10 min
DIAGNOSIS: "MISTRUST" NEGATIVE POSITIVITY
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Good evening, I'm James Lesans aka Universal Peace God Allah. I have a serious question for you all.
Was the way that we were raised appropriate or inappropriate if we were raised as babies in homes, by parents:
Where the mother held a career, as the father does and neither was never around accept for when they had days off of work, leaving us to be raised by baby sitters?
Where the mother was unsure of who the father was or was separated from the child's father, unemployed on public assistance, always around but never around because she's always dropping the child with Ms.Johnson, living in a protected reality, protecting herself from the despair of being broke and broken by indulging in drug use, chasing the bag in different men's pockets and partying every weekend, always leaving the child with whomever she can drop the child off with?
My answer is yes, those ways were inappropriate because both the father and mother were absent in the early stages of the child's life. The child needs to be raised by a father who works and provides financial, mental and emotional support to the mother. At the same time, the child needs to also be raised by an at home mother who is adequately receiving the fathers adequate and fare financial, mental and emotional pay disbursements, enabling her to share those things with the child, tesching the child how a father should treat a mother, how a mother should respond to the father and treat that child, enabling the child to see the proper family love and structure. Without this love and family structure in the child's early stages in life, you only get a child who chases the love, attention and acceptance of the parents, ultimately resulting in the child mistrusting the parents as well as others around him or her, resulting in the child not trusting anyone in life to give them that initial love and support, accepting anything from people in life. My answer is based on my knowledge of the theory of the great Psychologist Erik Erikson.
A Verywellmind.com speaks of this and states:
The trust versus mistrust stage is the first stage of psychologist Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development. This stage begins at birth and lasts until your child is around 18 months old. According to Erikson, it is the most important period of your child's life, as it shapes their view of the world as well as their overall personality.
Erikson's psychosocial development theory has seven other stages that span throughout a person's lifetime. At each stage, people face conflicts that can result in gaining psychological strength or being left with a weakness.
This first stage of psychosocial development consists of:
Psychosocial Conflict: Trust versus mistrust
Major Question: "Can I trust the people around me?"
Babies are almost entirely dependent on their caregivers. So it should come as no surprise that how parents interact with their babies has a profound effect on both their physical and mental health.
Erikson believed that early patterns of trust help children build a strong base of trust that's crucial for their social and emotional development. If a child successfully develops trust, they will feel safe and secure in the world. You're essentially shaping their personality and determining how they will view the world.
Trust
Believing in caregivers
Trusting that the world is safe
Mistrust
Distrusting caregivers
Fearing the world
Unsure that needs will be met
Children raised by consistently unreliable, unpredictable parents who fail to meet these basic needs eventually develop an overall sense of mistrust.
Mistrust can cause children to become fearful, confused, and anxious, all of which make it difficult to form healthy relationships. This, in turn, can lead to poor social support, isolation & loneliness.
Good evening, I'm James Lesans aka Universal Peace God Allah. I have a serious question for you all.
Was the way that we were raised appropriate or inappropriate if we were raised as babies in homes, by parents:
Where the mother held a career, as the father does and neither was never around accept for when they had days off of work, leaving us to be raised by baby sitters?
Where the mother was unsure of who the father was or was separated from the child's father, unemployed on public assistance, always around but never around because she's always dropping the child with Ms.Johnson, living in a protected reality, protecting herself from the despair of being broke and broken by indulging in drug use, chasing the bag in different men's pockets and partying every weekend, always leaving the child with whomever she can drop the child off with?
My answer is yes, those ways were inappropriate because both the father and mother were absent in the early stages of the child's life. The child needs to be raised by a father who works and provides financial, mental and emotional support to the mother. At the same time, the child needs to also be raised by an at home mother who is adequately receiving the fathers adequate and fare financial, mental and emotional pay disbursements, enabling her to share those things with the child, tesching the child how a father should treat a mother, how a mother should respond to the father and treat that child, enabling the child to see the proper family love and structure. Without this love and family structure in the child's early stages in life, you only get a child who chases the love, attention and acceptance of the parents, ultimately resulting in the child mistrusting the parents as well as others around him or her, resulting in the child not trusting anyone in life to give them that initial love and support, accepting anything from people in life. My answer is based on my knowledge of the theory of the great Psychologist Erik Erikson.
A Verywellmind.com speaks of this and states:
The trust versus mistrust stage is the first stage of psychologist Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development. This stage begins at birth and lasts until your child is around 18 months old. According to Erikson, it is the most important period of your child's life, as it shapes their view of the world as well as their overall personality.
Erikson's psychosocial development theory has seven other stages that span throughout a person's lifetime. At each stage, people face conflicts that can result in gaining psychological strength or being left with a weakness.
This first stage of psychosocial development consists of:
Psychosocial Conflict: Trust versus mistrust
Major Question: "Can I trust the people around me?"
Babies are almost entirely dependent on their caregivers. So it should come as no surprise that how parents interact with their babies has a profound effect on both their physical and mental health.
Erikson believed that early patterns of trust help children build a strong base of trust that's crucial for their social and emotional development. If a child successfully develops trust, they will feel safe and secure in the world. You're essentially shaping their personality and determining how they will view the world.
Trust
Believing in caregivers
Trusting that the world is safe
Mistrust
Distrusting caregivers
Fearing the world
Unsure that needs will be met
Children raised by consistently unreliable, unpredictable parents who fail to meet these basic needs eventually develop an overall sense of mistrust.
Mistrust can cause children to become fearful, confused, and anxious, all of which make it difficult to form healthy relationships. This, in turn, can lead to poor social support, isolation & loneliness.
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