DMCB Gabriele Gvozdaite

Welcome back to season 2 of Dreams Money Can't Buy - the comeback season.

This first episode explores how difficult it is to follow your dreams, I started this podcast with somewhat of a naive outlook where following your dreams just seemed like the easiest thing to do but with time life teaches you some lessons.

This year I have learnt how difficult it is to follow your dreams, to commit to those things and no matter the circumstances keep that dream. To follow your dreams it's more than just doing what you love, it's about being courages in the face of failure, rejection, it's about being patient in times where nothing is actively or physically changing, it's about faith keeping and seeing that vision that dream even when you can’t see it, its about making that dream a priority and being able to show up even when motivation and inspiration is lacking. At the start of the year I would have thought following your dreams should be the easiest thing you can do for yourself because its your dream but that’s what makes it the most difficult and I am learning that my dream is a part of me it speaks to who I am as a person and I can’t fail at being myself its not possible.

I have learnt the consequences of not following your dreams but also the challenges that come with following your dreams and the questions I had to ask myself: Am I okay not to see this dream through? Have I done all I can to make this dream come through? Am I comfortable with the results and the outcome, is this the best that I can do, did I leave no stone unturned? You usually find that you are more than capable of rising again and rising above all doubt, disbelief and fear once you get uncomfortable with being comfortable.


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This episodes serves as a reflection opportunity for me.. I simply share some of my thoughts and emotions and also lessons that I am currently learning and some of the key questions I am currently asking myself on my journey the main ones I explore in this episode is - what do I gain from anticipating the worst? and what am I teaching myself from anticipating the worst? 

I explore where this thinking process comes from and what it is linked to - discovering that I taught myself from a very young age to 'expect the worst' and have now since carried it into my adulthood - I challenge this thinking process by first understanding why I find comfort is anticipating the worst and the simple and short answer is to avoid the daunting feelings of disappointment or betrayal or the feelings of being blindsided. Although all natural and normal feelings, anticipating the worst only encourages me to live life in fear which steers me further away from faith and it only encourages me to see the worst not only in myself but in other people and opportunities. While we will and have faced disappointment, betrayal, loss or whatever else it may be - we shouldn't let that become a familiar feeling - or be the defining part of our identities, there is a better story that you should be and can be telling about yourself and while sometimes life can be overwhelming with all the grief, pain and hurt or disappointment don't get so used to that feeling that you can't see your very own blessings in front of you, don't get so comfortable in those feelings that it does become the defining part of your identity. 

We all deserve to feel excited about ourselves and our lives, we all deserve to be celebrated regardless of the outcome, regardless of the results, from a young age we are taught to only celebrate ourselves once we achieve something - but what happens when you go through a season in your life where things are simply being planted and a season of stillness? You still deserve to be celebrated and our worth and value isn't rooted in the results we get. I am learning to always take a moment and just congratulate and celebrate myself and to also acknowledge all the growth that is happening behind the scenes - and I am so grateful to have people around me who help me see the best in myself especially on the days where it is more difficult.






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I think failure and success both have a lot to teach us, but when we do fail and we tried that’s not an invitation to stop trying, failure is an invitation to try again but this time a different way, a new approach, a new mindset, a different outlook, failure can redirect us and you just have to believe in yourself and have confidence in your dreams regardless of the outcome, don’t fixate on results you’ll be misled into believing that either you're not good enough or you’ll get comfortable in believing you’ve achieved all you can, the journey and growth doesn’t stop at failure but it shouldn’t also stop at success. I think sometimes it is easy to limit your growth by focusing on results, we all want certain outcomes and we all want results that reflect our efforts, but if you only value the results you’ll only ever go as far as those results let you. 

I don’t think we give ourselves enough credit for even trying, its nice to see results, its nice to see the work put in becoming something tangible and something to show for but sometimes the results of your efforts will just be growth, strength, something less tangible and its just reminding yourself that winning and success doesn’t always mean having something physical to show for, growing alone in mentality and character is enough.

