Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler
Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

  1. How To Let Go of Control When You Really Like Control with Cato

    17 HR AGO

    How To Let Go of Control When You Really Like Control with Cato

    This coaching call is about feeling out of control when being in control is how we have compensated for not getting what we needed as children. Today’s caller, Cato, is pregnant and her lack of control is creating panic. She asks Christine for guidance on how to be okay with the changes in her life and her fear of feeling insignificant.   As children, we need to belong. We need love. And we need to feel safe. So, whatever we need to do and whoever we need to become to get those things, we do. The need for significance comes from not feeling enough as a child, not feeling significant just for who we are. So as an adult, we are constantly looking for people to see us, love us, and tell us how wonderful we are because that need was not fulfilled in childhood. Either we weren’t told we were good or we only were told we were good when we did something “good.”   Something important for people to talk about is that — Yes, having a baby is blissful and magical AND it can be really hard at times. There are times when the hard times are more than the amazing times and that’s okay. It is an identity death like no other and there’s no way around that.   The more we resist it and try to hang on to who we were or to keep that version of us, the more we are going to bump up against resistance. Because when we get pregnant and when we give birth, the old version of us dies and the maiden becomes the mother. We have to find our new identity at the same time that we are learning to care for another human being. It’s a lot.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you like control? Does it make you feel calm and safe? Do you consider yourself a capable, on-top-of-it person but something has completely thrown you off your game? Do you fear not being relevant or not being significant? Do you know how to receive, or do you believe that you must do to receive and be relevant?   Cato’s Question: Cato fears that her pregnancy will make her irrelevant and insignificant. She is asking for guidance on how to be okay with herself and what is happening.   Cato’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is excited about her pregnancy. Her pregnancy is forcing her to slow down. She signed up for Elementum Coaching Institute. Her pregnancy is bringing up depression and feelings of a lack of control. She is experiencing intense emotions and is unsure of herself for the first time. She realizes she has been using control to create safety. She fears slowing down and not being relevant or significant. Her inner child carries sadness and anger toward her father. She is unsure if she is worthy of raising her child. She is embodying receptivity. She feels closer to her womb and her heart. She has always kept busy to distract herself from her feelings. When she slows down, she feels restless. She finds purpose and meaning in her work.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Welcome the new feelings she is having. Listen to this episode when it airs. Embody what it feels like to be in her feminine. Be curious about her restlessness. Savor her pregnancy.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

    37 min
  2. How to Trust Your Choices with Yasmin

    19 FEB

    How to Trust Your Choices with Yasmin

    In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Yasmin, who is struggling with self-doubt when it comes to making life decisions. She questions whether she made the right choice in ending a long-term relationship and in reducing her work hours to pursue her art business. Christine helps her recognize patterns of over-personalization, self-blame, and the need for external validation, guiding her toward self-trust and clarity. This episode isn’t just about relationships or career—it’s about learning to trust yourself and your decisions. Christine provides Yasmin with tangible ways to move forward with confidence, helping her step out of regret and into alignment with her true desires.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often doubt your choices and later regret them? Are you afraid that the things you truly want won’t happen? Do you constantly search for external validation before feeling secure in a decision? Are you stuck between moving forward and holding onto the past? Do you make choices based on what feels familiar rather than what’s truly aligned?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Self-trust is essential—without it, fear and doubt take over, making decisions more difficult. Over-personalizing situations, such as a partner’s actions after a breakup, can create unnecessary emotional weight. When we regret past choices, we often idealize the past and forget why we made those decisions in the first place. Healing and growth require stepping into new territory instead of clinging to familiar patterns. Success in career or relationships comes from embodying confidence, not waiting for external proof.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Identify your inner dialogue and challenge the stories you tell yourself about regret and self-worth. Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based choices by recognizing what aligns with your long-term vision. Take action despite uncertainty—trust that the right opportunities will emerge when you fully commit. Engage in daily practices that reinforce confidence, such as journaling about past decisions and affirming your own wisdom. Stop looking for guarantees—life doesn’t provide them, but trust and discernment can guide you to the best outcome.   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

    32 min
  3. How Do You Know If You're Ready for a Relationship?

    12 FEB

    How Do You Know If You're Ready for a Relationship?

