Make Him Wonder Coach Paula Grooms

After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night with 52-yr-old Sariah, and expressed interest in living together. Despite telling Fred that she required engagement to do so, on their one-yr anniversary, Fred told Sariah that he wasn’t ready for marriage and didn’t want to be engaged.  On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of what Sariah deemed as Fred’s retraction, understand where she needs to place her focus, and learn what she needs to do and say to move Fred toward committed cohabitation.

Upon separating from her husband, 41-yr-old Darlene moved back to her hometown and reconnected with her old beau, 40-yr-old Paul. The two quickly began hooking-up and their friendship is strong. Paul tells Darlene he loves her, so she can’t understand why the relationship can’t be more.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Darlene seeks Paula’s answer on how to get this FWB relationship to feature all she desires.

While on a weekend trip to her old college town, 41-yr-old Elaine met 39-yr-old Leo through a mutual friend.  Feeling like she made missteps landing her in the just-for-fun category, Elaine is anxious about the possibility of Leo ever seeing her as wife/mother material.  On this episode, Paula explains how trying to control the category in her initial interactions rendered Elaine confusing to Leo rather than making wonder, and the decision Elaine needs to make to set things with this potential Mr. Right on the authentic right path.   

Single mom, 37-yr-old Piper, met 36-yr-old Tony online.  Having just quit his job, and recently divorced, Piper questions if Tony is ready, willing, and able to go the distance, especially as a stepfather.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Piper get clarity on whether to clear the way for Tony to come forward or if it’s best to retreat.

44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble.  Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow."  Most concerning to Leisel is that Rob says he likes "aggressive women” who make the first moves and pay for dates 50-50. Feeling anxious about Rob’s interest, Leisel connects with Paula to see if she should gamble on this relationship becoming more equitable, or if she needs to fold ‘em and walk away.

56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her.  Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of Andrew knowing, feeling, and deciding that he “can!”