The greatest asset you can have is who you are, when you meet people, when you face challenges, when life hits you with countless obstacles you can have all the resources in the world but if you don’t know who you are those things become meaningless and useless, that’s not to say you shouldn’t have money, you shouldn’t have assets and all these other resources but gaining all those things and not knowing who you are or losing yourself in the process you’ll always feel like something is missing, gaining material goods won’t make up for the internal voids or for the things you lack in character. Don’t limit or define your growth or who you are by the things you have or alternatively by the things you don’t have, you are more than that, situations, jobs, money, opportunities always change and they are not a solid foundation to establish your identity on.

My value, your value isn’t defined by someone else or how someone else treats you, or whether you succeed or fail. Don’t let external things define you internally, and if you are faced with a moment of failure don’t use that as an excuse to tear yourself down, or to point out every mistake and flaw you see in yourself, we all have things we can and need to work on but justifying failure with because you’re not good enough will only discourage you from trying again, you thought you were good enough to begin with so don’t revert back to thinking you’re not good enough just simply because you failed at something or more precisely you didn't get the results you anticipated. 



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We all go through moments where the world just feels a little bit more heavy than it usually would, and I’m sure there will be so many more of those moments, and I think its about learning how to accept who you are and how you feel in those moments, I think you begin to embrace who you are and your story once you allow it to be expressed, and like I said there’s no quick fix or short cut or formula to healing, you ask 5 people how they got through failure, heart break, disappointment, betrayal, loss they’ll probably all give you 5 different answers my point is that you just have to take some time to understand what it is that you need and be patient in giving yourself those things, out of pain can come purpose and through breakdowns we can breakthrough, things sometimes fall apart not to break you but to give you an opportunity to build something new, and in everything you go through again don’t invalidate how you feel acknowledge and address how you feel and then remind yourself that you can and you will overcome it. 

When we invalidate our own feelings or make them not as important - it plays a role in dimming your own light when you tell yourself your feelings are not validated, or that you’re just being dramatic for feeling however you feel, make room for yourself in your life, make room for your feelings, your thoughts, your ideas, your dreams, make room for who you are, its not always about who you could be, who you could become, don’t neglect the present by chasing your future both are just as important but only one is real right now so be proud of who you are and how far you’ve already come, you don’t have to be perfect to be celebrated.

This episode serves as a reminder rather than an episode filled with solutions or answers, remind yourself today that you can and you will overcome whatever it is that you are going through, yes I’m struggling right now but every time I have fallen I have rose again and found a way, yes I feel weak but I have already overcome so much and come so far, yes I feel hurt but I found healing and peace in God, he has never forsaken me or left me alone what God started in my life he will finish, yes I feel broken but my God restores me. I know its definitely difficult especially when you feel like you’re constantly having to pick yourself up, when you feel like everything around you is falling apart its definitely not easy but we get through it and you don’t have to go through the things by yourself either, remember that life didn’t always feel like this and just know that this is a season and its not about finding your way back that would be trying to live in the past, I think its more about establishing a connection with who you are now and understanding what it is you need from yourself. 

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As a creator myself when I first started my podcast one of my key worries was ‘what if no one listens’ and I guess that in a way translates to what if no one supports me, but one thing I have recently learnt is that you don’t need an audience. I came to this realisation when I was at church and I had this light bulb moment and what I learnt and understood in that moment was that Jesus had a purpose and an important message to deliver but he never once worried about who was listening to him or who believed in him, he was more focused on his purpose and his actual message than worrying about who was listening to him and just understanding that it was almost like a wake up call for me, I think at one point I became so focused on the numbers, on the listeners on the audience more than my message and purpose and its easy to get caught up in all of that, the audience became more important than the purpose and I think when you get to that place it can become so easy to compromise your purpose or message because you become more interested in satisfying your audience and the priority becomes generating those numbers and with that intentions can become blurred because it becomes a question of whether you truly believe in the content your putting out and can truly stand by it or if its just to simply please those listening and I think that’s where a lot of people sometimes find themselves getting lost and their purpose becomes compromised for an audience.

