You are going to cherish these words of wisdom, self-love and profound insight from author/psychotherapist/interfaith minister, Nancy Colier, as we discuss her enlightening new book, The Emotionally Exhausted Woman. She discusses what society tells us is the "perfect" and, of course, "imperfect" woman, and she describes the "likability cage" that traps so many of us. Among other topics she beautifully outlines how the caregivers we had as children impacted how we feel about our own needs as adults. And finally (and perhaps most importantly) she gives us tools that go far beyond typical "self-care" solutions to help us heal ourselves ... for example, we need to stop the "shoulds" and live more in "want", own our truths, and accept and love the "whole catastrophe of ourselves" to name a few concepts! Enjoy this gift - you will be better for it!
1:45 What is society's view of the "perfect woman"?
6:20 What are we told not to be?
17:00 When do girls/women start trying to be likable?
21:30 What does Nancy think women need to do to heal themselves?
25:40 Impact of our childhood caretakers on our needs as adults.
34:45 Core beliefs explained, we have to "earn" having our needs met, we are "to blame" for our needs
46:17 Self-care industry and farming out our wellness
54:20 Stopping the "shoulds" and living by want
1:03:50 What is real self-care?
1:08:45 Loving the whole catastrophe of ourselves
1:10:40 The wild gazelle
Nancy Colier's bio:
A longtime student of Eastern spirituality, Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, and the author of “The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You’re Feeling Depleted and How to Get What You Need” (New Harbinger, 2022), as well as numerous other books. She is a thought leader and national speaker on women’s empowerment, wellbeing, and mindful technology, and has been featured on Good Morning America, The New York Times, and countless other media. She is also a regular blogger for Psychology Today. In addition, Nancy spent 25 years as a nationally top-ranked equestrian and serves as a performance consultant to professional athletes and artists.
Information
- Show
- FrequencyUpdated Daily
- PublishedFebruary 27, 2023 at 9:02 PM UTC
- Length1h 13m
- Season1
- Episode10
- RatingClean