53 min
020: Vivian: Finally Owning the Desire to Be a Mother and the Joys of Motherhood Motherhood Reimagined Podcast
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Vivian began her path to motherhood with a plan to conceive a child with a close friend. Sadly, she miscarried and a new plan was in order. She chose a sperm donor and moved forward on her journey. We discuss the difficulty of changing “the plan” and what it taught Vivian about herself.
She has also made the decision to have a second child via a sperm donor. She explains why she felt now was the time and her hopes for a larger family. We explore the excitement of finding half-siblings and how it fleshes out the family experience for both the mother and child.
Vivian is very candid about her ideas of motherhood and how it has evolved over time. Specifically, she discusses the shame she felt during her dating years around admitting that she wanted a family. Unfortunately, this shame is very common with career women and Vivian is very honest about her reasons and mental hurdles she had to conquer to ultimately choose the single-mother-by-choice path.
Some highlights of today’s conversation:
Vivian’s romantic notion of marriage and family.
The shame of admitting out loud the desire for a family.
The original baby plan that failed.
How Vivian switched her thinking from a personal agreement with a friend to using a sperm donor.
The factors she considered to select her sperm donor.
Vivian's plan for a second child and where that stands currently.
Connecting with half-sibling families and how it helps everyone involved.
Why Vivian decided to try for a second child.
The pros and cons of raising a toddler.
The irrational fears using a donor brings to the surface and how to combat them.
How Vivian’s view on her donor has changed.
Vivian’s support team and learning to ask for help.
How motherhood has changed Vivian’s approach to life.
Why you need a plan for your child in the event of your death.
Resources
Sign up to be a podcast guest
Motherhood Reimagined Website
Motherhood Reimagined SMC Community
Motherhood Reimagined: When Becoming a Mother Doesn’t Go As Planned: A Memoir by Sarah Kowalski
Sarah’s email
Vivian began her path to motherhood with a plan to conceive a child with a close friend. Sadly, she miscarried and a new plan was in order. She chose a sperm donor and moved forward on her journey. We discuss the difficulty of changing “the plan” and what it taught Vivian about herself.
She has also made the decision to have a second child via a sperm donor. She explains why she felt now was the time and her hopes for a larger family. We explore the excitement of finding half-siblings and how it fleshes out the family experience for both the mother and child.
Vivian is very candid about her ideas of motherhood and how it has evolved over time. Specifically, she discusses the shame she felt during her dating years around admitting that she wanted a family. Unfortunately, this shame is very common with career women and Vivian is very honest about her reasons and mental hurdles she had to conquer to ultimately choose the single-mother-by-choice path.
Some highlights of today’s conversation:
Vivian’s romantic notion of marriage and family.
The shame of admitting out loud the desire for a family.
The original baby plan that failed.
How Vivian switched her thinking from a personal agreement with a friend to using a sperm donor.
The factors she considered to select her sperm donor.
Vivian's plan for a second child and where that stands currently.
Connecting with half-sibling families and how it helps everyone involved.
Why Vivian decided to try for a second child.
The pros and cons of raising a toddler.
The irrational fears using a donor brings to the surface and how to combat them.
How Vivian’s view on her donor has changed.
Vivian’s support team and learning to ask for help.
How motherhood has changed Vivian’s approach to life.
Why you need a plan for your child in the event of your death.
Resources
Sign up to be a podcast guest
Motherhood Reimagined Website
Motherhood Reimagined SMC Community
Motherhood Reimagined: When Becoming a Mother Doesn’t Go As Planned: A Memoir by Sarah Kowalski
Sarah’s email
53 min