Integrity is so important especially when you're pursuing your dreams and I guess one of the key questions I had to ask myself is what am I willing to compromise to see results? I feel like a lot of us are perhaps naive to that question and would respond with I wouldn’t compromise anything but its not as black and white as it seems, I feel like when your audience is your motivation you can compromise absolutely anything because what becomes more important is meeting their needs rather than fulfilling your purpose.

Instant gratification, instant results, the validation of seeing those numbers rising, the satisfaction of knowing that im physically seeing results is not worth compromising something that I believe in, and that’s what matters nobody has to believe in your dreams and goals but you, you’re accountable for the decisions you make and you can go ahead and please the world but you will lose yourself in it, it doesn’t matter who’s listening, who’s following, who’s supporting you, who believes in you as long as you believe in your message and the purpose of your work things will naturally fall into place, you will never reach your purpose constantly trying to prove something to the next person, go back to that place where it was just you and your dream, back to that place where you found passion in your purpose, back to that place with no distractions, none of this extra stuff that we are constantly chasing and trying to attain, strip your goals and dreams back to its basics and remember the exact moment where you found your why, where you found that thing that makes you feel alive, fulfilled, complete and ignites passion in your life and hold onto that. I promise you, you don’t need an audience to be great, your purpose is not dependent on people, it depends on you but whatever you chose to do just remember you have to answer for the decisions you make not the next person

Discomfort is now but greatness is forever.

Gabriele Gvozdaite - DMCB

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We live in a world that is extremely fast paced and we’re constantly moving and changing and developing and as you get older you have more responsibilities and it can just seem like a lot and our fast paced environments can often influence our expectations of ourselves. 

We often feel this sense of urgency to ‘make it’ - whatever making it means, this sense of urgency to express your greatness, to create this success for yourself and  this urgency to just become and create something greater than you.

Urgency is great and it carries its own perks and can definitely be beneficial, but there is a lot of power in simply slowing down, I say simply but it can genuinely be one of the hardest things to do, to just slow down, reflect, focus and re-align and to just take it in and celebrate.

Slowing down is difficult because we often feel this weird pressure to succeed, and the urgency that a lot of us have is fuelled by comparing ourselves to others, feeling inadequate in our own lives so just simply not feeling like we are currently enough as who we are and with what we have, or I guess this fear that our dreams have an expiration date so this mindset of if I don’t make it now, ill never make it.  I think we all need to take a moment and reflect what this urgency is fuelled by, is this urgency based on fear or is it based on something more productive?

Slowing down is so important it gives you a chance to enjoy clarity and a chance to re-align and a chance to go further. It’s like when people say life isn’t a race it’s a marathon, and in that marathon you don’t want to gas out by going too quickly and at a pace that becomes counterproductive. We have to let go of this narrative that more success, is better success, more achievements is better achievements, more doesn’t mean better, quantity has no relevance to quality, and instead of seeking to be more we have the chance to optimise and improve who we currently are and what we currently have, but when you’re rushing to create the next big thing you miss that opportunity because your mind isn’t focusing on what’s here in front of you right now but its focused on what’s to come. Slowing down gives you the opportunity to orientate yourself towards what is truly important and what actually matters, it allows you to regain control because you’re no longer working based on time but instead based on intentions, it allows you to glance at the bigger picture rather than having this set tunnel vision.

Our goals and dreams shouldn’t feel like a punishment and it shouldn’t be a reminder of everything that you are not but instead we should use those goals and dreams to uplift ourselves and remind ourselves that we are capable and worthy of greatness. Give yourself to breathe and re-align.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens."

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