    In this week’s coaching session, Christine Hassler works with Ashlee, who is struggling with a question many people face: how do you know if you’re healed enough to enter a relationship? Ashlee shares her experiences with past relationships, childhood wounds, and codependent tendencies that have shaped her fears about choosing the right partner. This episode isn’t just about dating—it’s about learning to trust yourself and shifting from fear-based decision-making to a place of wisdom and self-awareness. Christine helps Ashlee identify where her fear is coming from, how to recognize patterns, and what it really means to be ready for a relationship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you been in relationships where you felt like you were “dating your wounds” instead of a truly compatible partner? Do you ever question whether you’re healed enough to be in a relationship? Are you struggling to trust yourself when it comes to picking the right partner? Do you find yourself looking for unconditional love in a romantic relationship—something you may not have received in childhood? Are you allowing your inner child to do the picking in relationships rather than your wise, adult self?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Healing is a lifelong process, and relationships will always bring opportunities for growth. It’s important to recognize whether you are attracting a partner from a place of neediness and past wounds or from a place of confidence and self-trust. Codependent tendencies, such as trying to fix or save a partner, often stem from unmet childhood needs. Trusting yourself is essential to creating a healthy relationship—without self-trust, fear takes over. A partner cannot replace or compensate for the unconditional love you may have lacked in childhood—healthy relationships require personal responsibility for healing.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Identify your inner child’s unmet needs and recognize how they might be showing up in your dating patterns. Shift from fear-based decision-making to trust-based dating—stop selecting partners based on what feels familiar (even if it’s unhealthy) and focus on what aligns with your vision of a secure relationship. Heal before seeking healing from others—a healthy relationship can be supportive, but it should not be a substitute for deep personal work. Create clear relationship values—write out what a healthy, mature, and non-codependent relationship looks like. Reframe your relationship expectations—instead of expecting a partner to “fix” or “heal” you, seek someone who supports your journey while maintaining a strong sense of self.   Upcoming Event: Love Magnet Workshop If you’re looking to attract love from a place of wholeness, Christine’s free three-day “Love Magnet Workshop” is happening now. It’s not too late to join. Sign up at christinehassler.com/lovemagnet. Upcoming Retreat: March 2024 Christine and Stefanos will be hosting a transformational retreat at The Art of Living Center. This immersive experience is designed to help you step into your most authentic self. The retreat is open to all genders and relationship statuses. Learn more and register at christinehassler.com/retreat.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

    32 min
  4. How to Make a Decision from Faith and Not Fear with Morgan

    5 FEB

    How to Make a Decision from Faith and Not Fear with Morgan

    In this heartfelt coaching session, Christine Hassler guides Morgan through an emotional crossroads: deciding whether to have another child. While Morgan has always envisioned a big family, fear stemming from a traumatic birth experience, postpartum depression, and complex family dynamics with her stepchildren has left her feeling uncertain. This episode isn’t just about parenthood—it’s about the power of making choices from faith rather than fear. Christine helps Morgan shift from fear-based decision-making to a place of trust and possibility, offering insights that apply to anyone struggling with a big life decision.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you facing a big decision but feel paralyzed by fear? Do past traumas or difficult experiences influence your choices for the future? Are you struggling with control and wanting certainty before making a move? Do you tend to focus on the worst-case scenario instead of what’s truly possible?   Key Insights and A-HAs: Fear-based decision-making limits our ability to embrace possibility and growth. Our past does not have to dictate our future—we can learn from it instead of reliving it. True empowerment comes from trusting that no matter what, we will be okay. The need for control often stems from deeper fears, such as avoiding past pain or protecting loved ones. Building a strong support system can help ease anxiety around major life transitions.   How to Get Over It & On With It: Reframe your decision-making process by focusing on faith and trust rather than fear. Acknowledge that uncertainty is a natural part of life and doesn’t mean disaster. Build a solid support system (mentors, therapists, partners) to help guide you through transitions. Recognize that sometimes the answer is “I don’t know yet,” and that’s okay. Approach decisions from a place of curiosity, possibility, and inner wisdom rather than fear-based projections.   Special Invitation: The Love Magnet Workshop If you’re looking to attract love into your life, join Christine for her free three-day workshop, Love Magnet, happening February 11-13 at 2 PM Pacific. Even if you can’t attend live, you’ll get access to the recording! Sign up at christinehassler.com/lovemagnet.   Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

    31 min

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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