25 min
Sex and Money: The "When, What, and How" Rules for Having These DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS Dear Young Married Couple
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- Relationships
Sex and Money - two topics of conversation that often get you to shut down or heat up (maybe in more ways than one?).
If you're going to bring up a conversation that you think could cause some more-than-normal tension, trigger unpacked emotions, or even some pain, it's important to let your spouse know that you're going to throw the ball. If you don't give them the heads-up, you might hit them in the back of the head, causing further negative emotion, pain, and tension around the topic next time it gets brought up.
Here are some ways to give your spouse a heads-up:
"Babe, I need to unpack a pretty big conversation box with you that has to with our sex life. I want to make sure we're both in a good mental space for it. Would tomorrow during the kids' nap time be a good time for us to discuss a few needs that we both have about our intimacy?"
"I know we both want to win with money and we each have some ideas to put on the table for how to best do that. Do you think we could both do some research between now and Saturday on retirement investment options and then we could work toward a decision together on Saturday after breakfast?"
"Babe, I have an important need to share with you about our spending. Is now a good time to chat?"
"Hey Babe - when in the next week or so would be a good time for us to have a check-in about how often we have sex? I know today's probably not the best day and I'd like for us both to have time to think about it before we check-in."
P.S. If you call your spouse something other than Babe, that works too. 😆 More about these conversation stems in today's episode.
Here is the link to our upcoming LIVE virtual marriage retreat: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/1/n6075a7
Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:
FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g
SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA
REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh
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Sex and Money - two topics of conversation that often get you to shut down or heat up (maybe in more ways than one?).
If you're going to bring up a conversation that you think could cause some more-than-normal tension, trigger unpacked emotions, or even some pain, it's important to let your spouse know that you're going to throw the ball. If you don't give them the heads-up, you might hit them in the back of the head, causing further negative emotion, pain, and tension around the topic next time it gets brought up.
Here are some ways to give your spouse a heads-up:
"Babe, I need to unpack a pretty big conversation box with you that has to with our sex life. I want to make sure we're both in a good mental space for it. Would tomorrow during the kids' nap time be a good time for us to discuss a few needs that we both have about our intimacy?"
"I know we both want to win with money and we each have some ideas to put on the table for how to best do that. Do you think we could both do some research between now and Saturday on retirement investment options and then we could work toward a decision together on Saturday after breakfast?"
"Babe, I have an important need to share with you about our spending. Is now a good time to chat?"
"Hey Babe - when in the next week or so would be a good time for us to have a check-in about how often we have sex? I know today's probably not the best day and I'd like for us both to have time to think about it before we check-in."
P.S. If you call your spouse something other than Babe, that works too. 😆 More about these conversation stems in today's episode.
Here is the link to our upcoming LIVE virtual marriage retreat: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/1/n6075a7
Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:
FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g
SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA
REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh
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25 min