life and their relationship and can’t seem to grow out of his youth-formed habits of yearning for greener pastures. They find themselves at an erotic stalemate and come to Esther for help.

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She left four marriages after having an affair each time. After coming to Esther to try to figure out why, she returned to therapy on her own. Now, a few weeks later, she sent Esther a voice note to let her know where everything landed and what actually happened to her current relationship.

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Four affairs and four divorces later, she is searching for answers as to why she can’t stop leaving in such an abrupt way. Despite longing for a life partner, she questions her ability to maintain a healthy and stable relationship. Esther seeks to uncover the root of these issues and help her forge a new path forward as she embarks on what she hopes is her final relationship.

Esther Callings are a one-time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com.

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This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A newly married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy while also giving voice to past trauma. One partner is working to overcome an aversion to physical touch due to abuse from his past while the other is learning to ask for more without triggering painful memories for his husband. From this starting point, Esther guides them through a discussion on memory, family relationships, and infidelity and helps them work out a blueprint for loving and satisfying touch.

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Esther has a favor to ask of YOU. This month marks one year since she started her subscription Office Hours on Apple Podcasts. And just like she does with the couples who come to her office, Esther wants to know how is it going for you? What has stayed with you after listening over the past year, what would you like to hear more of, less of? Who would you love to hear her in conversation with? Esther wants to hear your wildest ideas as you are part of her inner podcast circle. Just send a note to her producer Jesse - Hello@magnificentnoise.com with the title Thoughts for Esther.

And as a thank you for the entire month of June, Esther wants to offer you 20% percent off the annual price so you can stay connected on her Office Hours on Apple Podcasts. So if you are a monthly member now is the best time to convert to being an annual subscriber. And thanks so much for listening and for all your help to make Esther's Office Hours exactly what you want them to be.

Esther takes a question from a young woman struggling with her relationship with her father. A recent divorce and the slow reveal of an affair on the part of her father has ruptured the family- and leaves her questioning whether or not her father should continue to have a role in her life.

Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com.

Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter
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