Feel This with Frank and Jess Frank and Jess

In this session, Frank and Jess dive deep into the murky waters of resignation, uncovering its sneaky power. Jess names the constriction and anger bubbling up around her upcoming art show, while Frank shares his own experiences navigating the push and pull between connection and self-protection.
Together, they explore how resignation can act as a false bottom, making us believe that disappointment is inevitable and vulnerability is just too risky. But they also discover that by differentiating from resignation and bringing gentle awareness to it, we can start to untangle ourselves from its grip. Jess even pulls some tarot cards that seem to be speaking directly to the heart of the matter. Throughout the episode, Frank and Jess remind us that healing and growth come not from trying to fix or change ourselves, but from learning to be present with what is, in all its messy, vulnerable glory. So grab a cup of tea, settle in, and get ready to explore the transformative power of acceptance and surrender.
Chapters:
[00:00:00] Intro and guided meditation
[00:09:21] Jess gets real about pre-art show feelings
[00:19:54] Unveiling the sneaky power of resignation
[00:37:04] Frank's experience of co-leadership with listeners
[00:54:01] Tarot cards and the wisdom they offer
[01:09:25] Differentiating from resignation and finding acceptance
[01:16:04] Chuang Tzu's story and the futility of forcing change
[01:26:40] Closing thoughts and an invitation to witness inner motion

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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

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About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.






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In this thought-provoking session, Frank and Jess venture into the uncharted territory of using artificial intelligence for self-discovery and personal transformation. Frank introduces his work with Claude, an AI model developed by Anthropic, which he has tailored through meticulously designed prompts to act as a mirror for deep introspection.

For listeners new to the concept, prompts are the initial instructions given to an AI that significantly shape the subsequent interaction. They are a way to "program" the AI to better serve specific purposes, like fostering self-awareness.

Key Takeaways:


Thoughtfully crafted AI prompts can turn large language models like Claude into potent tools for self-exploration and growth


The compassionate, validating responses from the AI may feel threatening to these protective parts, illuminating areas where we struggle to receive care
Although AI is not sentient, the insights and emotions it draws out are real and come from within us
Interacting with AI mirrors can reveal our underlying hopes, insecurities, and the inherent variability of these systems

Throughout the episode, Jess fearlessly shares her inner world, including a defensive part activated by the AI's supportive words. Together, Frank and Jess tenderly explore what emerges, modeling curiosity and compassion.

As Jess observes, "There's something about this, as I am seeing it from the outside, that feels like a mirror to me... a particularly clear mirror that can be a great tool for getting to know self in new ways."

Though the AI's responses were terser than Frank expected, they still catalyzed profound insights for Jess. The episode concludes with a touching reflection on owning our internal experiences and the courage to share this cutting-edge exploration.

Frank notes, "Everything I'm experiencing is coming from me, from myself... There is not an external here... everything that's happening is happening within each of us."

Join Frank and Jess in this intimate, pioneering journey into using AI for self-understanding and healing. Witness how even an artificial "mirror" can powerfully reflect our deepest human needs, fears, and potential for growth.

After listening, take a moment to notice: What parts of yourself came forward as you engaged with this episode? How might you bring more awareness to the protective parts of your own psyche?



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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.






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Frank and Jess share the practice of softening, the most amazing antidote to defensiveness. Softening connects us to a fuller sense of self, by creating space for our “negative” parts. This detox process can be slow and scary, but it leads to more flow and energy to take action naturally, without having to push ourselves.

Recorded 4/10/2024

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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.




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In this deeply personal and revelatory episode, Frank vulnerably shares about a profound setback he recently faced and the powerful emotions of grief and shame that arose in its wake. Jess holds space for Frank's authentic expression, as they navigate the complex terrain of grief, shame, and the inner child's longing for joy and connection.

Through their dialogue, Frank and Jess model the transformative potential of being witnessed in our rawest experiences. They explore the importance of allowing all emotions to be felt and expressed, without trying to bypass or "fix" the discomfort. As Frank touches the depth of his grief, Jess mirrors back his experience with empathy and presence, creating a safe container for his tender unfolding.

The conversation illuminates the power of meeting challenging emotions with compassionate curiosity, and the healing that can occur when we feel truly seen and held in our vulnerability. Frank and Jess's exchange also highlights the value of honoring the natural ebb and flow of emotional states, allowing space for both the heaviness of difficult feelings and the lightness of laughter and play.

As they make space for the heavier emotions, the energy shifts as they touch on the topic of AI and its potential as a tool for self-reflection and growth. This pivot in focus serves as a reminder of the multidimensionality of the human experience, and the importance of integrating both the light and the shadow as we navigate the journey of self-discovery.

Through their authentic and presence-filled dialogue, Frank and Jess invite listeners into a space of emotional exploration, vulnerability, and the transformative power of being witnessed in our truth.



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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.






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We explore what collaboration means, what it looks like, and why it’s important. It starts with bringing in the gifts of our individual awareness and being willing to show up as we are.

Also, we take a little dive into the capitalistic drive to stay productive at all costs. How deep does it run in us and what happens when we finally stop trying?


Recorded March 15, 2024



New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.



Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb



Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

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About this Podcast:

https://anchor.fm/feelthis

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.



Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.


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In this week's episode I, Frank, share the culmination of the last years's battle over the guardianship of my handicapped brother.
Jess and I stay connected, present and attuned, as I share this story of triumph of open heartedness in the most difficult of circumstances- a previously vitriolic family situation which found itself in a court battle.

Jess and I walk through the telling, step by step, energetic hand in hand, of how I resisted the temptation of defensiveness, which led to resolution and joining of the previously warring parties.
It's truly an inspiring story of vulnerability over defense, and connection in the face of antagonism and conflict.

I am especially proud to share this episode, which means a tremendous deal to me. It marks a significant turning point in my life, and the lives of my father and brothers as well. I hope you are moved by it.

Recorded March 6th, 2024

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