Dad Tired Jerrad Lopes
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- Religion & Spirituality
Dad Tired is a community of men who are taking their faith, family, and marriage very seriously. We are equipping Christian husbands and dads to lead their family well. Past guests include: Gary Chapman, Cody Carnes, John Mark Comer, John Eldredge, Bob Goff, Stephen Curtis Chapman, Risen Motherhood, MercyMe, Tony Dungy, Paul David Tripp, Louie Giglio, Darryl Strawberry, Lecrae, Beneil Dariush, and many more!
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How to Honor Your Parents & In-Laws
Jeremy Pryor discusses the cultural shift in defining fatherhood and motherhood, and the impact it has on families. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the roles of fathers and mothers and the unique contributions they bring to the family. Pryor also explores the idea of ideals and how they provide something to aim for in family life. He addresses the challenges of individual freedom and the need to balance it with the responsibilities of parenthood. The conversation touches on the pain and trauma that can arise from past experiences and the importance of healing and redefining these roles in a healthy way. The conversation explores the topics of gender roles, fatherhood, and the importance of honoring parents. Jerrad Lopes and Jeremy Pryor discuss their experiences and perspectives on these subjects, highlighting the need for a biblical understanding of fatherhood and the impact of erasing traditional gender roles. They emphasize the importance of fathers in the lives of children and the significance of honoring and caring for parents. The conversation also touches on the challenges of navigating relationships with parents and in-laws in today's culture. The conversation explores the importance of honoring and caring for aging parents and the need to redefine family beyond the nuclear unit. It emphasizes the value of intergenerational relationships and the privilege of creating a culture that includes and honors parents and in-laws. The discussion also addresses the challenges of setting boundaries and dealing with toxic family dynamics. Practical suggestions are given, such as creating regular family meals and inviting parents into the rhythms of the household. The conversation encourages grace, discernment, and intentional efforts to build healthy relationships with parents and in-laws.
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Isolation Breeds Shame (with Sam Jolman)
Summary
In this conversation, Jerrad Lopes and Sam Jolman discuss various topics related to men's emotions, anger, and the use of pornography as a coping mechanism. They explore the importance of self-awareness, curiosity, and finding healthy outlets for stress and emotions. They also highlight the need for men to give themselves space to reflect on their behavior and seek healing with the help of others. Shame registers as trauma and can feel like a threat to the body, leading to fight or flight responses. Men often cope with shame by shutting down, disconnecting, and hiding. Overcoming shame requires vulnerability and community support. In Christian culture, there is often a subtle message that sex is bad before marriage and then becomes awesome but not talked about after marriage. Healthy sexuality as a disciple of Jesus involves appreciating beauty, experiencing awe, and worshiping God. Practical steps for shaping the story of young boys include guarding devices and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships. Therapy should lead to repentance and a deeper reliance on Jesus as the healer, rather than becoming self-focused and narcissistic.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:21 The Challenges of Raising Boys
06:48 The Role of Pornography as a Coping Mechanism
13:34 Exploring Deeper Pain Points and Acceptance
27:48 The Power of Confession and Seeking Support
28:30 Understanding the Impact of Shame and Coping Mechanisms
34:56 Navigating Christian Culture's Messages About Sexuality
37:01 Appreciating Beauty, Experiencing Awe, and Worshiping God
44:26 Practical Steps for Shaping a Healthy View of Sexuality in Young Boys
50:06 The Role of Therapy in Repentance and Reliance on Jesus
Key Takeaways:
Boys and girls have different ways of expressing and dealing with emotions, and it's important for parents to understand and guide them accordingly.
Many men struggle with anger, especially after getting married and having children. It's important to find healthy outlets for anger and not just bury or suppress it.
Alcohol and pornography are often used as coping mechanisms to de-stress, but they can have harmful side effects and should not be relied upon for emotional regulation.
Understanding the deeper reasons behind certain behaviors, such as pornography use, can help in finding lasting healing and freedom.
Self-awareness and curiosity are key in exploring one's own story and addressing underlying pain or trauma.
Finding a trusted community or accountability partner can greatly aid in the journey towards healing and overcoming addictive behaviors. Shame can feel like a threat to the body and lead to fight or flight responses.
Men often cope with shame by shutting down, disconnecting, and hiding.
Overcoming shame requires vulnerability and community support.
Healthy sexuality as a disciple of Jesus involves appreciating beauty, experiencing awe, and worshiping God.
Practical steps for shaping the story of young boys include guarding devices and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships.
Therapy should lead to repentance and a deeper reliance on Jesus as the healer, rather than becoming self-focused and narcissistic. -
Who Is Your Master?
Join Pastor Kaleb Allen as he encourages dads to rebel against the life of productivity and instead find our identity and rest as sons of God.
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Colossians Part 4: A Word To Men
Join us in this final episode of our four-part series through the book of Colossians, chapter 3 as we look at what God has to say to men.
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Colossians Part 3: A Wife's Role
This is part three of a four-part series through the book of Colossians, focusing specifically on chapter 3. Join us as the Dad Tired community turns to the scriptures to help shape us as husbands, fathers, and disciples.
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