Empathy with Boundaries Life in Relationship

Listener question: How do I have both empathy and boundaries?
Article on empathy and boundaries at heidigoehmann.com - https://heidigoehmann.com/articles/the-savior-complex-empathy-without-boundaries
 The difference between “hey, hold my emotions” and “withness”
Cognitive empathy:
Do they need us to see their perspective? Listen and ask questions about what they are thinking and how they see the world and their current experience. 
Emotional empathy:
Do they need us to see their feelings? Listen and ask questions that help them name their emotions and give a space to honor them without judgment. 
Boundary #1 – self-differentiation
Boundary #2 – no drama making, honor the degrees of separation
Boundary #3 - know your lens: perspective, bias, and assumptions
Boundary #4 – empathy doesn’t fix people
Boundary #5 – know your bandwidth 
Boundary #6 – be yourself in your kind and compassionate clothing
Boundary #7 – recognize all of our capacity for suffering
 
Mental Health Tool - Gut check practice
Series on empathy at heidigoehmann.com -
https://heidigoehmann.com/articles/igniting-empathy-inside-of-me
https://heidigoehmann.com/articles/how-do-we-talk-with-empathy
https://heidigoehmann.com/articles/bringing-empathy-to-social-media