Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox. 

The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:

The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How fast is too fast when dating a new match?

Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.

Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all

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TIMESTAMPS
(00:00:00) Intro
(00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating 
(00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating 
(00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences 
(00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps 
(00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating 
(00:18:36) Design of dating apps 
(00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users 
(00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps 
(00:22:22) Main character energy in dating 
(00:25:57) The practice of dating skills 
(00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging 
(00:29:11) Bragging on a date 
(00:34:22) Brazen Bragging 
(00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences 
(00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why 
(00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating 
(00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation 
(00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please" 
(00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace 
(00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love" 
(00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life 
(00:55:21) Cherishing New Love 
(00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview
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Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.
The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:

Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:
An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?

Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session

Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities 
(00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era 
(00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating
(00:08:45)  Rethinking the approach to dating
(00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates
(00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating 
(00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy 
(00:19:35) Internal GPS System 
(00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors
(00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love 
(00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests 
(00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers 
(00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating 
(00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating
(00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates 
(00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?
(00:35:33)Shifting the conversation 
(00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach
(00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma 
(00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy 
(00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go 
(00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently.

The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News:

Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself?


LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”

Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738

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Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.

The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:

Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most 

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How can I get more messages from my matches?

LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”

Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html
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Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.

The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN: 
Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move! 

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:
My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?

ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application

Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.

Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html
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Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?

Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!

Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode!

HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0


TIMESTAMPS
(00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?
(00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons
(00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama
(00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama
(00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence
(00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation
(00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps
(00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media
(00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption
(00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks
(00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior
(00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics
(00:38:24) Escaping Chaos
(00:39:30) Milestones of Healing
(00:42:41) Processing Trauma
(00:43:42) Belonging and Identity
(00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating

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